Thread 41529353

/Bigen/ - bisexual general : spooky fucking shit edition

>QotT #1: What are you doing this halloween ?
>QotT #2: What will you be doing next year.... if your plans fizzled out this year, it's time to start making sure they work out next year !
>optional QotT: share your spookiest crush

Previous Thread(s): >>41511781

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FAQ:
>Am I bi if I like women and femboys/traps?
>Am I bi if there's this one member of the same-sex I'm desiring, but normally I like the opposite sex?
>Am I bi if I sexually like both sexes, but only interested in romance with one of them?
Yes, sexual attraction to both sexes is bisexuality.
>Do you love me, OP?
You are not a burden, you are worthy of love, and you are loved RIGHT NOW. AS I TYPE THIS YOU ARE
>What's the difference between bisexual and pansexual?
Only difference is that our flag is prettier.
>Am I bi if i have periods where I feel only attracted to women and others where I feel only attracted to men?
This is known as the bi-cycle and many bisexuals experience it.
>Am I bi or am I 'prison gay' or porn addicted?
'Prison gay' is not a real thing and porn addiction does not alter your sexual orientation. You are bi.
>Am I bi or pan if I like trans people?
Both are able to be attracted to trans people.
>I think I might be bi but I can't tell. How can I be certain?
Just make a point to check out members of the sex you think you might be attracted to and see if anyone grabs your attention.
>Should I be harsh on myself?
You should be kind on yourself. Few people will do it for you

Resource for Bisexuals:
https://biresource.org/

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

And we have the two winners!:

>Addams Family Values (1993)
>parasite

So see ya later at 23 GMT!

Do you have sex on the first date?

>>41529434
That sounds terribly unsafe for a whole bunch of reasons

>married, but have a little innocent crush on my wife's twink friend
>he's a bit of an airhead and forgot to submit some tax stuff
>make a comment about how he needs a responsible boyfriend to make sure he doesn't forget stuff
>wife says "So someone like you?"

oh god, she knows doesn't she

>>41529353 (OP)
>>QotT #1: What are you doing this halloween ?
Nothing! It's not really a thing where I live, despite some people trying to make it a thing.
>>QotT #2: What will you be doing next year.... if your plans fizzled out this year, it's time to start making sure they work out next year !
The plan is to start doing bouldering in January. I wanna do some sport where I can socialize a bit. In some ways I wanted to do martial arts more than bouldering, but the brain damage isn't worth it, especially when my career is highly dependent on having sharp wits lmao

>>41530006
Probably. How do you think she’s gonna take it if you came out to her?

>>41529660
Do you ever leave the house?

>>41529353 (OP)
>>QotT #1: What are you doing this halloween ?
Uhhh playing vidya and coding
>>QotT #2: What will you be doing next year.... if your plans fizzled out this year, it's time to start making sure they work out next year !
Surely next year I'll have the money to go out and be a degenerate

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that in 2 hours Movie Night is gonna start! Here is tonight's selection:

>Addams Family Values (1993)
>parasite

>what the hell is "movie night"
Its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>where do we watch the movies?
On the official Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/twq8FzsJ

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

1h30 more like, I was late once again

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

Good evening !
Its finally time to start another Movie Night! Tonight selection is:

>Addams Family Values (1993)
>parasite

Here is the link of the stream, don't be shy and come join us! the film will start at 22:10 GMT

>https://discord.gg/twq8FzsJ

>what the hell is "movie night"
its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

goddamit, 23:10 GMT need to adjust everything for the goddamn hour change

>>41529353 (OP)
I thought I was feeling better after getting broken up with, but the sadness snuck back up on me. I just got done repeating the crying-on-the-floor-holding-a-pillow routine and now I'm moping around the house on Halloween.
The relationship didn't even get serious, it was just my first one and I fell for him really hard really quickly.

TRANNY GOCK
IN MY MOUTH
HAUNTED TRANS PENIS
IN MY MOUTH
YUM YUM YUM

HAPPY HALLOWEEEENER

>Lesbians when they tell you that being attracted to femboys is actually just comphet because you're "attracted to femininity"
I should start calling butch-loving dykes straightoid cocksuckers using the same logic

>>41529434
Yes

>QotT #1: What are you doing this halloween ?
I went to my best friend’s house. We used to be SFX artists. We did our faces all spooky, real creepy! She went all out on her house, I mean spiderwebs everywhere, little props, animatronics. I helped her set up everything and then we just sat there, handing out candy, scaring the neighborhood kids.
>QotT #2: What will you be doing next year.
Taking my GF to Portland to see strippers. Boo-bies.
>optional QotT: share your spookiest crush.
Is this a monster fucker thing?

