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Anonymous No.82314110 [Report] >>82314168 >>82315470 >>82315583 >>82315611 >>82315853 >>82315937 >>82315975 >>82316041 >>82316830
How do i cope with no gf when normal copes are not working? No i can't use drugs
Anonymous No.82314150 [Report] >>82314720
If you want to master coping with tfw no gf
https://youtu.be/qqJN9PE_EfE?feature=shared
Anonymous No.82314168 [Report] >>82315470
>>82314110 (OP)
>How do i cope with no gf when normal copes are not working?
Webm related.
Anonymous No.82314720 [Report] >>82315453
>>82314150
you could try drugs but what if you use them and regret it? they do change your view of the world and if you ever want to live a healthy sober lifestyle you need to be able to do that.
Anonymous No.82315453 [Report]
>>82314720
I can't do drugs even if i wanted to
Anonymous No.82315470 [Report] >>82315477 >>82316836
>>82314110 (OP)
get friends or something, idk what works for someone else wont work for you
>>82314168
what is your goal with this you negro dork
Anonymous No.82315477 [Report] >>82315486
>>82315470
It's impossible to get friends at my age
Anonymous No.82315486 [Report] >>82315506
>>82315477
Are you 50?
Anonymous No.82315506 [Report] >>82315517 >>82315524
>>82315486
>are you 50
No i'm 24
Anonymous No.82315517 [Report] >>82315523
>>82315506
>No
Are you a NEET?
Anonymous No.82315523 [Report]
>>82315517
>Are you a NEET?
No
Anonymous No.82315524 [Report] >>82315530 >>82315530 >>82315550
>>82315506
just go to a fucking bar you chud, and dont stand around waiting for people to talk to you
are you good at darts? pool? do you have an interesting music taste? people are at a bar casue they wanna meet people, unless you come off as a perv they wont see you as one
Anonymous No.82315530 [Report] >>82315542
>>82315524
>just go to a fucking bar you chud, and dont stand around waiting for people to talk to you
Going to a bar by yourself is retarded
>>82315524
>are you good at darts? pool? do you have an interesting music taste?
No
Anonymous No.82315542 [Report] >>82315563
>>82315530
ok fine, no bars, any community events? siblings cousins, anyone you could go with?
is there anything interesting about you?
hell you dont even need to be interesting, just kind, i suppose
Anonymous No.82315550 [Report]
>>82315524
And if you're an nondrinking pussy, get the fuck online and go volunteer to do something useful for a day, you can actually meet people
Take a fucking class
At least you won't be wasting your life
Anonymous No.82315563 [Report] >>82315604
>>82315542
>any community events?
No
>siblings cousins
Married and or busy/far away
>anyone you could go with?
No
>hell you dont even need to be interesting, just kind, i suppose
I suppose i am kind
Anonymous No.82315583 [Report] >>82315622 >>82315685
>>82314110 (OP)
just stop making having a gf the center focus of your life. theres a lot more to living than being in a relationship.
Anonymous No.82315604 [Report] >>82315685 >>82315685
>>82315563
what kinda city do you live in? anything within 25 miles of a big city is bound to have some community stuff going on, only issue is youve gotta search for it, which you seem to want to do
Anonymous No.82315611 [Report] >>82315618 >>82315622
>>82314110 (OP)
drinking>cutting>sitting on a high ledge

that's what i do in a bad mood.
Anonymous No.82315618 [Report]
>>82315611
dont encourage other to self harm anon, thats never a good thing
Anonymous No.82315622 [Report] >>82315685 >>82315869
>>82315583
Agreed, also both men and women can sense the desperate for a girlfriend vibe and it's human repellent, just stop trying to cope and start trying to live
>>82315611
Yea chicks are into that, keep it up, surely your life will change for the better if you stay this way
Anonymous No.82315685 [Report] >>82315691 >>82315725 >>82315745
>>82315583
>>82315622
I am lonely
>>82315604
90k pop
>>82315604
>only issue is youve gotta search for it,
How?
Anonymous No.82315691 [Report] >>82315725 >>82315905
>>82315685
Do you want to ERP on discord?
Anonymous No.82315725 [Report] >>82315790 >>82315905
>>82315685
okay thats a big city, theres bound to be some events to go to, and you need to be the one to do it

>>82315691
do you think this is helping him?
Anonymous No.82315745 [Report] >>82315916
>>82315685
If you're lonely at this point it's probably your fault
Grow some balls and try some new things you've never tried before
Not like skydiving or some dumb shit like improv, but maybe get out more or join a random local activity for just one day like a stupid food drive or a river cleanup, I swear it's a great way to just be around people and meet young people without having to drink at a fucking bar
Or sign up for a class
Are you interested in any stuff, activities, or things, besides being online?
Anonymous No.82315790 [Report]
>>82315725
He doesn't want help, he's giving 1 word replies because he's bored and not listening to you at all.
Anonymous No.82315853 [Report]
>>82314110 (OP)
i think, in my opinion, this is one of the hardest and most brutal things to deal with as a man; lifelong inceldom, and it takes heroic effort just to not kill yourself

many men, a lot of which were very strong, have killed themselves trying to endure this very problem

and in my opinion you should try every avenue
- exercise. i reconmend hiking with a rucksack to the beach at night, or to the woods
- meditation. i personally do 20 minutes a day, theres studies showing it helps
- a clean diet devoid of junk food/inflamitory foods. i eat exclusively plant based, but any fix to your diet should be an improvement
- maybe get an ai girlfriend or use chatgpt or gemini for your therapists, or someone to give you emotional support. just hearing "ill be there for you, you can do this. lets start small steps by steps" is encouraging
- escapism with videogames and anime
- losing weight might help you deal with anhedonia, especially if you lost weight weithout drugs like ozempic

