Thread 40800646

when i have sex with my gf (trans) she never cums and just ends it when i cum
sometimes afterwards i offer her a handjob so she can cum but she says no because dysphroia.
she says it's ok and that she just likes sex in general and still likes doing it even of she doesn't cum, but is it really ok? i feel so guilty, like i'm a bad boyfriend.

>>40800646 (OP)
dawg just listen to your gf why would she lie to you? what makes you think 4CHAN knows better?

>>40800646 (OP)
you need to get good at sex

are you a man or not? don't ask, don't offer, just do. every piece of her is your property until you're done. her body, your choice. that includes if you want her to cum.

>>40800822
i'm just a cis man

Get on Cialis

>>40800924
my dick works just fine thank you

>>40800646 (OP)
I'm not a tranny but when I bottom I get internal orgasms. I don't want any dick stimulation because it distracts from that. Just because I don't ejaculate doesn't mean I'm not satisfied.

>>40800646 (OP)
Trans women typically have sexual dysfunction and difficulty orgasming due to estrogen. E is poison to an AMAB. Don’t blame yourself, it’s her own fault for taking that crap

Trans women are delusional self loathing gay men who think not cumming during gay sex makes them women.

>>40800960
That's really the magic trick to making it all work.

>>40801023
Its just orgasm denial!

>>40800947
i'm jealous

>>40801040
NGL it's amazing. Way better than cumming from my dick.

Not coming during sex is peak fembrained though.

>>40801046
i wish i had the genetics to be able to do that :(

>>40801064
I was never able to do it with toys or with dicks less than 6". But mid-to-large dicks it's easy if I just ride them cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, I'll have an internal orgasm within five mins and then the guy can just do whatever he wants to me.

>>40801072
why does the dick being less than 6" matter, isn't the prostate like 2 inches in?

>>40801083
It's not just the prostate. Getting filled deeper and stretched more gives a lot more stimulation and tingles.

>>40800646 (OP)
i do this too a lot..
cum obviously doesn't mean like white stuff squirts out it means orgasming. if that's a misconception go ahead and fix it. and i'm post op so maybe this is like a little different but..
i've definitely ended sex because he came and it seemed to be over. i do enjoy the intimacy and all but that doesn't mean i orgasm. idk girl on top or pussy eating or nipple play or vibrators might help some.
girls should have multiple orgasms before the boy does because he usually wants to stop immediately since their bodies are too weak to have multiples.

>>40801159
can you cum multiple times?
i hope she will be able to do this once she gets the surgery.

>>40801161
yes
can she do it now alone when masturbating?

>>40801203
i haven't asked
but i don't think she masturbates at all

>>40801222
i understand the dysphoria thing but this isn't a good sign
i always tucked and then used a wand over my panties.. and focused on my boobs omg

>>40800646 (OP)
Like 40% of transgirls can't cum or orgasm whilst bottoming

>>40800915
i can physically feel the exasperation coming off of these 5 words

>>40801316
Wow almost like denying certain men the enjoyment of orgasm is the point of the whole cult…

>>40801420
retard

>>40801481
cultist

>>40801569
you already said that one

>>40801393
i'm not exasperated, it's just that i'm no more than a cis male and i don't have a vast understanding of trans women and trans sexuality

>>40800646 (OP)
she loves you anon, she wants you to enjoy sex
don't think about it any further just be grateful

>>40800646 (OP)
cumming just from anal is pretty difficult most people can't do it
she probably just can't

>>40802246
Both partners should orgasm.

>>40800646 (OP)
You have to push past the bottom dysphoria meme and hold her down and suck her to completion.

suck her gock

>>40802874
this is a very cis-centric and able-bodied centric view of sex. it doesn't account for the fact that some people simply can't cum, or can't do it without extreme difficulty, and it promotes a view of sex based largely on the experiences of cisgender heterosexual able-bodied people.