>>41534127
It’s ok. Be sad. Cry it out. Then never think about that loser again.

>>41529353 (OP)
>QotT #1: What are you doing this halloween ?
Its not a big thing where I live, so dinner and movie and then some vidya with a buddy.

>QotT #2: What will you be doing next year
Probably something spooky for the wife to scratch her horror and serial killer itch.

>>41536378
>Then never think about that loser again.
That's uh, not likely

>>41534127
>I fell for him really hard
That’s not only a bad thing, you know.

>>41536899
I mean, in this instance it is.

I feel like shit again. This is getting ridiculous.

>>41534127
iktf, not much else to do but pick yourself up and move on or you'll be left saddened for eternity. The truth is they're just not around anymore and you could be having fun right now, without them. Get to love again for someone that's better for you, that'll be there, even if just yourself for yourself

>>41536372
>Is this a monster fucker thing?
idk, is it ? I actually meant for real life spooky people but that would be fine too
>I went to my best friend’s house. We used to be SFX artists. We did our faces all spooky, real creepy! She went all out on her house, I mean spiderwebs everywhere, little props, animatronics. I helped her set up everything and then we just sat there, handing out candy, scaring the neighborhood kids.
Ideal halloween really, congrats anon, have fun in portland witnessing the bounces

>>41536813
>Its not a big thing where I live, so dinner and movie and then some vidya with a buddy.
same, just ended up streaming the movies and not one kid showed up


>>41530016
>bouldering
That sounds awfully cool, provided you can buy the gear and the travels.
Bouldering pilgrimage to fontainebleau my beloved...

There’s this coffee place next to the office where I go once a week for over a year now. Always order the same, always get served by the same barista. Mid- to late 20s, slim built, a bit short, dark hair. Only male barista in basically a hen house. He’s a bit arrogant and has this whole „I don’t actually _have_ to work here“ attitude, so I usually don’t pay much attention to him. But I think he noticed that I was checking him out once or twice a while back, cause he started to smile at me. Didn’t think much of it though, cause he isn’t my type. Fast forward to last week and I can‘t stop thinking about railing him behind the counter after his shift ends.

/bigen/ more like /deadgen/

>>41529434
Sometimes, if the feeling is right. Also met people for ONSs.

With my now-gf we didn't have sex until maybe the fourth date, which was unusual for me.

>>41537916
>That sounds awfully cool, provided you can buy the gear and the travels.
I think you are confusing it with rock climbing. Bouldering doesn't use equipment (aside from shoes and chalk for your hands) - you climb on walls in bouldering gyms and just drop down on a mat when you fall or jump off.

>>41537916
that pic would be so H.R. Giger approved lol

>>41538755
I got it I'm just that poor that I saw a climbing sport and assumed it was out of my wallet capacity

>>41540274
Indeed it would. Maybe a bit too wholesome

>>41538545
cute

>>41541278
>I got it I'm just that poor that I saw a climbing sport and assumed it was out of my wallet capacity
It costs about the same here as a gym membership, but I don't know if that's the norm or not. Obviously if you go for actual climbing with ropes and pulleys and shit it costs more though

>>41529353 (OP)
My fellow Bi-Chads, I need your wisdom and advice desperately. .

I am currently 26 and had to move in back to my parent place recently, because I was cast out of my apartment by my rich Parisian tomboy GF. I have been unemployed for six months and she was mad that I could not get a job. I spent most of my days doomscrolling and then sending 1-2 applications a day. I suffer from chronic pain and I am so drained after my master and getting rejected form 40+ jobs. I am usually really functional, but now i am slightly dysfunctional period. She is from a rich bougie Parisian family so I understand that she is disappointed because of high expectations and class difference, but at the same time she was unemployed herself for over a year. I don't understand why she cant sympathies with my situation. We now have a 30 day brake. Even though we have never really argued and have a otherwise perfect relationship, it came so abrupt that she threw me out in a extreme rage. I love her, she is beautiful and I have spent the last two summers partying with her in Paris or in her fathers castle in the country side. However, I also bi and only got to fuck one guy (an assyrian twink) before meeting her. I once traveled to Berlin and accidentality did Acid in kitkat while seeing a rave orgy taking place.. I was to scared to partake. But it was magical.

I am unsure If I should try to get my women back even though she kinda betrayed me in a vulnerable situation, or if I should just embrace the bi-life with sex parties and drugs.

Saw a production of Rocky Horror last night. Friend canceled so I went alone. The person in the shadow cast was insanely gorgeous, haven’t been able to stop thinking about her. Despite everything, I had fun.

