Thread 213435347

>shingles
>migraines
>vision loss
Hader bros... is heckin' anxiety really this bad?

safe and effective

>>213435347 (OP)
damn dude
just lay off the coke for a while

>>213435347 (OP)
Why are we all so anxious nowadays?

>>213435373
im anxious because my gf gets mad at me weekly for not reading her mind. she will have 4 hour phone calls telling me why Im not doing a good job in the relationship
ive lost more hair in the past 6 months than the past 2 years

>>213435347 (OP)
He ran out of benzos

>>213435395
Is she really a good gf?

>>213435395
does she deepthroat you to make up for it?

>>213435347 (OP)
anxiety won't give you migraines or vision loss, but many things rich tards like hader will take to cope with anxiety will

>>213435347 (OP)
>Has "crippling anxiety"
>Works in show business and did comedy on live television as his job for several years
Yes, definitely the behavior of a chronically nervous man.

>>213435373
There is no unifying monoculture or morality anymore and multiculturalism has destroyed public trust. We're all at the mercy of our big giant insane governments who spy on us, steal half our income and can shut down society or start a war on a whim whenever they want.

>>213435432
i keep trying to tell myself that. i have low self esteem and blame myself when things go wrong, and i think she uses me as a punching bag sometimes
>>213435457
she doesnt do oral sex. we dont really have much sex at all because I dont find it enjoyable

>>213435395
Sounds like my ex BPD gf. Goodluck!

>>213435347 (OP)
I like Hader
>>213435489
Break it off, faggot

Be the change you want to see in the world, fellers

>>213435519
how did you get out of it anon?
everyone ive talked to for advice said its not a good relationship to be in

but then there are times when shes nice. she made dinner for my mom when she came to visit
she often pays for us when we go out, shes sitting on 150k in the bank and just wants to spend it on us. She wants me to put a baby in her asap but I dont know what she would be like once she became a wife/mom. Shes turning 34 this year and isnt on BC so maybe its hormones idk

>>213435474
This. I'll bet he doesn't eat healthy or work out or meditate, but he definitely took the pills recommended by an insane Jew therapist and the mRNA shot from an insane Jew doctor.

>>213435489
If she's a nagging bitch and she doesn't even put out, why aren't you dumping her ass? Were you raised by a single mother and you dont know anything better than a cranked up bitch on your ass 24/7?

>>213435487
I don't think you have the real reason.

>>213435668
What an enlightening contribution. Thanks dumbass.

>>213435489
if you don’t even get oral, let alone deepthroat, for 4 hour nagging sessions, you are CHOOSING to be a punching bag
in fact she probably resents you some because she gets her needs met but you don’t give her any way to serve you and make you feel good
stop being weak willed, stop masturbating, stop your porn addiction, and tell her if she wants to get married oral sex (and plenty of sex in general) needs to be a part of your life
learn to make sex enjoyable or break it off, if a man isn’t enjoying sex in a relationship then the relationship is DOOMED COMPLETELY DOOMED

>>213435487
>There is no unifying monoculture
There could be if you just get on board with Zendaya already

Hader’s a fag. He’s a film pseud and south park started to take a nose dive when he joined the writing staff

>>213435704
You are quite aggressive.

>>213435373
Maybe just being anxious and occasionally bummed about stuff is normal and not a fucking mental illness you needs meds and therapy for. Maybe feeling emotions other than happiness is normal.

>>213435640
I dont use sex as a benchmark for a relationship like most men do. That also means she can never leverage sex against me like other women do. Often she has to beg me for sex, but I have to do it because I enjoy it, not because it makes her happy.
>>213435716
i also dont go down on her so its an even trade. I dont look at porn much anymore. I've been off it for 11 days now without setbacks (previous record was 16 days in march). oral sex has never worked on me, not for any woman ive dated. im circumsized which doesnt help. when we have sex i wear protection so its double whammy.
you're probably right, and a part of me is just hoping she ends it first so I can go back to being in peace.

I havent left yet because I struggle to make a decision about this. I lost a good relationship 3 years ago, and I still wonder what I did wrong. I blame myself for not being able to get along with certain people. i've had fights with my mom, my sisters, even my brother. I've made every girl i ever dated cry at least once, not for being mean, but because I said something blunt and didnt realize it.
Im going for an autism and ADHD test this month because i keep thinking all our fights come from me not being able to process her thought patterns.

