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Well the other option is ritualistic courtship which relies on more formal social structures, and we don't have that anymore. Got ripped to shreds by immigration and TV, although the final bullet in the head was the smartphone. If there's a formal way for a man to politely indicate interest and a woman to politely accept or decline without anyone losing too much face, men with no confidence "game" can succeed by simply being sincere and having a good offer.
Without that, you need a confidence game. It's valuable just to realize that it's neither "confidence" nor "game" that works, it's a confidence game that works. As in a con. Everything that every seduction expert teaches matches almost 1 to 1 with how you run a confidence scam, it's all the same levers. Which is why women have so much trouble finding anything serious these days and why serious men can't seem to get anywhere.
Why do they call it a confidence game? Because you give me your confidence? No, it's because I give you mine.