Thread 2810635

>dude, just go to hostels bro. It's so easy to make friends.

Meanwhile, in reality:
>check in at hostel in the middle of day. It's completely empty because everyone is out in the city
>nothing to do at hostel, so go out into the city to site see
>cool sites, but everyone is in their own groups walking around, thus impossible to approach
>if you see someone alone, they're either waiting for someone, or if they're not, you'll look like a creep rapist if you approach, so again not possible
>go to bar area at night, everyone is in their own groups
>go back to hostel at peak hours.
>go to hostel bar, everyone is busy with their own conversations. Even have 1 Chad hogging convos with 2 women
>go to hostel lobby area
>entirely overrun by one giant normie group, with 1 or 2 chads hogging everyone's attention
>give up and decide to just go to bed
>remember I got paired in a room with boomers who sleep early and snore
>nothing to do but sit in a corner in the lobby while I'm surrounded by normies with their own groups having their own convos that I can't possibly include myself in

It is genuinely impossible to make friends if you don't already have them. If you solo travel an incel, you will continue as one like you never left home.
Better to just not travel at all until you have a gf/wife, or some other tight friend group to go

>>2810635 (OP)
I slept with 2 women (1 hostel, 1 local) in 2 weeks between London and Edinburgh, sounds like a skill issue. Have you considered being nonwhite?

>>2810635 (OP)
You have to get /fit

>>2810650
Unironically, in the European city I'm staying in right now, I'm seeing way more white women with Black men than I ever did in the States. Meanwhile, all the white men are with Asian women.
I think you're right in that being non-white (other than Indian) is seen as more quirky and interesting than it is in the US, and thus they get more attention.
But there's nothing I can do about that

>>2810635 (OP)
Have you ever tried not being autistic as shit?

>>2810635 (OP)

No one owes you social interaction.

>>2810655
I'm Indian lol

>>2810663
Oh explains all the sex tourist larps on /trv/, it's just incel pajeets.

>>2810678
Why are you malding so hard

>be in hostel
>random girl says hello
>says she and some others are going to a site tomorrow and if I'd like to come
>say yes
>make a bunch of friends, some visit me in my home country
It's really that easy tbqh

You probably frown a lot, unintentionally, without realising, so everyone thinks you're pissed of when you're not. Very common amongst autists.

>staying in hostal
>having a pint making small talk with some people
>Amerilard stumbles in
>UHH HELLO CAN I CHECK IN
>it's 10am ....
>.....
>SO CAN I CHECK IN THEN
>get's told no but unfortunately they mention he can sit in the common room
>waddles in letting out a voical sigh after
>SO WHERE ARE YALL FROM HUH?
>... A civilized place, I take it you're from ameirca
>YUP BORN AND RAISED BLESS TRUMP!
>well obviously, but here we keep our voices down and respect others
>this confuses the amerimutt
>WE AT LEAST WE HAVE MUH GUNS AND WE ARE FREEDOM AND-
>and your fat, please be kind to the ladies in the room and keep your voice down if you want to talk that loud you should go home and talk there we could probably still hear you
>YOU THINK THAT'S FUNNY LITTLE EUROPEAN HUH I KILLED 50 MEN
>You more likey killed 50 cheese burgers before lunch
>hear the desk lady laugh
>he gets up sweaty and leaves
>get thanks by a girl across the way too
had a good night that night too

>>2810727
lmao, would like to see you try and play these silly larpy games with a real veteran.

Nah you can meet people but if your mindset is stuck with being insular you won't meet anyone.
I stayed in a few hostels in Spain and ended up talking to a few people, specifically an EDM musician from Chile who was chilling at the common area about to head to bed but if you're not a transient waiting for a train or flight I'd imagine I would've been more willing to chat some people up. Even then if you're not super comfortable being dragged out to somewhere alien don't force it but don't be an autist and think you're interfering. Just say "hello" and most times they'll engage with you as long as your open and not being a robot faggot.

>>2810635 (OP)
Hostels are faggy
Breathing other people's farts and stinky feet odor while you sleep is not cool, especially when they keep shutting the window because they hate a draft.
You're still a bitch. Nothing's stopping you from breaking the ice with any of the groups you see chatting, apart from your timidity.

>>2810635 (OP)
I don't want to be an asshole, but the problem is you.
I have never had issues making friends at hostels. Have you considered walking up to these groups of people and introducing yourself? If they are nice, they'll invite you into the conversation. If they are assholes (rare) you can go find some other people.
No one at a hostel is "impossible to approach"
I always do my own thing during the day and socialize with the hostel at night.

>>2810635 (OP)
your just a boring person anon

>do things
>make small talk
>plan on doing things
>ask of others plans
>ask follow up questions

Maybe your just an asshole and don't care about other peoples lives and just want thier attention, whatever, I get it - but closed mouths don't get fed, it really is just

>talk
>talk back

>>2810635 (OP)
>hostel
May I ask how old you are? I'd rather pay more for my own room (with 2-3 beds) and my own shower and toilet, where I can masturbate in. It's not that much more money. + I just dont trust my belongings with other people even though I take the most valuable with me, I just dont want to risk unnecessary shit.