>>40802892
>>40802888
>>40800822
chasers say shit like this and then wonder why we avoid them

>>40800947
>i'm not a tranny
this part is important because Estrogen atrophies the prostate and decreases sexual sensitivity overall
which is why gay bottoms usually have no trouble with this but you see girls complaining about it on here all the time

>>40800646 (OP)
bump

get her a magic wand

>>40803580
if she doesn't want a handjob she won't like that

>>40803017
cuz ur homophobic

>>40803872
what kind of bait is this? i genuinely have no idea what you mean

>>40802995
>actually wanting your partner to cum is transphobic
>>40803580
this is likely the solution hold it on her clit while you fuck her

>>40800646 (OP)
It's sweet of you to want to make sure she's enjoying herself, but also please just listen to her, she's not lying about enjoying herself anyway.

>>40804120
wanting your partner to cum is not transphobic. but treating sex where one or both people don't cum as less good or as a bad thing is cis-centric. and trying to force someone who just can't orgasm to do it is a bad thing. people who struggle to orgasm should have partners who accept that and don't stubbornly try to make them do something they can't do.

>>40801159
nah you just ruin the orgasms. im fucking 37 and i was able to cum 10 times. if i knew about ruining i would have came 100 times at 18.

>>40804190
what do you mean "ruining"

>>40804173
people who struggle to orgasm should have partners who study the best way to make them orgasm
>>40804190
like in one encounter?

>>40804226
>she doesn't know
you're about to learn today

>>40804287
>people who struggle to orgasm should have partners who study the best way to make them orgasm
this is a cis-centric mindset. the idea that everyone can, and that it's just a matter of "finding a way" or "fixing them" is based on cis people. because for cis people this is normally true. but some people, especially trans people, just can't. i'm one of them.

i had a few boyfriends who were obsessed with trying to make me cum and i hated it, they would spend hours just probing my ass trying to make it do something and it never did, it was so humiliating and awful. i now have an accepting partner who just listens to me when i say that i can't and doesn't insist on "trying new things" and it's way better. i can make him feel good without having to stress about making myself cum to make him happy.

i know this is probably hard to understand if you are a cis person, because this issue is much rarer in cis people, especially cis men. i understand that you probably think this is the most empathetic approach to sex, but in my opinion that is because your view of sex is limited to the cis experience.

>>40804387
?????????

>>40804449
when you're about to cum, you stop touching and let yourself go over the edge without tensing your muscles. this lets you finish without losing your sex drive if you do it right and you can build up and go again after a minute or two. it's fun, would recommend.

>>40804433
you should get the operation
vaginal sex feels a lot better than anal
>>40804468
how do i do this to a guy while i'm riding his cock?

>>40804494
as far as i can tell the general consensus online is that if you don't like penetration before srs you won't like it after. the prostate is a key component in srs sex so if yours doesn't work before it won't work after. additionally most SRS uses penis tissue as the sensitive tissue for the vag and my penis is almost as numb as my butt.

also i just can't afford it. but maybe one day.

>>40800646 (OP)
Yes a lot trans women have terrible sex lives. The testosterone they suppress or dont have causes massive libido loss and at the same time the prostrate shrinks from it so harder for them to enjoy anal. Really they should all get srs.

>>40800947
Do u tho or are u calling that an orgasm >>40801072
Also true u need thick snd long op dont make yer gf fuck yer tiny dick break up with her

>>40804568
penis becomes clit
you can't feel the inside of your vagina only the pressure from having a cock inside
idk i never could feel a prostate but orgasm easily from sex

>>40804575
srs is not a cure-all for anorgasmia.

>>40804589
sounds like you went to a wack ass surgeon

>>40804612
weird how you claim to be an expert in this while i have a pussy and you don't

>>40804618
srsussy is not all made equal
some are different
i'm just going off of what i hear

>>40804968
and i'm going off of my pussy

>>40804999
ok and as i said it sounds like you went to a wack surgeon
for example dr. bank puts penis tissue inside the vag so that it is sensitive

>>40804589
most women don't cum just from vaginal penetration
the clitoris is equivalent to the penis and yeah there's weirdos who can cum from anal or vaginal only stimulation but most people cum much more readily from direct penis or clit stimulation

>>40805066
it doesn't work like that though
vagina tissue isn't supposed to be sensitive in that way and i'm not convinced it ever really is even if it was a penis at some point

>>40805076
believe it or not as someone with a vagina i'm well aware of the trade offs here