>>41542315
Never go back to a relationship that didn't work out. Move on and live your life, instead of getting stuck in something that's not meant to be.

I really like twinks but I'm a short androgynous guy with a sensitive personality so tall hypermasc dominant protective guys are who like me a lot which is attractive too but totally not what I want in a relationship cus I don't wanna "be the girl". I 100% like tops and more aloof and masculine personalities but a twink/adjacent type who's like that is way harder to find than one who's a bottom or a femboy or cutesy which is even less my type... Its over for me, I'm too picky to the point I relate to 'aroace' people

>>41542315
>live in trophy husband
>hedonism
You’re kinda pathetic. Build something of yourself. You have more options here then that.

>>41543248
I saw femboys getting together in the femboy server I was apart of (tokin tomboy of the group.) I also think a lot of T4T in “lesbian” spaces is just fem gay men that like other fems so maybe look there.

>>41543248
I'm a manlet masc guy who likes twinks and femboys. I'm not submissive by nature and cringe at being "the girl" in a relationship just because I'm short. I own my house and make a lot of money and I conceal carry. But I don't really bother dating because I assume everyone is into tallfags and a manlet masc guy like me is cringe. I'd rather kill myself than be feminine so I don't want to go down that route, plus I'm older now anyways

i started talking to this cute trans girl, i really like her and i havent been able to take my mind off her. we had one date, and i really want to see her again. shes just super avoidant when we text. she passes well but the most womanly thing about her is the unavailability, seems to be normal though for her. even her friends say the same thing, so i guess i shouldnt feel so bad, but man do i feel rejected so much cause of it

>>41544532
Im not a femboy or into people who call themselves that, twink4twink is more what I'm getting at
>>41544930
Noo don't worry there's people out there for you, for me at least men that aren't tall and by extension annoying about it are great especially non submissive ones/masc ones

>>41545628
It's hard for me to see it. I'm in this group and there's this guy that's an asshole and a bit manipulative, but he's 6'6 so guys and girls gush over him and he sleeps with lots of people. It's unfair but that's just how life is I guess

>>41545870
>asshole
>manipulative
>6ft+
Many such cases sadly, sorry to hear that anon. I blanket avoid people who have an obvious ego about their height or anything else physical

>>41529353 (OP)
Why are we the most hated out of the LGBTs? We get hate from the LGT and the hets..

>>41546896
Everyone views us as traitors because all options are (theoretically) available to us

>>41546896
Its flag envy. tbf though, we do have the best flag.

>>41529353 (OP)
Bros have anyone here tried dating both genders?
I've dated two girls before and am in a relationship with a guy now. Maybe I got unlucky before but dating a guy feels 100x better. He actually cares, he has a lot of the same interests and hobbies, he doesn't get jealous/upset about nothing.
Except for piv sex and having children, I don't really see the benefit of dating a girl.

>>41548948
I have come to find that the answer is trans guys. Ones who actually give a shit and try, not women with short hair who will never go on T.
I have unintentionally become ftmsexual.

>>41548948
women age better and aren't as neurotic

>>41548948
you've just not found the right woman. positive behaviours like that are absolutely found within women too

>>41549035
Probably, it just feels pretty rare to see women with the same interests and that grew up in a similar way as me. While I've talked to lots of guys like that.
My previous gf had similar interests but they were all pretty surface level. So it felt like dating a normal friend/acquaintance while my current bf feels like dating my best friend, if that makes sense

You know what’s crazy? I love GILFS, I love fat bitches, but I’ve never really been into fat GILFS. Weird.

>>41550379
Sometimes things don't fit together.

>>41543248
im a twunk, is that the kinda person ur describing? i always worry that bottoms dont like my more sensitive side.

I recently heard that bi people were thinking about BOOBs
I dare not assure myself of the reality of it

>>41550379
she is HOT

>>41548948
if you're into sexual dimorphism it's easier to get along in bed with a member from the opposite of gender spectrum
that aside, it has not been my experience that girls don't care, on the contrary.