He said he had bad anxiety and panic attacks before skits when Norm Macdonald interviewed him like 10 years ago

>>213435567
My ex was nice at time too, thats why I stayed with her for 4 years. I got her into therapy, that didnt work at all. She would still fly off the handle at the smallest thing and was genuinely an adult baby. I knew she wouldn't make a good mother and she kept wanting for me to propose before she turned 30. I knew I'd be miserable for the rest of my life if I married her and any kids we would have would be miserable too.

Breaking up with her was like smothering a puppy, but it had to be done. I didn't want to keep wasting her time since she wanted to get hitched. You have my condolences cause its going to be rougher letting her go at 34, she doesn't have much time left for a family. But you gotta help yourself first, crazy bitches be damned.

>>213435875
we've been together about 8 months now. By month 4 things started getting rough. I denigrated myself by begging her to stay when she wanted to break up with me in month 5, because I truly believed I fucked up. After that moment, my brain started to shut off during future fights. I never begged her anymore. In month 7 she begged me to stay because I was so burned out from dealing with the relationship (we had 16 hours of phone calls in one week), but I was too pussy to end it then either. i kept saying "im working on my problems"

Nobody knows what goes on, and she doesnt want me to talk to anyone except my therapist. My mom loves her my sister loves her, my friends love her, to everyone else shes lovely caring woman.
Maybe my perception of her is fucked, but every day I think, 'is something bad going to happen today'?

>>213435780
oral sex only doesn’t “work” if it makes you completely soft. You can just enjoy it for a bit before banging. Oral also needs shaft work to really help get to completion.
You’re probably just a schizoid if you’re with a BPD chick and are emotionally blunt and reclusive
if you’re willing to get tested (a label doesn’t change anything btw), go to couples therapy if you actually want things to try to work. Actively try to make things better or end the relationship. Don’t just let the days go by

>>213435347 (OP)
I’ve been diagnosed with CPTSD both on the military and civilian side, and I don’t know what that dramatic cunt is talking about.

is this the beta male relationship hotline or a Bill Hader thread?

>>213435347 (OP)
Did hader do something after SNL that's famous because he's always infesting my youtube recommendations even though I barely know who he is

>>213435994
No ones evil 100% of the time dude, anyone can act nice for a few hours in front of friends and relatives. 24/7 life together is different. All that should matter to you is how she makes you feel and if you’re happy, not if she’s polite to your mom. It’s you in the relationship with her not your mom

>>213435373
We are all on a much larger stage than any previous generation.

>>213436076
Sometimes I do feel happy with her. I made a list of all the things I liked about her early on. I have to force myself to look at this list when i feel like quitting
>no tattoos, no social media, no piercings
>conservative
>financially stable, no debt
>is willing to do IVF to screen for defects
>wants to be a mom
>wants a small wedding and an inexpensive ring (she already has it picked out)
>attracted to me before I even realized it (i didnt have to chase her at all)
>good hygeine (no bad smells)


but the longer time goes on I have to wonder if this list is just causing me more issues

>>213435395
Get the fuck out of there, dude.

My stepmom was BPD (never officially diagnosed because she refused to talk to anyone professional, but it was plain as day), and my life from 6 to 19 was a living hell. It’s exactly what you say; you’d go to bed with her being your best friend, and then wake up in the morning with her kicking a hole in the drywall over some shit that you may or may not have said three weeks ago that you didn’t mean anything by at the time, and had honestly forgotten was even said. It was completely random, so there was no way to spot any warning signs or know how to avoid it, so those years of my life were in a state of constantly being on edge.

Because of my experience there, I will go to my grave being nervous around women. The way I explain it to people is it’s like when someone gets mauled by a dog as a kid, and they spend the rest of their lives being uneasy around dogs, even if they know on a conscious level how illogical it is, that experience just fucked with their wiring on a deep level. Only in my case, the maulings happened multiple times a year, there was no way to anticipate or prevent them from happening, it took place over the course of nearly 15 years, you lived with the dog that mauls you, and your dad refuses to get rid of the dog because the dog doesn’t bite him.

