>girl approaches me
>we talk, maybe flirt a bit
>see she's getting interested
>my mind recalls all the problems i'm going through right now and how much having a gf is gonna set me back financially
>i tell her i have to go
>never talk to her again
this has happened so many times i've lost count - i AM capable of getting the girl, but i can't afford to KEEP her!

>>81754344 (OP)
stop overthinking anon

>>81754344 (OP)
anon, you sound really smart and sensible.

HOWEVER

get your head in the game, man!!! i see so many poor and retarded men who have way more problems than you with gfs, you're telling me you can't have one?

you can do it. you deserve it. commit to it.

>>81754352
no, i'm just "poor"
i live with my mom still but i pay the bills, i pay the mortgage, i give her a few hundred to spend on herself

i literally cannot afford a gf

>>81754369
YOU LITERALLY PAY THE BILLS AND THE MORTGAGE YOU ARE A PROVIDER AND DO MUCH MORE THAN MOST MEN

why not just have a hookup? you dont gotta date

>>81754369
> i pay the bills, i pay the mortgage, i give her a few hundred to spend on herself
can we ask why?

I wish I could even get to that point. They just stare at me and never make conversation.
That said, I'd have to basically let them know that I can't afford to do shit, other than have sex. Even if I could afford to, I hate going out.

>>81754369
>i live with my mom still but i pay the bills, i pay the mortgage, i give her a few hundred to spend on herself
homie my parents has to promise me and my sister some kind of property hoping we will marry at young age, you out there being a provider and still thinking you are not dateable ? just chill tf out man

>>81754367
>i see so many poor and retarded men who have way more problems than you with gfs
i know, and i'm happy if they're happy - but i want to treat my girl like the princess she is, i wanna spoil and pamper her

>>81754374
yeah but most of my money goes through that so i dont see how i'm gonna pay for a date

>>81754378
i dont believe in hookup culture
not a prude by any means, its just that i dont want to just have sex - i want to make love, i want the flames of passion, i want to desire
so far, no dice

>>81754393
ehh, my family's weird with money - it just snowballed from there and now i'm the only one with the decent pay
>dad sets up our house wifi
>first month in and rats got to it, bit the cable and all
>instead of having it fixed and getting to actually use it, dad just holds it off and still pays the bill every month
>mom graduated back in '96
>still hasn't paid her student loans
>wanted to travel and re-new her passport
>a letter arrives saying she can't leave the country until everything is paid for
dad's dead now so no income there, mom got *very* sick and just got laid off a month ago

dont piss me off volcel

>>81754446
>property
i actually own some out-of-state
was my dad's, he was supposed to sell it so he could give the money to his mom, my grandma - dad passed so now its mine
>chill
i'll recap a bit on the things i'm paying for now
>usual bills - water, gas, wifi, etc.
>mortgage
>pocket money for my mom
>pocket money for my kid brother who's still in school
>maintenance fund - its a saving for my car maintenance, insurance, license renewal, etc.
i used to just not eat at all and spend what's left of my money on coffee and cigarettes

>>81754344 (OP)
op is really nice and should date a girl

>>81754437
i honestly dont know what they see in me - apart from my job, i dont really do much; don't have the time nor money for that

only other social outlet is you guys, because i basically grew up here lol

>>81754446
>>81754500
>i used to just not eat at all and spend what's left of my money on coffee and cigarettes
that's not a good idea, it going to affect your work and mood, make you doing thing inefficiently and having moody thought

>>81754565
keyword: used to
picked up smoking because of the stress, i dont smoke anymore - been eating better, been getting fit

i know we're all gonna make it sooner or later, but considering my situation, you guys go on ahead lol

>>81754597
>considering my situation, you guys go on ahead lol
You're doing much, much, much better than I am.

>>81754454
You sound like a good guy, keep that mentality up and you'll do well.
Why not start out with people like her as friends tho? I'm sure you could enjoy some casual flirting to keep you sane without committing to something sexual or romantic.

>>81754790
>as friends
keep her around as an orbiter? i'm not that kinda guy - if i want a friend, i'll keep her around as a friend, if i want a gf, i'll make my intentions clear from the get go

>>81754369
>>81754374
>>81754446
NTA but I'm paying mortgages by myself like $1700 a month kind of shit and my own bills on top of that I still don't have a GF.
I'm not trying to be a pick me or anything, I'm just saying that bitches don't care about that shit at all, in fact they expect men to provide for them and all that off the rip. Maybe if I get better clothes and a car my SMV will increase but I dunno I think my problem is I don't talk to girls enough.

>>81754989
>no car
>has a house
huh

>>81755445
I have a car, an old 2007 shitbox Jeep actually. At least it's paid off but I forgot to mention that in the OP.
It's not just that either, I buy groceries and pay the utilities.
It doesn't matter anyway, still a KHV no matter how much of a provider I may seem.