I got a boyfriend recently and I have almost lost my ability to enjoy porn. Ive never been so insecure though and constantly have to fight my insecurities. Part of me just wants to give up and just be alone but I reassure myself that you want a relationship and you do like him because I always doubted myself. However now I just cant get out of my head that he deserves someone better I just cant get this thought out of my head and it makes me almost catatonic. I just shutdown do my basic functions eat gym sleep. We are both looking for jobs right now (both in tech yeah ik) and we go on dates on trails mostly and watch movies at his place but not being able to provide or make money is destroying my self worth. I just have to keep pushing and fighting these negative thoughts but I cant even bring myself to draw or do creative things that used to bring me joy. Whenever I think about doing something creative I just tell myself "if you were really talented or really cared about this you would have done something great by now." I feel like I am just waiting to die, Im in an objectively good situation I live with my parents dont pay rent etc help around with house stuff since theyre getting older in age. I am the only sibling left in the house and I dont know what I did wrong I went to school, talked to people, Im attractive but I just feel broken. If my boyfriend broke up with me I wouldnt even fight it but hes made me so happy in these recent months. I dont know whats going on nothing distracts anymore.

>>41550670
Twunks are great!! I like when someone is sensitive and open even if they're a top or masc, I don't think you have to be emotionally constipated to be either of those things like some dudes think
>>41547999
We genuinely do, I don't call myself bi instead of pan for nothin
>>41548970
Based... glad to see love for trans men <3
>>41551962
): I'm very sorry anon, I'm glad you have a nice supportive boyfriend and I hope that helps stuff. I hope you're mental situation gets better, definitely being too hard on yourself and I promise your bf must like you for a great reason or he wouldn't be here

>>41551962
noo you should definitely stay with him. things will get better i promise <3

>>41551962
Don't stabotage your relationship for no reason! I know that's easier said than done, but still. Also, for what it's worth, when I was unemployed for a while (due to covid shit), my mental health was down the shitter too. Having a stable job that helps you provide is unironically one of the most important things in life. Hold out for better times man.

>>41529353 (OP)
Hey bi-gen, wanna ask for some advice about internalized homophobia, and want your opinion. But first

>QotT #1: What are you doing this halloween ?
Well I went to a bar and got a girls number : )
>QotT #2: What will you be doing next year.... if your plans fizzled out this year, it's time to start making sure they work out next year !
I'll be living in a different part of the country so idk. But hopefully something similar.

I think I don't identify with being bisexual and consider myself hetero-romantic. I don't feel comfortable in a lot of LGBT spaces, and when I think of LGBT issues I still think of them as external to me. I think this is because in a homophobic society I could easily pass happily as hetero-normative. I kinda feel like my homosexuality feels more like a fetish more than anything. Like a straight guy who likes fem dudes / young dudes. This might reek of interalized homophobia but thought I'd let it out. Wanted y'alls take.

>>41553364
>This might reek of interalized homophobia but thought I'd let it out. Wanted y'alls take
It does reek of that for me as the one who's always the fem/young dude to guys like you, as the person on the other side it absolutely does feel like just being a fetish to a guy and I don't straight passing or down low guys will ever understand me because I'm out and look like a fag no matter what I do and they don't sympathize with problems that come with being treated as LGBT because they get to skip all the hard parts. I don't mean this in an angry way, but its just my honest opinion from dealing with tons of guys like this. You can live your life however you want, but be considerate of others

>>41553411
>You can live your life however you want, but be considerate of others.
I try to be considerate with other people's feelings. Like, this one guy who wasn't quite a twink asked me to be his bear bf and I kept declining. I didn't want to fuck him on a false pretense of a relationship, I was very forward with my desire of just casual stuff.

Do you think I should "accept" my gayness? What would that even look like? What do you think men like me should do to be better people?

>>41553440
You should have whatever lifestyle is most comfortable and natural for you, being out isn't always the safest and best option for everyone for many reasons and no one should force it on you. Its just that people like you and people who are out and want more serious or committed relationships just won't be compatible, and as long as you stay upfront about that or don't try to swindle anyone into something they didn't want you're not doing something wrong. My bad experiences is from guys wanting all the benefits of sex and romance with a guy with none of the downsides of being a gay or lgbt couple or person and being thrown under the bus about it. You're doing perfectly fine by being honest

>>41553512
I can understand that, someone who wants to stay closeted about your love due to societal / personal homophobia is definitely an issue I can see having. I dated a guy once, and during that time I did kinda feel sad I couldn't be a woman anymore. I didn't feel the opposite way when with a woman.

It seems like people take being in a closet a bad thing, and I guess it is from like a macro standpoint. However, from what your telling me being closeted seems to be my best option. However, my intuition says otherwise.

Honestly I feel like I get expectations thrown at me for it. I told a friend I was bi in highschool, and his GF treated me like fashionista when I dressed like an unwashed chud lmao. Asking me about her hair I knew nothing about. I don't wanna be pegged as a womans "gay friend". Maybe thats the internalized homophobia talking too.

Also I feel more comforable around non-homophobic straight people then LGBT. Not because I am bigoted towards the LGBT people, but because I can tell I'm not like them. I don't mean that in a bad way, I just feel like an outsider from them. IDK maybe its me.

