Thread 81687735

Anyone else came to the conclusion that if you're neurodivergent, you're just fucked? You will never have true friends, you will never feel truly loved. Simply because other people don't understand you, and you don't understand them. The best you can do is learn the rules of the social dance in order to game it to your advantage.

>>81687735 (OP)
>The best you can do is learn the rules of the social dance in order to game it to your advantage
fake it till you make it basically
its not so bad OP - 8 billion souls on this Earth, at least one (1) was built out of your rib

>>81687735 (OP)
Just don't talk to normies. The true redpill is that they wouldn't be 'true friends' EVEN if you were one of them. If you paid enough attention you'd understand what I mean.
>>81687745
don't even bother doing this unless it's for work or connections

>>81687735 (OP)
I'm trying to shed this doomer mindset and find people like me at shared interest places like cons. If I'm going, why wouldn't my possible future weirdo friend too?
Divergents just have to look harder.
Also >>81687745

>>81687772
fake confidence is still confidence though
besides, considering how shallow the average person is, it doesnt take much of that fake confidence to convince them

>>81687735 (OP)
You absolutely can have true friends, you just need to get insanely lucky. But I agree with the others that most normal people aren't really good friends anyway, so either way you need to be lucky.
t. almost 30 yo khhv with a really close friend

>>81687735 (OP)
Even for normies it's an illusion that it's possible to truly understand another person.

>>81687784
My point is that serves no purpose other than, again, work or connections for opportunities.

>>81687799
who's to say one's future gf isn't connected through those work/connections?

maybe it could be the random clerk in another office, maybe it could be one's secretary - you just never know, man

>>81687772
>The true redpill is that they wouldn't be 'true friends' EVEN if you were one of them. If you paid enough attention you'd understand what I mean.
Valid point. No wonder divorce rate is like 50% or whatever if they treat each other like garbage.
>>81687780
>If I'm going, why wouldn't my possible future weirdo friend too?
Sounds good, doesn't work. I pretty much never feel like I'm around "my people", and when I do feel that, they always end up disappointing me by pulling some normie shit.
>>81687788
>You absolutely can have true friends, you just need to get insanely lucky
Yeah. Like winning a lottery or something.
>>81687799
Agreed
>>81687810
>who's to say one's future gf
I've been searching for connection for years. How long am I supposed to kid myself.

>>81687822
>How long am I supposed to kid myself.
till the day you die

>>81687735 (OP)
Yeah, but the normie hierarchy is all bullshit and lies. They have to constantly appease each other and waste so much time trying to conform to some ideal they don't even agree with.

There's a certain peace in being free from their rules and their judgement. I do whatever the fuck I want and I have a big smile on my face while I do it. I'm not trying to please some fickle group that would drop me if I said the wrong word at the wrong time.

Just be 100% true to yourself with the only caveat being: not around the NTs. They hate you for being different, never show them you are.

>>81687822
>Sounds good, doesn't work. I pretty much never feel like I'm around "my people", and when I do feel that, they always end up disappointing me by pulling some normie shit.
Skill issue, you are surrounded by your own literal kind, babby tutorial mode. Just talk to people until you feel something click, and no I dont want to hear your shitty copes.

>>81689003
>Skill issue
okay, then give me skill points magic potion

>>81689511
>>Just talk to people bro

>>81689592
I did. For years. Massive regret.

>>81687735 (OP)
This is what I keep saying. Everyone thinks it's looks, race, height, status, whatever, that most affects you. And don't get me wrong, these all do. But I've been around long enough to see that yes, ugly people can get it too. But if you're """shy""", introverted, neurodivergent, or just mentally ill, you're just completely fucked. You can overcome almost all the things above but if you come off as a creep or an empty vessel, it's just over by default.

Neurodivergence is not a thing. Look inward for the real issue

>>81687735 (OP)
>You will never have true friends, you will never feel truly loved.
Have you tried to find friends in fellow spergs? Preferably exhibiting healthy mix of shared and different interest to keep everyone somehow engaged in talks?

>>81689666
Trips of truth
Hellish edition

>>81687735 (OP)
I just made ND friends
I surrounded myself with NDs from meetup clubs and its a breath of fresh air because they dont have egos and they dont lie and they are interested in stuff

>>81687735 (OP)
I disagree, most people don't understand each other, and when you do you just see even less reason to interact with them, not out of disgust or anything like that, you just see there's nothing interesting about them, they have effectively given up on doing something with their lives before they even tried.
>>81687745
>at least one (1) was built out of your rib
Yeah and its me.

>>81690337
>Yeah and its me
are you shooting your shot with OP?

>>81690394
No i'm saying i'm built out of myself.

>>81687735 (OP)
I'll never be financially successful. I'm going to end up barely surviving, working shitty dead-end jobs until I drop dead. Worst part is, I can't even get disability for it.

>>81687822
>divorce rate is like 50%
That statistic is heavily skewed by the kind of assholes who are in their seventh marriage.

>>81687735 (OP)
Yes, the closest I ever get is people lying about being my friend and giving me empty promises. Or people who ask to date me and toss me out after assuming the worst false things about me, because I have issues and am weird. There aren't genuine people who care, or make the effort to understand. Only people who use and lie.

>>81690437
very odd way sentence structure, anon

>>81690526
>very odd way sentence structure, anon
Sorry

yeah pretty much, I normie maxxed when I went to uni and had friends, had sex with multiple girls etc etc but its all fleeting, none of it lasts or sticks around and no one has ever truly understood me and women that tried left, male friends never bothered, male friends are always quite surface level, just how it is. Current gf loves me, but she loves a version of me which is carefully curated. It's okay though, I understand me and I got my own back.

>>81690609
That is a horrible way to live and you will have a breakdown doing that bro

This is old Asa. I want new Asa.

>>81690674
idk, not much I can really do about it, not got any friends because after uni they all moved away, trying to make new ones at local gigs and such but it doesn't really work too well. Co workers aren't friend material either. Kinda always lived like this though ive never been completely transparent with anyone, not even my parents.

>>81690480
That statistic is also missing the many loveless, sexless marriages. People who stay together for financial and childcare reasons, not because they are actually happy with each other. Just because half of marriages end in divorce doesn't mean the other half are happy. From what I see at my workplace, most marriages are kinda miserable with little sex and a lot of responsibility. Frankly, the only happily married people I've seen are those who didn't have kids.

>>81687735 (OP)
Is there really that much potential for companionship for a normal person? Lucky people may have a good family but what other kinds of companionship are out there other than fucking.

>>81690609
>It's okay though, I understand me and I got my own back.
As it should be, anon. I'm proud of you

While one shouldn't isolate too much, at the end of the day no one will care about you as much as yourself.

If David Byrne can succeed, anyone can. That man is incredibly autistic, though he's never officially been diagnosed. You gotta find your schtick and stick to it.

>>81687745
Doing that is the worst. At that point, just fake everything. Fake your personality, your interests, your speech patterns, all of it. It's an exhausting life. I only feel at home when I'm isolated.