>>40805091
I dunno I've had people vigorously insist that the "g spot" is in the vagina and other dumb bullshit - most people outright deny that penis = clit

>>40805161
i mean obviously my clit is really important but i also like vaginal sex. i'm probably going to rub my clit during it though or try to angle it right
i'm pretty sure all women do this

>>40805188
>>40805161
clearly you've never heard of the second clitoris

>>40806352
where i want to touch it

>>40800646 (OP)
well, you could say shes just like most cis women because most of them dont cum from penetration alone either. but you should still probably respect if she doesnt want a handjob or anything

>>40806468
no ignore her

Meanwhile I cum in my partner's mouth every time and have it all licked off and clean.
But it's all clear cuz orchi.

>>40800646 (OP)
If she says she's okay with it, can you maybe fucking trust another person for once in your life and accept that maybe she's okay with it?

>>40800646 (OP)
finishing is always hard for me, so i usually just go until my partner cums, it’s a good stopping point bc of the cleanup. I enjoy the whole experience, not just the end

>>40808046
literally everyone itt is saying this it's kinda sad

>>40800646 (OP)
After awhile on hrt depending what AA you might not even cum at all after orgasm, I have same issue not like I didn’t love it.

>>40808492
I don't cum anymore, but if im aroused theres way more precum than before

>>40808716
but you're still having orgasms right?

>>40804587
>Do u tho or are u calling that an orgasm
Sometimes I actually ejaculate hands free riding cowgirl too but the internal orgasm is more intense than anything. It leaves me shaking and shivering and empty-headed with all white vision.

>>40800646 (OP)
its okay, and thats normal.
trans people can go a long time without ever having the need to orgasm despite all the sexual things that happen to them.

>>40800646 (OP)
You should finger her butt and tease her nipples before you fuck her, and just do that until she is whimpering. Also kiss and maybe bite her too at the same time

>>40809994
wtf does this mean

>>40809994
yeah so transgenderism is an orgasm denial castration cult

>>40811389
based schizo

>>40811389
schizo

>>40800646 (OP)
bump

>>40800822
Confirmed
Trannies aren't people, they're sex toys
Good, heterosexual men must plant their lips on gock and succ the devil outta his troon

>>40811841
Trannies are homophobic homosexuals.

>>40811841
how repulsive

>>40813453
truly

>>40811841
based

>>40800646 (OP)
bump

>>40800646 (OP)
your gf deserves better

>>40800646 (OP)
Sometimes it really is enough. Feeling my bf cum down my throat is near-orgasmic for me. I don’t cum but the satisfaction/bonding chemicals are nearly on the same level. Also if you can fuck hard/skilled enough then you should be able to make her cum anally. Figure out how she likes it. Some want you to really take forceful control, others want something more complex

>>40817648
brown

>>40818022
Lol

>>40800646 (OP)
>caring about getting another man off
fag
just use him as the fleshlight that he is and get a new one once he's old and busted

>>40817648
trannies deserve nothing

>>40817648
you deserve exactly what you get in life

>>40818673
true....

>>40800646 (OP)
Is it actually possible to be this fucking braindead?
OP, mtf trannies who go through with hormone therapy have no testosterone to speak of meaning they have no libidos to speak of.
Sex and orgasming isn't important to people with no libido or low test. The most important part to people like that are being submissive enough to make their partner (you) have an orgasm and then move on to something else once you're satisfied.
They will pretend for your benefit or even lie to you and it literally doesn't matter what so ever to them if they have an orgasm (if they are even capable of having an orgasm at that low of testosterone levels)
Learn 2 biology.

>>40800646 (OP)
>offer her a handjob
Offer her foreplay instead. Eating, licking, fondling. Tender foreplay. Make her feel special. She'll melt into you.

my gf who straps me has expressed insecurity about this as well and i told her that personally, i think the sheer pleasure of my g spot being pounded and my ass wrapped around her toy is just as fulfilling if not more than finishing. it is about the journey, not the finish line anon

>>40819934
that's mean

>>40819934
eunuchs can still have sex

>>40819934
this is ignorant and stupid
are you implying that women don't like sex?