Can the married amongst you provide some honest but positive insight into marriage?

I'm 26 and was raised by parents who did their absolute best despite bad circumstances, but there's no doubt their marriage is bad and it affects my outlook on life. I love them, and I have a desire to be a husband, but I have zero desire to start a family. I never really 'got' that feeling of being a big happy family that a lot of my friends mention.

And so when I read or talk to anybody about marriage, I'm really affected by the apparent negativity of it all. My brother got married recently and even though him and his wife a great, they've made a few snide remarks about how "marriage is just arguing about everything." Then there's all the talk about sex drying up which is not a joke to me.

Is this all just coming from a vocal minority of people who suck at marriage? What is like, truly? I'm Orthodox Christian since birth, so I'd be taking the traditional route, supposedely.

Need help from married, preferably Christian anons; I know there's some of you here.

I'm Orthodox Christian since birth, 26, got a decent job and am pretty comfortable around women. I still got a lot of things to work on (my lack of patience is a big issue and I'm a former coomer) but I do have marriage in the back of my mind.

Anyway the whole coomer thing is mostly gone, thank God, but it has made me realise that the sex is really, truly important - both the act itself and everything around it. Ceasing being a coomer never really reduced my sex drive, it just directed it, which tells me I will still be this horny in marriage, if not more.

For the married Christians among you: was there any early sign that your soon-to-be wife was sexually compatible? Bearing in mind pre-marital sex and dirty talk aren't allowed nor a wise idea. The church doesn't really acknowledge sexual compatibility as a thing, just that attraction is vital. Is attraction enough to keep the sex health?