Thread 2824719

>finally have a good WFH job and financial stability for things like travelling
>I'm almost 40
it's over

>>2824719 (OP)
time to kys then, innit?

>>2824719 (OP)
Should have backpacked as a brokie in your prime years. Probably would have gotten tons of pussy that way too

>lying around and cuddling
>asks me their name
>can't remember
>YOU FORGOT? ARE YOU REALLY THAT FUCKING OLD?
>almost 40
Old age jokes settle it. There can be no delusions of having more time. Aging is always a hard hit and aging cannot be stopped.

It's over unc. Stay in your wage cage. Land of the free is your cell.

45yo here. Practice gratitude. You're in a better position than ~90%

I'm almost 50 and never stopped traveling. Get in shape.

>>2824757
Aging is the future for huge swaths of the world. If you want to be around young people, you can go to sub-Saharan Africa.
>almost 40, goes to Thailand
>average age in Thailand is 41 years
>still perceived as young

>>2824719 (OP)
better late than never anon
my family was poor as church mice when i was a kid and i didn't really travel anywhere until i got a job that involved travel
i haven't really stopped since then and probably won't until they carry me off the plane in a box
just enjoy it anon. chances are you're still going to be better off than all of the fucking mouthbreathers on this board

>>2824719 (OP)
I'm almost 40 and work from home as well and travel more and more each year. What's your problem?

Midlife crisis is a bitch. Get in shape anon, it wont give you back the lost years but you will sure look and feel younger.

>>2824719 (OP)
>it's over
why? You can still a lot of shit at that age.

>>2826265
like?

>>2827245
Bird watching, crochet, stamp collecting.....ooh! Coin collecting! Call it Numismatology when you hit 50+ to add refinement and credibility to it.

It will say "Im an adult." and not "Im still working things out."

travel is best done when you're unemployed and on the brink of financial ruin

>>2824719 (OP)
Fuck off grandpa nobody cares

>>2827280
I'm afraid this is true, I'm in a noticeable better position that most of my peers but they have more fun memories and experiences than I, it fucking sucks.

>>2827301
then again the grass is always greener
part of them will wish they had your better finances and stability

>>2824767
It’s one thing to believe that you are better off than most people on earth. It’s mother for that belief to actually make you feel better.

time to settle down with a SEA ladyboy prostitute wifu

Yeah, well it's gonna be the norm more and more since boomers ruined everything for everyone.

>>2824719 (OP)
>I'm 40 it's over
Did /fit/ or some "alphamaxxing" zoomed tiktoks tell you that?

>>2827280
>>2824724
trvth nvkes

Solo travel is overrated. It's basically just you, drunk and alone in different places. It works better for Chad or Stacey because everyone wants to fuck them wherever they go.

Find a wife, have some kids, take them on a cruise or go to Disneyland or something. Go to SEA for the temples when you retire.

>>2827534
Don't threaten me with a good time

>>2830483
peak NPC post

>>2824778
this
there are 80 year olds who still do marathons
stop whining and get healthy

Same, I'll never have this, I'm too old now
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FHCYHldJi_g

>>2824778
>>2830624
Based.

>>2824719 (OP)
It's sad to realize there are anons older than my dad on some anonymous board posting pathetic shit like this. Why didn't you do this earlier? I spent 6 months working saving every penny so I could travel to Japan, and I just barely turned 20. Waiting your whole life to live, then being filled with regrets.

>>2831380
Good for you anon

>>2829487
It's hilarious how demoralized /fit/ actually is
>>2830483
I make plenty of friends traveling alone, sounds like a (You) issue? Need to find expat and nomad groups before you go in many places, they don't give a shit you're a blow-in, it's someone different to the usual crowd

>>2831380
Not him but...

I also started traveling to Asia at 20, but it's different when you're a troubled anxious kid fresh out of American suburbia and a dysfunctional abusive family.
I have regrets because I didn't have my shit together to some basic degree back then with lots of psychological baggage. I wanted to get things together but didn't know how and no one would teach or help me. I never had a stable, safe, private, comfortable place to live until I was 30.
Now I'm almost 40 and finally have shit pretty solid together, at least financially, but it's still not the same at all.

You really need to be born into a fortunate position to travel well when you're that young. Or at least not in a total shit position from other peoples bullshit. Being mental from bad environments and anxious takes a lot of time to fix.

>>2831380
>I spent half a year paying for a trip to Japan
Do weebs really?

>>2831380
Nobody cares. You live at home with your parents and have an easy life. Most aren't so lucky.

To fully experience travel, you must be naive, stupid and inexperienced. AKA young, so yeah, it's over.

>>2834029
>retarded blackpill fuckwit 'jakposter chimes in
I still smash zoomer backpackers while approaching 40. Young guys are retarded and self-absorbed, they don't have the money to do anything actually fun.
How many young people are doing heli-tours or liveaboard reef diving while on holiday?

>>2824719 (OP)
Why don’t you just move to central Vietnam with your fancy job and bride a Russian.

