Incel, by definition, is someone who wants to have sex, but can't. In practice, it's a man who wants to have a girlfriend, but no woman wants to date.

I'm more or less an incel, because I fit the practical definition, even though I don't interact in the community and I don't share some of their views.

Now, since I was 13, which was before I had the maturity to understand what it means to be an incel (and obviously, long before I knew what an incel was in itself), I've had the desire to date a woman. I don't know if this is normal or not. Maybe it's something common in pre-adolescence. Anyway, the years went by and I reached eighteen without ever having even kissed. I attribute this to the fact that I'm fat and have poor social skills.

It seems that for some time now, all that moves me is the desire to win over a woman: when I take care of my health, I do so thinking that it will increase my chances of getting a woman, and on the rare occasions that I have a good interaction with a woman, I find myself fantasizing about being her boyfriend for a while afterwards (yes, you can call me weird in the comments). I want to have other goals in life besides finding a gf (in particular, college, personal growth, money, sports, among others), but I can't erase women from my horizons.

I'm afraid that I'll only stop trying to get a girlfriend when I actually get one. After all, as Dostoevsky said, men are more interested in pursuing their goals than in achieving them.

I would appreciate it if I could get some advice on how to stop hopelessly doing things for women. Thank you for listening to me.

So... how do you achieve this?
For the physical health reasons listed