Thread 82512809

What is up with guys swearing up and down that they will never leave and then they leave? like dads going to get milk..

But this happens so often to me there's got to be something I am doing wrong, right? Maybe they see I am too mentally ill or build up some sort of hatred for me? It's very easy to blur the lines between love and hate and turn your love for someone into hate very easily. Maybe it's because I'm constantly changing? Or that I need lots of attention... But not questionable amounts just unstable!11!!11!!! Maybe I get boring after a while? Or something I do just pisses them off and they can't deal with it anymore?

so I guess this is more so about.. what the fuck is wrong with me why do they always leave me

my gf is sucking me right now. Feels pretty good.

>>82512809 (OP)
>Maybe they see I am too mentally ill
This is definitely it. Get stable before you date anyone. Get your life in order.

>>82512809 (OP)
>yet another roastie traumatized by Chad

Yeah, it would be nice to learn why you're getting dumped, but most of the time you never find out. Then, when you do find out, it's something you can't change about yourself. So it almost doesn't even matter, just keep trying until someone wants to stick around, and they'll prove it by not leaving.

>>82512809 (OP)
>"i will never leave"
>oh boy that means i can be as shitty, demanding and unloving as i want now!

the moving finger writes, and having writ, moves on

>gf promises she won't kill herself
>tried to kill herself again and ended up visiting the funny farm for a couple of weeks

>>82512817
this is frying me, thanks for the information.
>>82512825
this is probably true. not everyone comes with a mystery mental illness package. I'll try to work on it, i just thought a relationship is something that could possibly help me. (i guess not?)
>>82512860
I really genuinely appreciate this. Sometimes I just need someone else's point a view, and this is a really good one. Hope we all can find the one huh
>>82512906
ow
>>82512903
not even, all i want to do is be able to shower someone with my love and be able to maybe even feel loved in return. I wanna love someone and I want then to love me too. I wanna feel it. anyway

>>82512809 (OP)
Kind of a useless thing to promise. I've had multiple girls here promise, without my asking them to, that they would never leave me or ghost me, and then they do. It might as well mean nothing. Don't get hung up on any promises of commitment. Demanding them is annoying.

>>82513022
yeah, yeah, we all know what happens when girls that go "i just wanna be loved, waaaah" are single. youre single for a reason.

>>82513022
Love me fembot, I'll let you shower me with affection, and I'll return it too.

>>82512809 (OP)
>>82513022
Okay so the first question is, are the relationships virtual or in person?
If they're virtual, shit's just words on a screen.
As far as why they left you, tell me more about the relationships.
I know that if someone matched my level or even exceeded it in a LDR (or even living close to me) I'd be planning to meet them and go on dates (whatever they prefer, doesn't have to be fancy) within the first week.
I am a hopeless romantic retarded virgin.

>>82512809 (OP)
>Go for sociopathic chad who has 10 different women in his roation because he is "funny and charming" unlike the lonely incel who has nobody
>wonder why she gets ghosted
Lmao every single time. I have never ever ghosted anyone but I am just an autistic robot not something anyone wants.

>>82512809 (OP)
>What is up with guys swearing up and down that they will never leave and then they leave?
I dunno. My ex swore that she'd always love me and then she dear John'd me while I was on deployment. Some people get caught up in their emotions and promise things they won't keep, I guess.

I should have given up sooner I suppose. But I'm stubborn and stupid and I always will be.

>>82512809 (OP)
>why do people lie
Because human beings suck lol
>Or something I do just pisses them off and they can't deal with it anymore?
This could also be true I guess. As a man I tend to just avoid women who piss me off instead of confronting them about it because I know they'll just flip out and will never change so there's no point


Although it's also possible you've just been picking the wrong people to spend time with and need to get better at reading people

>>82513011
This meme is funny af lol

>>82512809 (OP)
I don't get it either. I thought I would be able to encounter someone like myself who's strong willed, but all I ever get are liars.

you cann't really expect anything they say to actually be true. ''i love you so much, i will never leave you trust me bro''.

>>82512809 (OP)
If ur white and American I could do that just post contact also I'll need videos from u every night where u make your asshole wink at ur phone camera

>>82512809 (OP)
People talk too much. They're never truly willing to wait, willing to handle inconveniences, or put up with mental illness. Familial relations can survive but in my limited experience romantic relationships will not. Even if the other side is also mentally ill, even if they approach you, they'll leave in the end ALL THOSE SWEET SWEET LIES MEANT TO LOWER YOUR GUARD SO IT HURTS MORE FUCK

>>82512809 (OP)
Bad people don't mind lying, it's really not that complicated. You also sound extremely neurotic so perhaps they genuinely didn't think they'd leave you at first and then found out you wouldn't be a healthy choice for them. Most relationships start with the good and end when the bad shows up, the trick is figuring out your own bad and then finding someone who's also figured out their bad, or to work on both together with someone who is strong willed.

>>82513558
Maybe you should take accountability for your own shit that obviously drives others away, instead of always blaming the other person. If your mental illness starts off with you treating them kindly and nothing seeming wrong, and then one day you change or snap at them, perhaps you're the issue. If you think someone should trap themselves with you no matter what you do, you're abusive in nature.

>>82513712
Drives others away except for my family members who love me. If you don't love me that's fine but don't tell me you do.
That's not me, don't project your issues or issues you've had with past partners onto me

>>82513695
I give the guy the benefit of the doubt. You don't know how you're gonna feel about someone tomorrow or next week, and if she asks if you're gonna stick around forever and you say no or not sure, then you're going to have an argument or worst case blow up your relationship today. She doesn't know about forever, he doesn't know, it's a trick question. You say yes, be lovey dovey, and avoid a fight.

>>82512809 (OP)
>what the fuck is wrong with me why do they always leave me
i used to call this "curse of the shooting star", i'm not too sure either but maybe it's not so much of a curse as it is a blessing (of evil repulsion)
i don't know how bond oriented you are but i'm someone who bonds with people for life if i'm allowed to, but that's a painful and lengthy process and a lot of people aren't willing to put up with it
those who are, i reward them with my eternal gratitude, love, and presence

i've long since stopped questioning it and instead started trying to overcome it
but if someone's going to leave me after a while (never to come back, i don't mind them leaving for a while temporarily), then i consider myself lucky i dodged a bullet
i wouldn't want to be stuck with someone like that...

but anon, if you ever find the answer for that, i'm all ears
do tell me about it