Honestly me being bi kinda feels like an american have dual citizenship in another country you've barely visited. Like technically yes, you may be a British citizen as well, but you barely been there so you have no connection that country. You hare British by technicality.

>>41552192
>Based... glad to see love for trans men <3
<3
Now I just have to find one who likes me back

>>41553604
You can have an attraction to men without having any connection to the community or culture or history, its not automatic and being LGBT is less or more some people's identities than it is for others. Not wanting to be stereotyped is also very understandable, no one deserves to be stereotyped for things they can't help like their attraction or their gender or how they look. Even as someone deeply resonant with the "community" I hate being boxed into many stereotypes.
>However, my intuition says otherwise
Whatever makes you happy, at the end of the day. As long as you're comfortable and happy and living by no ones criteria but your own

>>41553648
>Whatever makes you happy, at the end of the day. As long as you're comfortable and happy and living by no ones criteria but your own
I appreciate your comment on this. It does bring me a little peace. Thank you .

I think I will speak on this with other LGBT when I can but I do appreciate your commentary.

>>41550379
Not like you would find a lot of fat GILFS even if you tried. Old and fat don't really go hand in hand

What would you do if you were a 34 year old mentally ill virgin?

>>41555041
1. Work on mental illness. (ie therapy)
2. If you want to not be a virgin, don't be a virgin (post sexuality for help)

insomnia bump

>>41537916
>I actually meant for real life spooky people
Then probably Elvira, i’m a basic bitch.

>>41538755
Now I desperately want to try Bouldering.

>>41545440
There are different kinds of avoidants. Figure out what kind she is and make sure it’s something you can handle.

>>41549088
That’s sweet :)

>>41555041
I remember waking up one day deciding i’d lose my virginity and started looking on craigslist. Yes, I was much younger and the internet is a different place now. But i’m sure you could do something similar if you just want to lose it.

>>41548948
I tried dating a guy once, as the bottom... and man, I just couldn't make it work. Like your situation we had similar hobbies, but I couldn't deal with the whole feeling of being "the girl" in the relationship and then being bros hanging around. I couldn't develop any feeling of actual romance even though he felt that way about me. Maybe similar to >>41553364, I might have some internalized homophobia or something though, because I stayed in the closet the whole time.

Ultimately not having those feelings won out over "sex feels good," especially because the novelty of doing stuff with another guy wore out after like a month and then started to feel like a chore... and I missed being the one doing the penetrating, and would constantly find women attractive.

>I don't feel comfortable in a lot of LGBT spaces
Totally the same here. Despite hooking up with a guy, I just had nothing in common with my boyfriend at the time's gay friends who just... constantly talked about being gay. There was almost nothing else to their personalities besides their sexuality, and it just didn't mesh with me.

Funny enough, I'm now dating two bi women and slightly frustrated with having to go to a lesbian-centric series of Halloween parties as the "straight" guy. Can't win.

>>41555041
Similar to >>41558349
Decided to just get it over with and go to a local brothel. I recall her being very gentle but also slightly amused.

>>41553364
>>41559133
Sometimes you just have to accept what you're actually cool with. No point in in forcing yourself to date guys if you're not into it out of some false moral cause.
I'm openly bi with my friends and gf and it took me awhile to be more honest about it. But I'm also very openly bisexual hetero-romantic. I've fucked guys, had a couple ongoing male FWBs in the past, but don't date guys romantically. I try to stick with other bi-het guys to hook up with since they're more likely to be on the same page.

My friend group is also primarily bisexual heteroromantic people (although I don't hook up with them lol). We sometimes go to gay-friendly events, mainly in the form of EDM shows or goth clubs, but we understand that from a practical sense we're not really the same as the gay community, like people in actual open same-sex relationships, since we all pass as straight publicly.

>>41559133
I'm the bottom in my relationship, maybe it's our different outlook on it but I can't relate to the things you write. We both laugh at the thought of someone having to be a girl in straight people's eyes. To us, we are both just guys in love. So there's no difference between the relationship part and when we are "just hanging around", both are just part of the relationship.
Also neither of us are particularly "outwards gay", we just hold hands and kiss in public like a normal relationship would. We don't go to lgbt events or try to make our relationship into some kind of social statement. We are just guys that happen to like guys, it doesn't define our whole personalities.

I don't have gay friends but my bf does, but thankfully they're like us and the extent of LGBT stuff brought up is either relationship stuff or jokes.

