Boymoder who was unwillingly discovered to be trans and taking hormones. Surprisingly my parents didn't react as poorly as I thought. I just had a conversation that went like this though.

> I think you're brave, you know. This is a really hard thing to do, especially nowadays.

"I think I'm being conservative, not brave. I'm not coming out until I've been on HRT for a while, have had laser hair removal, and have trained my voice."

> You know, I think I have a much more feminine affectation in my voice than you. I mean it's one thing if you have it, and you're just hiding it. I go off in my daily life, but in secret half my life is feminine. You know, I have you and your mother in my life. But you just don't have it. And that's okay, you know, you can participate in the community, live your life, and that's fine.

This is coming from a man with a beard and a mustache who isn't remotely feminine and wears cargo shorts and graphic tees exclusively.

"I'm not saying my voice is feminine now. I am training my voice. It would just sound stupid if I tried to make a feminine voice right now, like a mockery."

>But like you don't have to.

"But I do want to train my voice to sound feminine."

> And that's completely okay. And when you do that, I'll acknowledge "Wow, your voice really has changed."

I don't like having these conversations.

>>40467633
The real problem is that the media will just focus on 1 optics bomb instead of 1000 trutrans queens. So you really have to flood the space with positive examples to drown out the optics blackholes, but the paradox is that the most passing trans people will probably just stealth and live happy lives instead of subjecting themselves to the media spotlight. Ultimately you have to incentivize and support those positive examples and somehow give them a reason to defend the neverpasser Shudra caste.

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performative?