I really want to start asking out girls, inspired by the anon who is already doing that. But I am so deeply afraid of it. I did it once and got rejected. She even did it a bit gently but still that hurt me a lot. Today I was in the supermarket and some girl kept looking at me at even smiled once. She was really qt and I wanted to ask her out but I didn't do it. Why I am such a coward.

>>81689520 (OP)
>Why I am such a coward.
take a swig of whiskey before you approach her

Youre stupid anon, life dont care, do it or not tour life will still anyways, maybe if You ask for her number she could say yes but if she says no thats dont change your life in nothing and you continue living without the doubt of what she could say

If you want to make a change go to partys, music concerts, punk or metal concerts, social events and get drunk to pull the mask off and stop feeling weak for your fears

>>81689520 (OP)
i was outside like five days ago and the last 2 years i havent approached one girl in person. did a lot of online dating and i said to myself , the first girl in my range of age will be my victim
so i approached the first girl i saw , she was black

i was laughing and stuff but in the end we shared our instagram wrote a bit and in the end it didnt work out because im far right and she couldnt go with that but it was , one shot one goal afters two years and im not the best looking dude, like the good average i would say, you just have to have a good appearance and dont be dumb lol

and in my history of "asking out girls" in person , i got a no only one time in like 4 you know what i mean, she was ugly and i think she thought i were not serious or doing it for fun or whatever
and she was ugly

>>81689563
I don't like alcohol it makes you fat and destroys your brain&liver.
>>81689595
I know but I am autistic and thus overthink so so much instead of doing it. I look and think more than I do. It is such a curse. I also don't like loud music but maybe I try that at least once. I just don't want to meet people who like doing that every weekend.
>>81689774
That sounds good. Tbh I am tall and take care of my apearance so maybe I have a chance. The first girl just broke me because we took the same train almost every day for 6 months and she always looked at me every time so I thought I had a shot. Also I don't have social media should I make a instagram account? Do I have to post stuff on there?

>>81689922
i have instagram but i dont post on there , i guess its a pretty good option if you dont want to give out your number , or if the girl dont want it which is very usual

i dont care if someone has my number but i guess as a girl its a bit different which i can totally understand
you know what people are outside

so yea , make an instagram

>>81689520 (OP)
I once got rejected despite not walking up to her to ask her out. I just wanted her to step aside so I could get a coat.

>>81689970
I hate social media but I guess I give it a try.

>>81689970
if everything goes fine youll get the number anyways , you know what i mean
but ASK FOR HER NUMBER; NOT HER INSTA
always number , she can say insta but you ask for number , never ever snap or some shit

>>81689982
Ouch that hurts I am sorry anon.

>>81689989
or even better, ask if you can invite her to coffee or whatever i dont know
not as a first sentence ofc

>>81689989
I keep that in mind, thanks. I think something like telegram would be best but not sure if people like that.

>>81690002
It's fine lol. I always knew I wasnt goodlooking so its amusing more than anything else.

>>81690019
so ou can share number automatically and its not so blunt

>>81690021
go out NOW and approach the first girl you see
just give it a try
not important if shes your type or some shit
just as exercise , and if you are not really in her its not this bad anywayys if it doesnt work out
and if it works maybe go out with her, maybe not , fuck her and then feel good
or whatever you want to do which is possible you know what i mean , fuck my english

>>81689922
>me no likey alkie
ah bloo bloo

>>81690069
I don't want to have random sex, I only want sex with love anon. I will try tomorrow but I feel like dying already thinking about it.
>>81690077
Idk what is wrong with that?

>>81689520 (OP)
I would ask out girls if i could get their number + that i can see them actually non-verbally looking like they are happy/excited that i asked them out.
Those requirements combined with that i do not require any other "dialog tree" or "rapport" other than by just saying and asking, first time seeing her:
"Hey, you look cute. Could i ask to take you out on a date? Yeah?! Nice! :) Im Anon btw"

I also would only do it if i could do it in a grocery store, on the street, at a trainstop, on a train, in a park, etc. Those kinds of open public places.

Do this work? I always, always, assumed it doesnt work if you restrict yourself to these premises I have setup here. But these are the only circumstances I feel comfortable in.
No prior rapport.
No dialog tree.
No special occasion.
Them actually giving of kind and a happy response to me asking her out.

I could take reaction if meant them just saying: "no :p...", "No! :(", "who are you? :s"
But absolutely nothing more sinister.
I don't think I could even take a couple of even more harsher "no"s without going crazy.

Most of all I would do this if I could confirm it works for a pretty tall, alittle above average facially guy.
So far the odds are even wayyy against someone like me, let alone someone much more uglier than me.
Give me rational proof though.

>>81690141
me too but i only felt real fucking intense love one time in my life and i know its never going to be this extreme , real whatever again

so i just dont give a fuck anymore
ofc i dont have sex with any random women
i keep my bodycount low
but that doesnt stop sexual activity , you can do a ton of other things which doesnt include that you put your dick in her vagina or whatever
so ill just do that

i still have my pride and im very proud of that you know
you dont have to have sex is what i want to say

Femanon here!!
You should try making conversation with what you see and what you got!!!!!! Examples for that situation could be:


"I also really like the band on your t-shirt!" (Sharing interests)

"Is that food item really good? I've heard about it/i also really like those!"
(Ur setting yourself open to listen to whatever she has to say)

"Your hair looks really pretty!"
(If you notice something that looks like she spend a lot time on getting right you should say this.)