Sorry but no second chances

>>2834337
>let me show you two student athletes who train and study their asses off to stay on the team to illustrate that self-improvement doesn't work
this post is and always has been lazy retard blackpill cope shared by crabs-in-a-bucket fatalists who are frightened of piloting their own destinies

Mid 30s and having this same realization anon. We just have to do better with whats left.

>>2831419
there's literally a 0% chance you will score a girl like that when traveling if you are 30+ unless there's money changing hands.

what kind of expectations do you guys have for travelling? unless you live in a third world shithole you can go across country by bicycle in summer basically for free (you can even rent out your place in that time). vagrant holiday gave some useful tips where to sleep (I explicitly mentioned bicycle because travelling by airplane and then train within the country like he did is more expensive than just renting or buying some used bike at destination). most could afford that on social benefits, no need to work at all. if that is too hardcore, consider a slightly higher budget, take a car, anything the size of a sedan or bigger and sleep in there.

but if "travelling" is just another word for prostitutes and drinking (hence saving money), just say so, it has nothing to do with going to new places, with adventure.

>>2834613
Based and true. There are too many failed normies on this board and not enough eccentric travelers.

>>2834613
I enjoy experiencing other cultures, cuisines, architectures. Just wandering around a city that's completely foreign to yours is pretty fun. If I just want to see a nice lake or mountain then sure I can find that within driving distance, but that is only a fraction of the experiences that travel brings you.

>>2834029
>>2827280
I hate that this is true, but my euro trip I was dead broke with a maxxed out credit card. I met a thick blonde Argentinian I was 23 iirc and she was like 31, she nursed my ego and my loins for a few days. Some rando slavs smoked me out because they felt bad that I got scammed by some nigerian selling shit weed, I made friends with an ameriboo french dude who was taking his harley to the northern most point in scandinavia after crashing out from working as a lawyer. He wouldn't shut up about how much he loves brown pussy. You can't plan that kind of shit. I get some money and try again? It's entirely forgettable.

32 years old with 3 kids now and that was like 10 years ago. I'm pretty lame, but I'm glad I got my one retard adventure. I'm finally getting another real vacation soon and probably my last for a while. This time compensating by getting 5 star hotels and business class because I can afford it, I just can't afford the time I'd actually want.

>>2834358
Fatalism is based. A true fatalist doesn't rage against his fate, he accepts it and makes the best of it. My dick is deformed and it makes sex both difficult and unsatisfying. So be it. I can live without sex and all the pitfalls associated with it, even if it means a life mostly devoid of exciting moments.
>>2834790
Heightened environmental awareness is something good to practice anywhere, even if it is a place you have spent much time in. Don't use familiarity as an excuse to be an NPC mindlessly going through your programmed routine.
>>2834029
You can still choose to be stupid even when you're old & experienced. I've met many oldfags who still knew how to be young, how to drink too much and say shocking impulsive things and drive recklessly and assume everyone is a friend.
>>2831461
You've never had the experience of living with a bunch of misfits, coming out of your shell and getting rowdy every night? Shit. Yeah it's all gonna break down and get ugly at some point, but while it's fun, you might as well roll with it and not give a thought to the future.

>>2824719 (OP)
imo depending on the person you become too old for party hostels in Asia a little after 30. But hostels everywhere else have lots of older people. What exactly are people too old for here? Disneyland? You’re not too old to switch your job/take time off either. Self limiting beliefs.

>>2835134
>and makes the best of it
That's good and not the crabs-in-a-bucket blackpill wallowing I was describing. Cultivating a healthy mentality and maximizing your situation is self-improvement.

>>2824719 (OP)
You see 75-80 year old couples traveling all over the place and having a good time. They would probably be thrilled to wake up as their 40-45 year old self and have all that money and time to do whatever they want like you do. Think about it.

>>2824719 (OP)
Dude I ran into an 84 year old woman that was traveling solo in France. Stop deluding yourself into thinking you're too old to have fun

>>2835134
>You've never had the experience of living with a bunch of misfits, coming out of your shell and getting rowdy every night? Shit. Yeah it's all gonna break down and get ugly at some point, but while it's fun, you might as well roll with it and not give a thought to the future.
Nope. I always hated people like that because that's more like what everyone around me seemed to be including my family. If they/we had problems people just seem to ignore it and do something else to distract themselves and not solve problems, then take their frustrations out on those around them. And I was often times the whipping boy and/or had to deal with the fallout of their choices in life and then how they want to treat me. I ended up being very anxious and avoidant.
>and not give a thought to the future.
Especially this part. I remember being anxious about the future in ways ever since I was a child. I've literally never been relaxed and felt good about my surroundings and life in general.
I was the one who was different and tried to plan and work to improve my lot but was never really appreciated or understood and even had people thwarting my efforts or fucking with me along the way like it's just funny. Ridiculous.
"Relax and have fun" while being entirely present and just in the moment is something I STILL struggle with.