>>2810961
25
Yes, I am perfectly capable of affording a hotel, but I'd rather have the hostel experience instead of coming home to an empty room every night. Some hope is better than none

>>2810961
Sadly in some places hostels are significantly cheaper than hotels. Spanish hostels were like $25 USD a night for a shared dorm bed while a similar hotel room would be at least $100 USD. Why pay double when I can use that $75 saved for a good dinner or to do excursions?

/trv/ really needs flags. I don't want to read posts from fucking Indian people.

>>2811531
Guesthouses are the intermediate option.
Shared toilet and kitchen, bedrooms often small. Sometimes they have a sink and a fridge. You should be able to find something for $40 per night in a lot of Europe, though you might have a bit of walking to get to the tourist hotspots.

What is the luggage situation like in hostels? In hostel threads people often mention stealing, how do you keep your stuff safe? Are there lockers? Or do you just have to leave it in the dorm and trust people not to touch it?

>>2811598
That was the option I did once in a rural village, sadly most cities and towns don't have these. I definitely would love to travel more of the backwoods of Europe again and find more agrotourist guesthouses. I stayed at one in a small village about 55km west of Tarragona that was owned by a local winemaker who took me on a private tour of the cellar and had some very good wines and locally grown nuts, cheese and olives. If the area didn't have insane drought and water supply issues I'd probably love to live there long-term.

>>2811605
Most hostels have lockers that fit travel backpacks and small luggage but likely not full sized above 50L capacity. I usually kept important stuff (passport, credit cards, ID, large amounts of cash, phone) in a belt under my clothes while I slept.

>>2810635 (OP)
>be whatever mongrel you are
>see things that work out for white chads/high tier normies
>believe this could be you
>cry about it when you realize nobody wants to associate with an non-white male
There's a reason you people stick with eachother. Unleses you're some 6'10" exception, this is what you can expect to happen on repeat.

>>2811610
This is the rudest post I've ever seen.
I'm white and not OP and it still hurt my feelings!

>>2810635 (OP)
It's not just when travelling, it's impossible to meet new people in general. Everyone you see is sequestered in pre-existing closed friend groups and if you try to approach you come across as a creep rapist

>>2811744
Why would you try and approach? There are ways of befriending people in groups, but why would you just cold approach them and think that's normal?

>>2811760
Cold approaching is normal in a hostel

>>2811744
You need to stop using social media and consuming goyslop.
This isn't the case at all. Break free of the shackles and stop caring what literal p-zombies think, ffs.

>>2811760
Then what are you supposed to do? Wait until someone approaches you?

>>2811795
No, just participate in activities. Hostels always have some group activities going where it's appropriate to talk to the people around you. But just walking up to someone at a hostel and trying to start a conversation with them is weird. You immediately think, "What does this guy want?"

>>2811798
Then when someone comes to the room you just say hi and then you pretend they don't exist? Is it not weirder than some smalltalk to break the ice?

>>2811808
Not weird at all. In fact, why do you feel like you have to talk to people at a hostel? It's just a place to sleep.

>>2810635 (OP)
Why in the fuck are you trying to make friends by traveling? That makes zero sense. You don't travel to make friends, you go to experience things outside your regular bubble. Are you really that incapable of enjoying alone time? I agree that it's hard to make friends, but travel is the least efficient way to do so.

>>2811795
how many people approach you anon?

>>2810635 (OP)
You clearly can't make friends because you're a neurotic mess with a warped sense of reality, OP. No one is going to think you're a creep or rapist for approaching them. A warm smile and a "hey how are you" go a long way.

Get good at mindfulness meditation unironically if you're feeling on edge. Or have about 3 drinks for a quick fix.

>>2810635 (OP)
>incapable of enjoying things alone
>see people I could become friends with
>my negative outlook on everyone prevents me from wanting to connect with everyone
>go home and post a picture of a guy who wants to shoot himself on 4chan and disparage the people who I never even tried to get to know

anon everything about you screams energy vampire

>>2810650
>Getting laid in England
Would honestly consider walking up a small 10m high hill more of a challenge

/r9k/ is leaking again
>>>/r9k/ go back and stay there.

>>2810635 (OP)
>Better to just not travel at all until you have a gf/wife, or some other tight friend group to go
Why? I don't travel to make friends, and I'm not going to spend my life doing nothing waiting on other people's plans to align with mine.

