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I argue that the problem lies in people thinking that suffering is separate from the life experience instead of a integral part of it. In avoiding and denying suffering a man creates cognitive dissonance that doesn't allow him to fully relax. In thinking that there's some sort of cosmic injustice that he has to experience suffering he makes himself spiteful and envious.
You only truly "get it" when you fully accept that the ups and downs are both equally part of life.