the point is that its a constant effort of work. it never gets easy, just some days more bearable. i can find my own posts from 2017 where im crying about the pain of no gf

and also hope. one great thing to hope for is ai robowaifus/sexbots. those could save all incels in the future
Anonymous No.82315869 [Report]
>>82315622
really!!! glad to hear self harm scars are a green flag to women
Anonymous No.82315905 [Report]
>>82315725
How can i find them?
>>82315691
I need irl friends not discord friends. Besides i am not talkative enough for such a thing
Anonymous No.82315916 [Report] >>82316011
>>82315745
If i knew what acfivities were around me i might be interested in them
Anonymous No.82315937 [Report] >>82316158
>>82314110 (OP)
Just imagine how miserable sharing your life with someone actually is. They take up space around your house, they leave dishes in your sink, they want regular time out of your day to do things you may not be interested in, like watching a tv show or movie, they'll probably even bring strangers into your home, turning your single refuge in life into another zone you have to put up a socially competent front when you just want to get into your pjs and browse your computer.
Anonymous No.82315975 [Report] >>82316158
>>82314110 (OP)
Cold water (on face/self/parts of your body - literally meant) + move on + start by feeling extremely blessed of extremely grateful for not having... some girlfriends = might help.
Anonymous No.82316011 [Report] >>82316158
>>82315916
Google name of town and
Food drive
Cooking classes
Singles meetup (though those are awkward as hell, maybe not)
Hiking trips
Book club (looooots of women to be found!)
Some kind of political activism (if that doesn't suck to you, idk, it does to me)
Open mic
Clothing swap
Volunteer house building
Tae Kwon Do
You get my fucking point by now, sorry
These are all generally things you don't ever need a date for, everyone goes alone usually
The possibilities are endless, just pick something where people will be and give it a try just once
I mean, I live in the middle of nowhere and even we have an atheist discussion group (meh), a scrabble club (which is not all old people like you'd think), goth picnics, life drawing classes, and fuckin haunted historical tours
I fuckin dare you to pick something and just do it
Anonymous No.82316041 [Report]
>>82314110 (OP)
Not having... even cared about certain (=whatever is inadequate to you) kind of girlfriends... literal skipped you and skips you all the metal trauma of this (both of logical abilities hurt and of emotional ones). I understand being lonely at times and I understand having various (decent of humanity) meltdowns and I understand things not turning up as you hoped they would, but... do you really wish to have some mockups of them? Because... sadly... most of humanity is caught between such mockups and figuring out their worth (to... themselves) and loneliness. You are alone? It hurts? Ok. But for the hurt gotten out of it... you'd better learn all kinds of ways of deeply enjoying it, also. :)
Anonymous No.82316158 [Report]
>>82315937
I don't think thats miserable
>>82315975
I can't move on
>>82316011
How do you make friends during those activities?
Anonymous No.82316803 [Report] >>82316819 >>82316885
If you saw what an actual girlfriend entailed in reality you would no longer want it. The answer to "how do I cope" is always to stop coping and look it in the eye.

The dreamy affectionate romance you always wanted doesn't exist, and the people it would involve are trifling, shallow and insignificant.

The truth will set you free!
Anonymous No.82316819 [Report]
>>82316803
>The dreamy affectionate romance you always wanted doesn't exist
But i see it all the time
Anonymous No.82316830 [Report] >>82316840
>>82314110 (OP)
>I need to know what 2 + 2 is but don't give me that 4 nonsense
Just do drugs you dumb fag
Anonymous No.82316836 [Report]
>>82315470
Is the concept of shills not understood on this board? You guys are getting bombarded with BBC posters every day and it's targeted demoralization by a malicious third party.
Anonymous No.82316840 [Report] >>82316843
>>82316830
I literally can't
I would if i could but i can't
Anonymous No.82316843 [Report] >>82316857
>>82316840
The only thing stopping you is your apparent lack of willpower
Anonymous No.82316857 [Report] >>82316919
>>82316843
I don't want to go to jail anon. They literally imprison you for having drugs here.
Anonymous No.82316885 [Report]
>>82316803
This guy is right, the platonic concept of love is theoretical. Actual love poorly imitates it. This is why stories and plays were so captivating in old times, they gave the audience or reader a glimpse into the ideal, the perfect world, the perfect romance. But it only existed as an idea in the minds of hopeless romantics of the time. Real love is dirty, gross, imperfect, filled with heartbreak conflict and strife. We're imperfect creatures, and so we can never love with the full passion that exists in our minds and our hearts. We always fall short before god.
Anonymous No.82316919 [Report]
>>82316857
I'm pretty sure that's the default. Didn't stop me.
Anonymous No.82316964 [Report] >>82316993
it'll sound cliche but what I like tod o is just be yourself. If you were yourself. If you know what I mean. Just tell her I'm drunk you need to go home.
Anonymous No.82316993 [Report] >>82317023
>>82316964
now that I think about it if she gave you a ride home and stuff you should actruallly ask her to give youa kiss good bye. Because she is sober and deserves it. If she says no just ask her I mean offer her again next time.
Anonymous No.82317023 [Report] >>82317036
>>82316993
wait you don't do that you're going home. Ask her for a kiss and then if she wants to go inside.
Anonymous No.82317036 [Report]
>>82317023
it's actually a lot cooler when one chic does it when you entertain multiple guests they'll like crack open a soda and you're pouring out like a dozen of these things the next day.