I do get a vibe of internalised homophobia from your post but it could also be something that your ex bf made worse as well. I've talked to others that also had problems with "being the girl" in a relationship but a lot of the times it was because of their partner pushing it towards that as well.

>>41560904
>I've talked to others that also had problems with "being the girl" in a relationship but a lot of the times it was because of their partner pushing it towards that as well.
I've never dated a guy before (only girls) and I somewhat worry that I might end up doing exactly this lmao

Gonna eat a burger (I'm a United Statsian so it's my culture)

>>41562305
I think if burgers were healthy (or healthier at least) I could legit eat them every single day for the rest of my life.

>>41560904
The relationship you're describing is my ideal other than that I like going to local lgbt stuff and having lgbt friends but I always get stuck being "the girl" at worst
Or at best this weird thing where he's the Man and I'm the Boy which I also don't love :/
>>41561993
Its really offputting unless it's very obviously what the other guy wants I'm ngl

>>41563064
>Its really offputting unless it's very obviously what the other guy wants I'm ngl
Understandable. Guess I just gotta go for the fem ones then

>>41563088
I say this as a guy who gets called really feminine and there are guys more masculine than me who would be okay with that role so idk if assuming by appearance is the move either, idk you'll find someone plenty of bottoms want that trad dynamic so you're fine

>>41563134
Nice. Unfortunately none of my IRL friends at the moment are LGBT so I'll have to find someone like that through dating apps or some shit

>>41563064
>where he's the Man and I'm the Boy
Yeah that doesn't sound fun at all either
Was it an age gap then? It's only 2 years between me and my bf so there's no age dynamic thing thankfully

>>41563740
>age gap
Yeah I'm popular with guys older than me sometimes. Rn I'm in pretty much a relationship with a guy who's 30 and I'm almost 23 which could be worse but I look younger than I am and am short and fruity and he looks older than he is and is tall and masc so it feels like a big gap. That + life stage disparity (he owns a house and has been married whereas I'm barely now trying to move out in earnest finally) are the real only reasons its not official. But I get treated like the de facto boywife even when into a twink only 1 to 3 years older which sucks
>It's only 2 years between me and my bf so there's no age dynamic thing thankfully
Thats good, balanced relationships are ideal and lovely to me

Bump for trad wife (male) relationships

Has anyone dealt with telling/not telling their gf about being bi way too late into a relationship. been with my girlfriend for two years, known her for longer, she's bi but it's never really impacted our relationship and never seemed relevant to tell her.
I don't really care since I have no interest in a third or open relationships but feels kinda dishonest not telling her. what do

>>41544930
What do you carry?

>>41566860
For some reason I told her about 8 or 9 years in (two years ago) mid mental breakdown over two sudden deaths in my family (which led to her making it all about her and then I discovered she was talking to other guys during all of that). We've been together since 9th grade and I gotta be honest, the only thing that has come of it has been pure embarrassment. I still wonder why I wake up every day and live a life that I hate so much.

>>41566975
damn sounds like other factors contributed to that hell, hope it gets better. how did she react?

>>41567017
Truthfully she was caught off guard because I have never really hinted to it and never told anybody. She said "If that's something you need to explore then I won't stop you". I guess this is as supportive as she could be given the situation, I just went back into my shell after that and I haven't been the same because of that whole entire ordeal.

I would say that if you don't plan on taking any action on it her knowing about it doesn't mean much desu

>>41552192
>>41552193
>>41553095
We are going on a walk tomorrow but I still think I should break it off he can honestly do and deserve better. I dont wanna drag him down with me, Im poor and my family isnt too well off either, Im also bad at sex. Thank you for your words and time.

>>41529434
Usually. I also don’t get many dates and haven’t had action since college so maybe that’s the problem

I feel so alone

>>41567158
Would you not want to date him if he was poor and his family wasn't too well off?
If not, why do you think it matters to him

>>41567158
Bruh, stop trying to turn it into a self-fulfilling prophecy

>>41567158
If there's so much wrong with you and you're dragging him down, then how come you're the one breaking up with him instead of the other way round?
Don't be a retard

>>41571523
I can't help but associate this meme/character with reddit groomers

>>41568812
That Chainsaw Man movie would have been so great if Reze had a gock.

>>41572777
I thought the movie was flawless until you pointed this out

>>41573002
Ironically I don't even think the image was of Reze, it just looked like her as a thumbnail.

>>41573161
With the shirt it looks like someone probably used her as a prompt

Bump for Reze

>>41572645
boykisser is a 4chan creation it has nothing to do with reddit or groomers

Do you ever feel ugly even when multiple people have said you’re good looking?

