Thread 82835309

Autism is the biggest hindrance in your ability to get a girlfriend and not looks. Of course not all autistic males will struggle but the vast majority will. That's not meant to be demoralizing in any way and I'm not encouraging you to give up but the fact is that you will have to try a hundred times harder than your average normgroid to get a girlfriend and in many cases even when you try your hardest you are not enough but do you think that mr normgroid even knows what the word try means? Good things just happen to them, the only one who has to try is you. Even if you grow up to be a somewhat functional normal adult the damage from years of social exclusion has already caused plenty of damage. You will always question people's intentions and the worst part is you did nothing to deserve any of this. It's completely undeserved but yet you have to accept that life gave you that one in a hundred chance of being autistic.

Pretty sure my fat gut is to blame for no gf. I really don't want to date a woman heavier than me and that's all I attract.

>>82835309 (OP)
i can see you're trying to circumvent it being classed as demoralisation but :(

>>82835309 (OP)
I don't have autism, but I do have Schizoid Personality Disorder. I feel like that's the most difficult to date on, even moreso than autism. An autist just has struggles picking up social cues, but they can still feel love. I know many autists who successfully have gotten in relationships.
But for me as a Schizoid I genuinely don't think I could ever give a woman the emotional affection they want. And the closer someone tries to get to me, the more I want to get away from them.

>>82835318
>Pretty sure my fat gut is to blame for no gf. I really don't want to date a woman heavier than me and that's all I attract.
I understand pickiness but it's really gonna bite you in the ass eventually. I made sure that my relationship with my ex hit rock bottom and she was lovely girl but I was too stupid to see it.
>>82835325
>i can see you're trying to circumvent it being classed as demoralisation but :(
I tried to thread carefully this time. I don't want to cause distress to people but the struggle is undeniable and we all experience it so there's no point in denying it.

>>82835309 (OP)
sometimes i look at old pictures of myself and i look really visibly autistic
now i see why girls weren't interested in me
feels bad man

Autism is not a thing, just improve your social skills. It's what everyone else does

>>82835403
Autists are the ones who can't do eye contact or small talk after 12 years of school, 2-4 years of college, and X years of working

>>82835359
>I don't have autism, but I do have Schizoid Personality Disorder. I feel like that's the most difficult to date on
It's a sort of pick your poison situation. All men with mental illness or psychiatric disorders struggle immensely in life. Moreso than women.
>An autist just has struggles picking up social cues, but they can still feel love.
It's more than that. Many autists suffer from chronic fatigue and trauma from being basically treated as retards since birth. You already know what it feels like but Imagine growing up in a society that excludes you while simultaneously demanding you be a part of it.
>I know many autists who successfully have gotten in relationships
That's only scratching the surface. Most autistic males that I've known live god awful lives without an ounce of love ot genuine friendships from anyone and I'm not overreacting. They are forced to live lives that no one else would live. Both conditions sucks ass. Schizophrenia even more so but autism is a curse.
>But for me as a Schizoid I genuinely don't think I could ever give a woman the emotional affection they want
I relate to that. I don't even think I could be in a long term relationship to begin with. It exhausts me.

>>82835367
My last ex traumatized me so I have been single for years now, she actually wasn't a fatty.
All other women I tend to attract are 250lb bigguns, I am 230lbs and taller than them. Not a good look so I will lose this gut.

>>82835309 (OP)
Yeah, that's pretty obvious. I hope that after we die, we get to go to some planet together where we are the majority, and the normies are the minority, and they get to see what it's like to live on a planet they don't belong on, and we get to see what it's like to be with our brothers where we belong.

>>82835309 (OP)
Questions for the actual autists in this thread
>one, if it was possible to "cure" autism, would you take the cure or prefer to remain your current self
>two, if you were to have a child and you knew with 100% certainty it would develop autism, would you keep the child or abort it?

>>82835524
For the first one, I don't really know. I've spent my entire life practicing how to mimic these people, and I'm not any happier. Would genuinely being one make me happier? I don't know. Maybe I'm too much of a stranger to them these days to really be one. I should act like that Johnny Cash song, "keep myself", etc. Though half of me says it's best to take the chance at being happy.

For the second, depends on gender. I know autistic women and "autistic" women, and both seem happy to me. But as a man these days, you need every advantage you can get, I wouldn't want to risk it. So keep if it's a girl.

>>82835524
as an adult i would stay myself. if i could go back and cure it from the beginning i would do that.

for the second question same as the other anon. autistic girls can survive fine but i know for a fact that my autistic son would suffer.

>>82835429
Not even professionals understand this. I've been told countless of times by professionals that I can "practise away" my social cluelessnes. If I was able to do that all along why didn't I after going to school for 15 something years? They make it seem like it's a choice to be autistic.
>>82835456
>All other women I tend to attract are 250lb bigguns
Hngnnnnngggnnggggggggghhhh
>Not a good look so I will lose this gut.
Do what works for you.
>>82835498
I hope after I die I get to rest peacefully forever. Undisturbed.
>>82835524
Take the cure obviously. I wouldn't have to mask all the time. I'm not gonna comment on two.

>>82835429
I had to train myself to look people in the eye when they talk to me
The school shrink said thats what gave it away, actually, that's what led to me being diagnosed in the 4th grade, I naturally looked people in the mouth instead of the eyes. I never noticed it till they told me to stop, but everyone else fount it creepy. It's a simple thing but I have to remind myself to do it to this very day.

>>82835524
a.) cure it
b.) abort it
I hate this bullshit about celebrating autism. It's a disability and it's caused me untold pain for years and years. Not only would I not wish that on anyone, I would actively wish that some kind of genetic engineering could eradicate autism. Few things would make me happier than the knowledge that I was of the last generation to have to suffer in this particular way.

>>82835309 (OP)
yes
autism is a death sentence
im just waiting for waifurobots at this point
i have no hope for girls. they all are disgusted by me anyways

>>82835309 (OP)
Life is hard for autistics

>>82835359
I've got autism and I think I've become schizo (either SPD or outright schizophrenia, depends on whether my esoteric experiences are real or not), and you're right about the autism being less crippling. When I was just an autist, I at least had a couple short relationships, but after I Syd Barretted myself, I don't even want a relationship anymore, I just want as much solitude as possible.

>>82835524
I wouldn't change. It makes interaction with normies hard but I genuinely cons them to be the lower form of life.

I wouldn't abort unless there were very severe physical and mental problems. Autism doesn't qualify.

>Autism is the biggest hindrance in your ability to get a girlfriend and not looks.
Yeah, not like I'm also a bald manlet in this fucked era of 'be Chad, or be incel for life'.

>>82835309 (OP)
Demoralizing post. Just stop posting.

>>82835309 (OP)
All it takes to fix "autism" is a year or two of not enabling yourself and doing everything the opposite/leaving your comfort zone. This partially means meeting new types of people, regardless of gender. Most people on this board grew up online and weren't taken outside of the house much as kids.