ONLY SAY THIS STUFF WHEN YOU GENUINELY MEAN IT!!
You shouldn't expect dates or anything like that immediately. If you're just gonna think of being friends as a kind of waitlist situation to get picked you shouldn't do any of this and go to a brothel instead.

Theres always next time. Don't get too upset if you get rejected or if it gets awkward. Making friends and asking people out isn't the easiest stuff.

Goooood luck!!! Feel free to ask questions btw!! Have fun!!

>>81690198
I feel like even kissing would be too much. Maybe a hug would be nice but then I can no longer say I am a khhv. I just wish I could have skin contact with a girl.

>>81690198
after time youll begin to notice that it feels good TO BE approched and not always beeing the one who makes the first step
work on that
many women are feminist whatever but expect to be approached first so fuck them , look at the other ones

sometimes it feels good to not be the hunter, because if youre hunting and hunting and never ever get the feeling of when prey just comes to yourself >>81690141
, you will feel exhausted bad and stuff, i think you know what im trying to come acrros whith

>>81690235
message above was for you.
accidentally tagged me

>>81690235
what is khhv ?
girls like to be touched and admired , with or without clothes, so just do that

>>81690069
Why the fuck would you do this. Thats like the rudest thing ever.

>>81690231
I keep that in mind, I am simply very bad at small talk but once I know I won't get judged for it I can overshare a lot because of my autism.
>Don't get too upset if you get rejected or if it gets awkward
I try not to but I simply do, it feels like my whole being is being rejcted for not being good enough.
>Feel free to ask questions
How do I know if a girl gives out signals? It is so hard already and with my autism is feels like I misinterpret everything. Also what should I do when she wants to talk more and I get anxious and start overthinking and then don't know what to say?
>>81690239
No girl ever approached me, I don't think that really happens only if you know the girl. I understand why women don't want to approach, also desu I don't like too dominant women.
>you will feel exhausted bad and stuff, i think you know what im trying to come acrros whith
No idk what you want to say.

>>81690264
khhv = kissless, handholdless, hugless virgin. Come on anon you have the internet and ai.
>girls like to be touched and admired , with or without clothes, so just do that
Sure but I don't want to scare them by saying/doing something wrong.

>>81690283
why is this considered to be rude ?
if she sais yes she wants to go drink a coffee with you
if you both kiss she wants it too
and if it ends with you beeing together with here in your bed she had many options to say no
and i would never have sex with a woman i dont like ,
so its okay like what are you trying to consider as rude

>>81690309
i just thought you mistyped something to be honest , not that khhv would be an actual thing

>>81690293
i said it feels good to be approached and not always be the one whos approachig my dear fella

>>81690344
It is tho? I never held hands with a girl, I never hugged a girl in a romantic way, I never kissed and I sure as hell never ever had sex.

>>81690309
this is crazy bro , but do you want to do sucht things ?
because if you dont want , why would you event open such a thread

>>81690353
Ah okay, yeah true just that this does not happen that much.

>>81689520 (OP)
Just do it, she will say no and life will go on. Nothing to lose

Girls have to ask me out
Im not a bitch

>>81691654
There is alot to lose it would be super cringe and my facial expression from the rejection would look terrible. Once you go to a place and start asking out multiple women. They all catch on and call the police.

Dont approach hoes
Real players get chose

>>81691797
Don't ask out multiple women, go to a different place every day and ask out 1 woman.

>>81690293
Sorry for the awful late response,,, my period cramps were fucking killing me,,,

Anyways!!
Someone rejecting you doesn't make you less of a person or a failure. People have preferences,, and thats ok!! You shouldn't associate rejection with failure. Its completely normal. To be completely honest: if someone asked me out and i had a feeling that he would go into a negative spiral i would feel pressured to say yes. Tldr; rejection is normal and ok. Not something to be absolutely devastated about. Especially in these types of small interactions.

Think of signals as just plain basic things. Someone looking at you and smiling might be because theyre just nice and had a good day. Sometimes people are to nervous to make small talk and just smile. Instead of overthinking about this (and i know thats really hard anon, I'm autistic too and i freak myself out sometimes) just think of it in the simplest way possible. If a girl starts talking to you thats a sign she wants to talk to you. Period. If someone has headphones on they probably don't want to talk. Period. No buts or ifs. Don't think too much about it.

Sooo what if it's working out and you feel really anxious?! You feel really nervous and get the feeling ur gonna throw up!!! Just remember these thing's and you'll be fine!!

-go with the flow. I know this is the most neurotypical thing i can say but it's true. Ur just talking to someone on the train or in a store. You don't have to think too much about what you say,, as long as it not demeaning or plain rude and I'm sure you can differentiate!!

-again,, rejection is not failure. It's okay to mess up. And when you look back when you're at a better place in your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do or say instead of the times you tried.

-don't force yourself. Its okay. Take a break and have a sweet treat. You deserve it.

>>81690317
>not important if shes not you type, just try it out relationships are nothing special

Why would you lead someone on and just in general think of women as sexual 'things'. There's so much more to a girl than 'types' and sex and romance. If you don't care and just do it for a kiss or the experience... wtf is wrong w u..

>>81692366
you interpret to much
did you even try to understand what i said

>>81692078
self diagnosed autism
stop talking shit

>>81692517
Ur kind of telling on yourself honestly.
>>81692531
You're offended by all this aren't you? www

>>81691797
If you want to talk to multiple women ask them to fill a survey. Asking people out isn't something you do with everyone you come across