>>41576089
Yeah but it's also cus multiple people have called me mid or made me feel unattractive. I get not everyone is everyone's cup of tea but I wish I was more conventionally attractive, working on that

>>41553364
I do think you have internalized homophobia because I feel like I went through the same thing (even recently, too). I only really considered relationships with women until I was finally able to work through a good deal of my feelings towards liking guys. Now I'm definitely noticing my preferences start to relax, and I'm not just limited to really feminine guys. I felt like when I wasn't accepting of myself, seeing stuff like gay porn felt really taboo which made it feel like a fetish; now that liking guys feels more normal, it doesn't seem like that anymore.

2025 has been my freakiest year by far i need to cool it down a bit next

>>41577376
A BIT?!

>>41577376
dont cool it down get freakier NOW

Bump for 2026 FREAK-OFF

I want to disappear into thin air. Like, one moment I'm there, the next I'm just not. That would be very nice I think

>>41577376
didnt stop till you had already sucked down every man in a 100 mile radius, i see your game

>>41576099
>multiple people have called me mid
That feels... unnecessarily harsh.

>>41581181
It happens. But then you think of cake, autumn leafs colors or the million other things that won't be there once you're gone and suddenly things are a bit brighter. What's dragging you down at the moment?

>>41529353 (OP)
holy is every bigen like this?

>>41582296
Based as fuck? Yeah

>>41581639
Cake makes you fat, autumn leaves are a nuisance and so is everything else.
>What's dragging you down at the moment?
I'm just having a bad decade

I feel a bit gay sometimes, like I see an objectively hot man and I think damn if I was gay I would. am I bi?

>>41583031
That's ultimately something you can only figure out yourself. If you genuinely experience sexual attraction towards both men and women then yeah you are bi

>>41583031
No you're not

>>41583922
Or is he?

>>41579171
ive already sucked a stranger off in the club bathroom and done cocaine off of a guys boner do you really want me to get freakier next year
>>41581531
i always say that its kinda a blessing in disguise that i live in a smaller town with a limited dating pool bc my body count would be way higher by now

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that tomorrow at 22 GMT we will vote for the next two movies for Movie Night! If you want you can also give your recommendation by replying to this post

>what the hell is "movie night"
its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>when will movie night take place?
its FRIDAY at 23 gmt

>where do we watch the movies?
on the Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/twq8FzsJ

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

>>41586292
>ive already sucked a stranger off in the club bathroom and done cocaine off of a guys boner
I don't wanna judge but...

>>41586644
yes yes i know ive been really irresponsible this year
the good news is is that im no longer in contact with cocaine guy

Came out to my friends and now the one keeps catching himself making the stock "ur gay, ur a faggot" jokes, catching himself, literally falling into picrel pose, and contemplating about if he's homophobic and also by relation racist the way he does the same thing with race jokes

Bro is growing and it's hilarious

Want a woman that will give me the strap, but is also OK with me dropping the hard R.

>>41587351
Hard R?

>>41589409
Do you have brain damage?

>>41589409
Nigger instead of nigga.

>>41589424
You don't have to be mean if someone doesn't know something.

t. posted that post

>>41589432
It's an appropriate thing to be mean about if someone comes to 4chan and can't work out what you meant by context.
We used to relentlessly mock people who didn't lurk enough and when we stopped it made things worse.

>>41589440
....fine.

>>41589424
From reading your post, yeah.

I feel like there won't be much crossover between women who will tolerate my racism and women who are willing to strap my ass. They feel like exclusionary demographics(?), but I suppose I will marry the girl who will do both if I ever meet such a person.

never dated a guy b4 how do i find one

>>41529434
I don't go on dates unless it's implied I can get sex. So I basically only go on dates with other men.

>>41586337
Oh no someone forgot their shamusen and 2 cans of duff beer

>>41589919
Find one on 4chan

>>41589919
Do the opposite of this >>41591132

Bump

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that at 22 GMT we will choose the next 2 movies for movie night!
You can give your recommendation now by replying to this post

>what the hell is "movie night"
its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>when will movie night take place?
its FRIDAY at 23 gmt

>where do we watch the movies?
on the Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/twq8FzsJ

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

gaygen is making fun of you guys again

>>41595211
oh noooo

anyways
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Y_f5YcENwI


>>41591010
a tragedy worth putting on paper in such a gorgeous manner for sure

>>41587036
pft

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

The poll is now open, no further recommendations will be accepted.
The voting will stop tomorrow at around 5 PM GMT, so be sure to vote before then!

Here is the link to the server:
https://discord.gg/twq8FzsJ

>>41595211
... okay?

