How do i stop becoming attached almost exclusively to abusive and controlling men

Its not a sexual thing.. being owned and controlled by a dominant guy makes me feel safe and have a purpose. I like that i only have to think of their happiness and my life begins to revolve around them in a really unhealthy way

It makes me feel safe I like being controlled and disciplined for my emotional instability

I got out of an abusive and violent relationship 6 months ago and ive been talking to different guys went on a few dates and sure enough i got attached to the one who likes to degrade and hurt me. I feel like just giving into my mental illness and accepting that i cant form healthy attachments to men

>She's just doing it to be ironic
>She's just doing it for attention from men
>There's nothing sexual about this at all
>It's just subtle political commentary
>It's just mocking how men find this erotic
>It's just commentary on the male gaze.
>It's men who insist on making this sexual
>despite what it may look like, thisnis nothing like TRUE AGP. >She isn't crossdressing (or male)

Women can't be AGP because.... because... because it messes up our narrative okay??