Blah blah blah whatever.
I keep writing a lot more but then deleting it. I think I should write this in my journal and not here.

>>2824719 (OP)
Just go do whatever you want. You have one life bro better live it and do the things.

>>2835134
> My dick is deformed

>>2824719 (OP)
im not too sure how to respond to this. but I'm 40 now, and I've done the whole travelling thing earlier in my life, so much so that I'm over it. there's barely any place in the world right now that I'm dying to visit. during my time off, I'd rather stay home, chill, watch the cricket and smoke meth.

> experience different cultures
it's a fucking meme...unless you plan on living there

if youre 40 already, there's no way to claw back the type of travelling you would have done in your 20's. I mean, you can still go to places you want to visit, but just dont be staying in a hostel, hoping to party with 22 yr old sluts.

>>2835421
samefag here

there's still some reasons I would like to travel though. i would like to visit the pyramids, but would like not to interact with any gypos. but the main reason i still travel is to get business and first class seats. I went to Jakarta earlier this year on business class, and johanesburg on first, i had no reason to go to those places other than the premium seats I was able to get.

i don't travel to fuck whores...anymore. I can just fuck whores at home in my comfort zone where i can be the true degenerate i am. I still do fuck whores when travelling though, its just not the reason i travel...anymore.

i blew my load inside a whore in jakarta, and in joburg i paid a nigga to stick her tongue in my asshole. i was so scared that she would rob my stuff

What's the cutoff for being slightly too old to party with young sluts? My roommate in Chiang Mai fucked an 18 yr old allegedly and he was like 40 something
>t. mid 20s virgin trying to catchup for the past

>>2836486
still being a virgin at like 25 is not a big deal bro
you're still very young
just chillax

>>2827280
Nah I did this and was too anxious, uncertain for the future, and depressed. Also missed out on some things because I didn't have enough money. Held back a lot because I didn't want to spend the little I had left towards the end.

Having money is comfy and smooths out whatever troubles come.
>place sucks? Move
>price bracket consistently shit? Increase nightly costs
>dating is uninteresting or awkward? Break the ice with their hourly rate
>get scammed a bit? The cost of the lesson is minor. Zero stress
>don't want to leave? Just stay
>tired of this fucking dump? Buying a plane ticket
Etc etc

Some decent memories of hitchhiking and camping in cities with a friend though when we were almost completely broke and had to eat at charity kitchens.
But even that was a big period of regret for me because I did that instead of staying in Asia because... You guessed it. Running out of money.

>>2836486
The existential dread and the "fuck I'm old my life is over" thinking is literally a binary switch in your brain. It could hit you when you hit 30, it could be at 35, it could be when you're 52. Just keep on keeping on, you're only too old when you let those intrusive thoughts win.

(Unless you're balding)

>>2836486
I'm in the same virgin boat. I was in Berlin, which is supposed to be easy mode, and I couldn't score even there. How the fuck are you supposed to talk to anyone, let alone rizz em up, when everyone is just already in their own groups?

I'm flying to Vietnam in two weeks. From there the plan is to get to Singapore for the flight back home. Havent got much planned but I'm optimistic.
The first and only time I've been in SEA was when I was 23. Thailand and Cambodia. And that was 13 years ago lmao. Cant lie, this trip is to brush off the midlife crisis a little bit and possibly to find some company. Didnt do whores, drugs, shady shit young, propably wont do them now. Meeting people always seemed pretty easy there. You get a lot of energy just from being active all day every day, seeing new shit and relaxing in your own pace. And what I remember there were plenty people around their 30's backpacking. And even if the place is disneyland for twenty-year-old teenagers(like I remember), you can do my own thing. Like check what the locals are doing. There're quite many of them.

Dont fucking give up you homos. Especially if you're single and have a steady job. What's stopping you?

>>2824719 (OP)
Average age of Everest climbers is 38.
>b-b-but sherpa's do everything
So you're a confirmed fatass then?

>>2836486
>mid 20s virgin
based
>trying to catchup for the past
>party with young sluts
cringe
I regret wasting irreplaceable time and energy with whores. I should have put a higher priority on seeking out wife material at a younger age.

>>2837735
If you have hobbies or interests and interact with relevant groups you can start building a social circle on your first day in a new city with minimal social skills.

>>2837746
>I should have put a higher priority on seeking out wife material at a younger age.
Cringe
Wives are for settling down. Being young is about experiencing as many things as you can while you're still being able.

>>2837743
that's the thing, it shouldn't be 38. mt everest is like disney world these days lol

>>2824719 (OP)
>finally have a good WFH job and financial stability for things like travelling
>i'm almost 30
We're so back baby

>>2837751
Yep. Marriage is for losers. If you're attractive you keep meeting new ones.

>>2837753
I get it, you're obese and have never tried to hike anything intensive. The idea that Everest is disney world just because sherpa's put up cables ahead of time is the biggest understatement of the century. You're legitimately a fucking retard if you think it's a walk in an amusement park because of the cables and the sherpa's.