>Mid trans bifag in his 20s
>Somehow manage to bag a hottie in college
>Okay relationship I guess
>She breaks up with me bc of her shitty homophobic family
>We were together for years
>Don't know how to get myself out there anymore

Chat am I completely screwed

>>41596757
Yeah it's over nigga freak the fuck out and give up

Or things will be fine and you will figure it out

Your choice

I can never fit in here but sometimes I just like to look in the window and imagine what could have been.

>>41596892
Why can't you fit in?

>>41542315
You're cooked regardless, the global economy is in fucking shambles and a master's degree is a guarantee of nothing. 2 applications a day is a little low effort on your part, you should expect that you will need to make hundreds of applications before you get a job in the current market or make connections and do some serious networking. At least you should be making an effort to upgrade your qualifications and skillsets while you look for work. It blows, I have been in a very similar boat recently and I only got a casual job through a friend, and I'm interviewing for a career position because I have built some highly specific skillsets over the last six months. Be careful about trying to get back with her, if she's kicked you out and you're on a break the reasons may be bigger than you being unemployed or she may have other motives. Alternatively, if being unemployed is all it takes for her to give you the boots, she may not be the kind of person to stick with you through thick and thin later on.

I'm a cis straight who likes girls, but for some reason when it comes to black guys I melt and become a faggot who wants to crossdress and get fucked by them
Would I still even be considered bisexual

>>41599020
>I'm a cis straight
>describes the gayest shit ever

Choose whoever makes you happy in life, but if you're single and have homosexual urges I feel like you have sort of an obligation to do it, like you owe it to your ancestors. We're living in a special time in history when it's acceptable. There's plenty of moments throughout history where you'd have to suppress those feelings or keep it secret. I'm sure countless generations of your ancestors had to hide it.

>>41600109
>listen to /bigen/ advise
>act on urges
>ancestors visit me in my dreams
>laugh at me and call me a faggot
t-thanks, /bigen/

>>41600109
>it's acceptable
It's absolutely not acceptable. Yes, there has been a semitic push for homosexuality in the public sphere, but that's just another strategy to destroy the West. Homosexuality in men is just as disgusting as it has always been. You mentioning our respective ancestors is very ironic, because your ancestors – assuming you're even White – where all proud "homophobes" and "racists".

>>41589676
Yeah, as someone who is willing to use a strap on their partner and flirt with some low-level racist stereotyping i’d draw a hard line at someone using n**** in most context.

Also, have you ever noticed that some of the most racist people you’ve met always have the most diverse friend group?

>>41601860
Lmfao, thanks I needed a good laugh.

>>41601919
Is the destruction of everything you have known and loved really a laughing matter, White Man?

>>41599020
I know this is a fake post but why do some people go
>I am X but [I am actually Y]
why can't people just say they are Y. or just ignore labels overall

>>41601860
>It's absolutely not acceptable
maybe not in the US but it's acceptable in my country (Sweden)

>>41601860
Bait or mental retardation? I'm leaning towards the first one.

pg9

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

And we have the two winners!:

>Planes, Trains. And Automobiles
>Superman (2025)

So see ya later at 23 GMT!

Brooks brothers dress shirt, nice pants, sweater vest, beard: good look? I’m too much of a coward to post myself but I’m looking in the mirror and I think I look sexy. I’d fuck me

>>41605352
visualize!
believe!
achieve!

>>41600497
It’s ok anon we know you’re into that humiliation:P

I’d never bottom but I think there’s nothing hotter than getting a girl coaxing her bf to bottom for me/ suck my dick.

I’m not even bi I’m just hyper dom coded lol

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

A reminder that in 2 hours Movie Night is gonna start! Here is tonight's selection:

>Planes, Trains. And Automobiles
>Superman (2025)

>what the hell is "movie night"
Its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>where do we watch the movies?
On the official Bigen Movie and Game Night Discord server:
https://discord.gg/twq8FzsJ

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT
>MOVIE NIGHT
MOVIE NIGHT

Good evening !
Its finally time to start another Movie Night! Tonight selection is:

>Planes, Trains. And Automobiles
>Superman (2025)

Here is the link of the stream, don't be shy and come join us! the film will start at 23:10 GMT

>https://discord.gg/TX7dd4hR

>what the hell is "movie night"
its a special night where bigen comes together to watch on Discord two movies chosen by the community

>i don't usually post on bigen/never took part in movie night, can i join?
Of course, movie night is open to anyone, just remember to mute yourself during the movies, be civil and have fun!

fyi: this is the list of every movie we watched so far:
https://pastebin.com/Bc8pqK9h

Have fun watching movies. I’ll be working.