How do you meet people on the internet now. I met a bunch of shitty people and got stuck dealing with them for years.
I'm now free from all of them but I don't know where to start.
Joining any sort of group now feels like such a drag and a bad joke.
Everyone already has their pre-established cliques and the such, its as if life itself wants to remind me I'll be back to being alone.
I know this isn't the best place to ask too, I guess.

>>81762103 (OP)
You basically have to just keep trying. Join groups for stuff you're into and just talk to people. Eventually they'll stick.

>>81762131
You are making it sound like I need to grind this sort of thing like a JRPG...
>Just wait for this enemy with a 0.1% chance to spawn bro... With enough tries it will drop its weapon at a 10% chance!

>>81762141
What else are you supposed to do? You can't filter people without talking to them first anyways. Just go be social.

>>81762103 (OP)
>I think people who tolerated me we're shit so I got rid of them
>where can I meet people I'm lonely
You got what you deserved. Play stupid games where you think you're better than others, receive stupid prizes where you're treated like worse than others.

>>81762103 (OP)
Have to get lonely enough to put up with constantly look for groups and eventually breaking into a clique
It's shit and gets worse every year

>>81762166
>I think people who tolerated me we're shit so I got rid of them
Don't oversimplify it like that... Well I'm gonna vent about it since I do deserve to get laugh at for this.
I met this retard and we started dating behind our friend's back. It all started fine but eventually he just got really abusive and everyone around him also started having issues themselves and with me.
It was a messy relationship... I reconnected with a former friend whom later became my best friend for awhile as I tried to find comfort from that shitty relationship. That "best friend" ended up abusing me too... I even let him sexually assault me. He throw me to the wayside like trash and convinced 99% of his group that I hated them.
I'm a guy in my mid 20s. This would make for some good sympathy-bait if I was a girl.
I guess getting hurt is the best therapy I guess. I've lost any interest I had in men. Those two did a favor into traumatizing me into being straight I guess.

>>81762141
Good friends are like shinies, for the rest is possible to make them good but you need to grind a lot

>>81762252
>I met this retard and we started dating behind our friend's back
>It all started fine but eventually he just got really abusive and everyone around him also started having issues themselves and with me
Abusive how? Explain. So far It sounds like people were angry at you because you were not nice and doing things behind other's backs.
>I even let him sexually assault me
That's not what sexual assault is, you just said you consented.
>He throw me to the wayside like trash
This is the only part I feel bad for you on so far.

>>81762252
>dating but eventually he
>>>/lgbt/

>>81762103 (OP)
friend groups collapse all the time, so other people from collapsed friend groups are the best people to befriend. how you find them? idk, just try to befriend anons i guess.

>>81762305
Well during the first two years my ex was really nice and very supportive, then he just suddenly changed as a person completely. He would often hurl insults and call me useless constantly, we often would arrange dates and the such and he would not arrive, like straight up going missing an entire day and he wouldn't tell me anything back. He would often also encourage me to drink and would get me to be problematic against other people. Before I met him I was completely lonely so I just put up with his shitty behavior, it was some sort of Stockholm syndrome. The only sort of romantic interaction I had back then was when back in High School a bully sent a girl to date me for the "joke."
I blame myself from getting assaulted. I did not consent. My second-ex just lured me into his apartment and locked the door. I got bad vibes from him that day but somehow I was desperate to have someone to pass the time with. So in a way I did let it happen.
>>81762338
I'm not gay anymore though. I feel going to /lgbt/ about this would just be a bunch of retards telling me to go on Grindr and get some AIDS to cover for the pain.

>>81762103 (OP)
The internet is fake. I get my friends from church.

>>81762305
>then he just suddenly changed as a person completely
Did anything happen to cause this? People can act not like themselves if they feel their partner is abandoning them, someone died, they are off their medication, or they are intoxicated. Obviously not an excuse, especially the ditching on plans where you show up and he isn't there.
>The only sort of romantic interaction I had back then was when back in High School a bully sent a girl to date me for the "joke."
This is fucked up, sorry to hear that.
>My second-ex just lured me into his apartment and locked the door.
That is much worse than you described, yeah that's messed up if you said no.
>I'm not gay anymore though.
Doubtful honestly, people don't magic away their orientation.

>>81762469
This is obviously meant for >>81762407

>>81762469
>Did anything happen to cause this?
That is the thing I'll never understand about this whole ordeal. When he started acting "off" at first I told him that we needed to end the relationship in a civil way and that we could just carry on as friends but he refused and went on cringy love bombing tirades. I hate the term love bombing but that is exactly what he did, he just said that all the bad moments were a one off thing and kept reassuring me about how much "he loved me and "we needed to stay together."
I don't have any unresolved feelings related to my second ex. He straight up told me that he found me annoying and that he just wanted to do it with me at least once before cutting me off from him and his friends, lole.
My first ex was annoyingly cryptic, you really had to like force him to talk about how he was really feeling at the moment. It was a task and a half to learn about him. Even in our final fight he didn't even like answer back. Its like he got some sadistic pleasure from me suffering because of his way of acting.
On the last statement. I don't feel attracted to guys in general anymore and I haven't jerked off to gay porn for three months now, like if I looked at the stuff that formerly turned me on I don't get a reaction (that sounds absolutely ridiculous to type outloud)

>>81762548
>he refused and went on cringy love bombing tirades
>kept reassuring me about how much "he loved me and "we needed to stay together."
>My first ex was annoyingly cryptic, you really had to like force him to talk about how he was really feeling at the moment. It was a task and a half to learn about him. Even in our final fight he didn't even like answer back.
Honestly, it is very possible that this person genuinely loves you but has some severe mental health problems. It sounds like something health related happened, there were a lot of miscommunications, and he freaks out when he thinks things are over. If he wasn't interested and was just aloof about the whole thing he wouldn't keep trying to get you to stay, plus the extreme reactions and poor communication hints at some sort of mental health thing going on. It might have worked if he got therapy.
>He straight up told me that he found me annoying and that he just wanted to do it with me at least once before cutting me off from him and his friends, lole.
That's disgusting behaviour.
>I don't feel attracted to guys in general anymore and I haven't jerked off to gay porn for three months now
That'll change, watch.

>>81762103 (OP)
To my own dismay you need to talk to people
My issue is it doesn't just happen anymore when I play games

>>81763335
Go reconnect with people you know/knew and invite them to play games. That's the fastest fix.

>>81763343
No, those connections are dead and will remain dead, to things that fizzle out so easily trying again is a waste of time.

>>81763356
They fizzle out if you let them fizzle out. Reigniting old connections is far easier than meeting new people.

>>81763372
They walked away from me slowly but surely. They're all strangers now anyway no different than any other

>>81763391
I'm sure at least one didn't want you to leave. If not, then I am sorry. It's just true that meeting new people is harder so it's the best first. Especially if there is anyone who didn't want you gone, or reached out in the past when you were walking away.

>>81763414
They drifted away from me I've been a static object for any of my life I've had control of