Thread 82420209

sigh yep I still miss her, I really need to kill myself soon

I'm so sorry, anon. I'm holding a bottle of coke here, would some sweet ml help you?

>>82420245
um maybe it would help a bit, thanks

>>82420209 (OP)
miss who, anonny ?

>>82420321
my ex gf :(
I can't get over her it's been half a year and I can't get over her :(((((

>>82420325
im so sorry.. did you try contacting her again?

>>82420209 (OP)
Me too.
I am still going over an identity crisis over why she broke up with me. It's fucked me up pretty badly.
I think about her daily, but the love is slowly fading, I now only think about the "what if".

>>82420351
>I am still going over an identity crisis over why she broke up with me. It's fucked me up pretty badly.
>I think about her daily, but the love is slowly fading, I now only think about the "what if".
I can relate anon. For a while it was all my mind could think about. Did I do something wrong? Is there something wrong with me?
Take your time anon. It'll take a while but remember, you'll turn out alright.

>>82420209 (OP)
Yeah I miss her too
Can't do anything about it though, she ruined it
But I miss the good parts

>>82420337
yes I did, it's been months at this point it's clearly over but I still get sad y'know?

>>82420351
yeah I'm going through the same thing too except the love hasn't faded yet, fuck I hate being so obsessive

>>82420325
1. Be friends and ask her why she broke up with you
2. Imagine she died
3. Find someone else

>>82420832
I'll imagine she's dead then I'll kill myself and see her in hell

>>82420209 (OP)
I miss a certain someone too, I just know I'll probably never met her anyway.

>>82420209 (OP)
I know this feeling too well... There's someone I miss. I hate evil third parties, I wish they didn't self-sabotage, and I wish they wouldn't spiral and think up such horrible anxious thoughts to believe as truths.
Why couldn't I be believed by someone who loves me, when there's no basis or evidence to terrible claims? Why did someone who loves me say such horrible things, and think such horrible untrue ideas about me?

>>82420832
>Be friends
this just made the pain worse for me
wouldnt recommend it for everyone

>>82420888
what happened? do you want to talk about it?

>>82420209 (OP)
please can you stop saying things like this.
You are making me feel bad.
There are so many posts like this on the board.
Ovre and ovre again we are subjected to this nuisance.

>>82420925
Can you explain? There's someone I talked to everyday for 6 months before they started checking out and disappeared. It's been over a month and I wanna message them, but I have a bad feeling I'm going to get emotionally rent since I caught feelings for them

>>82420946
I'm sorry I didn't mean to make you feel bad

>>82420959
Being friends, talking to someone you loved (assuming you really felt love) just reminds you of it, and its painful to hold back those feelings

>>82420337
Terrible idea
>>82420832
First point is also a terrible idea. Second point is also unproductive.

Delete her number, text messages, pictures, etc... and keep yourself busy with something else. Pick up a new hobby, (even if it's just a new vidya gayme). It's the only way to move on. Doing the "just friends" bullshit never works.

>>82420979
I don't know what it is. But it was like a fake "let's pretend to have a relationship until we find someone irl" type deal since we lived so far. But I was dumb and caught feelings to the point I started being neurotic. Had a mutual "breakup" and talked for a month before she went away. And I miss her.

>>82420995
I can't bring myself to delete her pictures, I'm not looking at them either because it's painful but I just can't delete them

>>82420995
>First point is also a terrible idea.
Obviously but OP still has feelings after 6 months it's like what the fuck, he should be over it already

>Second point is also unproductive.
He's too weak to get over it so he should just imagined that she died instead

>>82421076
I'm not weak I'm just obsessive it's very different

>>82420940
Loving people who hate living, who have trauma, and who are afraid of everything is hard.
At first it goes great... But they aren't used to people being kind, so they won't let good things happen and think up sinister alterior motives. They then will ask others their opinon, and those people don't know so they blindly agree to what ever they are saying. Which also doesn't help being surrounded by shitposters.
If they feel especially bad they will make themselves hate you, to push you away because you're close. Since they think people close are a threat.
They will overanalyze every word and every statement thinking they contain veiled threats or proof you don't care.
They are suffering and this state where they always put themselves on guard against nothing makes them feel worse.
All this culminates into someone you love saying horrible things to you, horrible things about you, or pushing you away and running off based on these terrible thoughts about you and their pain. Then they feel guilty about it, and try to push you away harder instead of working on not doing these things. Which leaves you hurt because of what they do/say, and also left there worrying about them until they suddenly reappear. It's constant cycles of this, and knowing one day they won't reappear again.

>>82421172
that sounds horrible I'm sorry about that anon

>>82421099
You have limerence

>>82422121
yeah and what's wrong with that?

>>82420325
>I can't get over her it's been half a year and I can't get over her :(((((
same but its been 8 years. I haven't really talked to any other woman or dated since so i haven't had the opportunity to obsess over someone new but maybe finding someone else would help you.

>>82422517
I could try, but now I can't help but compare every girl to my ex