>>2810635 (OP)
>buy beer
>"hi, is this place taken", "no"
>"thanks, I'm anon"
Dont be a sperg

>>2812835
>be me
>sitting at a bar waiting for a friend
>some weirdo sits next to me and introduces himself
>here we go
>starts asking me questions
>its obvious he rehearsed them in his mind
>he seems desperate
>just want the conversation to end as quickly as possible
Approaching complete strangers who you know nothing about is as spergy as it gets

>>2812839
If a male starts speaking to me at a bar, I'd just assume they're a faggot.

>>2812839
this

>>2810635 (OP)
>>2811744
The answer is to get drunk so you no longer care. Even in the worst case scenario you can laugh it off the next day.

>>2810635 (OP)
I use tinder so I have a woman waiting for me when I get there. Makes it easier to find a place to stay too

>>2812272
I couldn’t get laid in England.

>>2811605
I would NEVER leave my wallet or passport laying on the bed in a hostel, but nobody's gonna steal my beat-up $150 laptop or my outdated $70 phone while it's charging.
>what about my $1000 iPhone
If you're rich enough to have nice things, why the fuck are you staying in a poorfag dormitory?
>>2811760
One bold, talkative, persistent person is necessary to get a bunch of solo hostelfags to put down their phones and chat with each other. Cold beers materialize, and soon everyone is swapping stories about faraway places.
>>2811798
It's normal to say hi, introduce yourself and maybe ask a couple questions when you encounter someone else in the kitchen. Acting like other hostelfags don't exist is weird and antisocial, but unfortunately with zoomzooms it's becoming more and more common.
>>2811808
If all you get is curt one-word answers, then you can safely break off the conversation.
>>2811835
>it's just a place to sleep
Those are the suck-ass hostels. Places where temp laborers sleep. They're tired from a day of wagecuckery, they have no travel stories to share, they couldn't care less where you're from, they just want to cook dinner and vegetate.
>>2812087
Depends on the country. It happens fairly often when I'm in a positive mood, almost never when I'm grumpy. Sometimes I end up hanging out with randoms I met for hours. One time I got to drinking with some Lao guys in a village despite neither of us speaking a word of the other's language.

>>2812092
"How are you" is an American thing. Other cultures may not realize that you are supposed to reply "doing great, how bout you?" instead of talking about how you are actually doing.
>>2812930
Stash some beers in the fridge, then crack your first one after introductions with someone who seems interesting. Other people and other beers will materialize. Getting drunk and then trying to approach someone who is sober isn't gonna work.

>>2812839
>"sorry, I'm waiting for a friend"
Don't be a sperg

>>2810635 (OP)
location is everything. try visiting places where people are more hospitable. I dont even stay in hostels and meet people throughout the day even when im not in the mood. Half the time im approach and most ppl just wanna know wtf im doing in their town/city/village but it's and ice breaker than inevitably gets me introduced to more people or invited somewhere

TLDR: location, location, location

>>2810650
Confirming truth, white aussie got nothing in the UK and saw more race traitors than I've ever seen in my life, even converts to Islam. I now laugh at rape

>>2810702
I think you're forgetting I am ugly and 35

Seeing people in a happy couple and knowing I can't have that without years of commitment just mentally breaks me, I have everything else, money, luxury place (think American psycho apartment) what's missing is a wife and kid and having it pushed in my face all the fucking time when I just wanna enjoy a museum or a castle literally brings me to tears.

>>2810635 (OP)
sounds like something is really wrong with you
im quite spergy and wouldnt rate myself over 6/10 and i had no issues starting convos with randoms and even got laid a few times

>>2813144
>>2813145
>>2813159
Judging from these posts, I think your problem is that you are erratic and intense. Chill out and stop being so filled with hate.

>>2810661
such a reddit answer

why do people meet with other people in hostels but not in hotels. there is a lobby in every hotel but it's quite usually. what we need is party hotels actually. private rooms, hotel quality BUT party at the same time.

>>2814516
Fuckin ell. Nothing more annoying than loud drunks in the corridor at 2 AM, slamming doors and waking everyone up with their rudeness.

>>2814516
Hostels have parties because they're filled with young people seeking adventure.
Hotels, meanwhile, are filled with boomers, honeymooners, and families who just wanna relax and not engage with degeneracy

>>2813145
And indian

>>2810635 (OP)
how to make friends abroad
step 1) have drugs

that's it
there is no step 2

have drugs :)

yet another indian turd thinking that anybody could possibly be interested in getting to know him, or that he has anything at all to add to any conversation or social circle

what a hopelessly fucked up human subspecies, every male indian believing they are some sort of main character despite having zero wit or talent, and every indian woman being a fat dumpy piece of shit only suitable for a drunken shag

>>2814586
DUDE WEED LMAO
I NEED DRUGS TO HAVE FUN IN MY VACATION MAN LIKE IN NIT ADDICTED I JUST NEED WEED 25/7

Tell me about it

>>2814586
What kind, I went through 6 weeks in England talking to no one but cashiers and then only made friends in Thailand with ladyboys, I am desperate enough