>>82140221
>What people actually want is a partner
I'll do you one better, anon. What people really need is human connection.
A lot of people are isolated and they struggle to truly connect with even their friends and family. They can't be properly vulnerable or understood in their vulnerability. They can't work with these people toward something better. They do not feel community or comraderie with whomever (if anyone) is around them. They have the expectation that a romantic relationship will finally provide them with this; They will finally understand someone and deeply care for this person and victims versa.
The sad truth is that most relationships fail because this does not happen in them. People whom are lonely, without realizing it, will take advantage of another person to fill the void inside of them by transposing an ideal of the person they wish to be with on someone who is vaguely similar out of desperation. This mutual maladaptive pattern causes both parties to create a feedback loop of codependency which will eventually fall apart. Neither party will realize this is what they are doing.
The solution? I wish I knew. The best I can tell you is to find some real friends. I have a few men that I am willing to kill and die for. And despite my circumstances, I can drag myself through the day time and time again because I know they are there for me, and I am there for them.
