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The number one important rule is to not break a child's trust. The one cardinal mistake parents make is making it so a child feel they have to hide something from you.
Imo be rational and divorce your ego to the point of autism, which means don't instill any misguided puritanical principles in your kid like sex = bad.
Educate your kids about sex early as soon as they're old enough to understand, like maybe 6 years old for most kids, don't hide it from them.
"Do you know how you were born?" Then show them some nature shows of animals having sex, like bears, turtles, lions etc, go into the mechanics or how the penis enters the vagine and dispenses sperm which reaches the egg.
Then teach them about how hormones in human and animal bodies facilitate sex and sexual desire and how that leads to a desire to masturbate. Teach them how masturbation is normal, that everyone does it, and that it's not shameful. If they want to masturbate they should just say "I want to go masturbate" and they can be afforded that time alone without judgement. Obviously teach them that this candor is only something that her home affords though and that she shouldn't impress it on other families or friends because they might have different moral values.
Install locks on their door when they hit 8 years old, buy them a dildo, teaching them the importance of boundaries and privacy, then let them explore their sexuality on their own. Oh an tell them about the risks of schlicking it too hard too like friction burns so probably buy them some lube too.
There I fixed your potential future family trauma and teenage rebelliousness.
With piercings/tattoos/drugs be similarly supportive but also educate on the risks. Discourage non-ear piercings but don't outlaw it. Tell her how tattoo ink accumulate in lymph nodes and poison her gradually in the future, tell her how the toxic chemicals in cigarettes weaken her lungs and body, tell her how most people get addicted to drugs to cope with pain.
