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>I am sure that this comes from your past lived experience,
Anon, if I could trade away every 'good' family memory in exchange for everyone in our family having a level of financial independence from each other, I would.
Money is all that matters at the end of the day.
My parents were never meant to be together, let alone bringing a dead-end like me in the world.
My siblings are the only worth while people that came about from all this...whatever this is.

>especially coming from a messy family situation where people sometimes react with volatility to things entirely unrelated to the problem can cause us to become anxious
I genuinely despise when our family decides to get together for vacations or holidays (despite the fact we are apparently always one bad day away from losing everything and becoming destitute).
It's a constant test of anxiety and frustrations, I have no sway in the decisions that gets made around me.

>After all, if we feel like there is no rhyme or reason to when people blow up at us, we start to think it's our fault somehow,
I must be my fault a little for not being financially independent yet...or something...honestly my brain can't keep up with this stuff any more.

>even though the reality is more often than not the reasons they reacted that way was completely removed from us
A fair point.

hi