>>213436296
where in any of that is how she makes you happy?

Jürgen Klopp biopic when?

>>213435373
Speak for yourself libtard.
Anxiety isn't real.

Honestly skipping some showbiz stuff because of debilitating anxiety symptoms probably just shows he's smart enough to know to not medicate it which is good.

Or can shit like this happen even with medication?

>>213436075
He made that uber-jewish TV show Barry, but I don't know how popular/famous that was.

>>213436356
damn thats rough man. Im sorry you dealt with that, especially with a mom. my gf has never been that bad (property damage or self harm) but the worse so far is she accused me of cheating on her because I told her not to eat the chocolate in the pantry (she told me she was avoiding sugar)
I hope you can get over that fear

>>213436357
For a long time I wanted to be a dad to a mom who could stay at home while I could work to support us.
I grew up with a mom who did that, and I know the 90s were a differet time, but i still believe in my heart a baby needs a mother whos around 24/7. with this woman, she makes a shit ton of money, 4x more than I do. so she could be a stay at home mom while living off her savings while i still worked, and she would willingly do it.
I was happy in the beginning because she was conservative like me, which meant we would never fight about social issues. i live in a city thats 80%+ liberal. my ex was a moderate and eventually we got into fights over politics.

i was more happy with the concepts that she provided moreso than how her personality was, and maybe that was my grave error.

>>213435373
Civilizational collapse.

>>213436075
>>213436406

Yes, Barry was semi-popular with normies before Severance and White Lotus consumed their minds.


But all of this to say, he's using anxiety as an excuse to get out of doing shit he doesn't want to do. Kind of like this chick I know whose endometriosis only flairs up at home and never when she's out attention whoring. Very strange!

>>213435373
Tell her if she hates you so much to spare you and dump you but that she can't because no one else will tolerate her and then hang up and WHAM! Anxiety cured :)

>>213436474
first decide if you actually want things to work out
then start telling her how she can treat you to make you happy
DO NOT get married if she is not trying to make you happy or is not demonstrating the potential for growth
most personalities can mesh, it all just comes down to if both people are sincerely trying to make the other person happy
also arguing about politics with your gf is super retarded btw save it for the internet

>>213436613
>first decide if you actually want things to work out
yep this is where Im at currently. part of me wants to get out of this, the other part says suck it up and deal with it. im going to try a new therapist soon because my gf tells me my current one is harming our relationship and if i dont switch permantly there will be issues.
i spent the first 3 months making her happy at the expense of my own happiness. i think now shes trying to make me happy at the expense of her own happiness. she feels like she puts in 1000% effort and i give back nothing. there are often times when what we want are very opposed to each other. then there are times when its okay.

>dont get married if
yeah i know, she wants to know by the end of this month if i still want to even have a kid with her or be a dad period. the clock is ticking and making my anxiety worse.

>also arguing about politics
i agree. it only happened with my ex because she wanted me to get vaxxed and i said no and she couldnt accept it and it lead to other fights, but up to that point nothing got in the way. even trumps election, and bidens election didnt affect us, covid itself didnt affect us.

>>213435347 (OP)
I had shingles as a kid because of anxiety. I had failed a test for the first time in my life and it made my stomach churn pretty bad. After that shingles spread through the side of my fat belly.

I got a lot better over time. And fitter too.

Didn’t he have some charity in Haiti?

>>213435347 (OP)
He could've groped one of the females on the set, it works for Pedo Pascal

>>213436045
Going to couples therapy with a BPD is like entering the thunderdome, it won't work

>>213436775
only change your therapist if that’s what you want, not what she wants
also how can she be trying to make you happy if you haven’t said a single thing about she’s doing for that? obviously she’s wasting her effort on whatever she’s supposedly doing and you should give her better feedback on how to actually make you happy

He gets to cum inside Asian pussy every night, I’m not sure how you have anxiety after that

>>213435489
kek

>>213435395
same... but with my mom yelling me how I've failed as a son and a man

>>213435373
We all subconsciously sense some cosmic horror approaching to bring the end of this world. I've been having more and more nightmares about it and the future is bleak.

>>213435780
You sound gay ngl, have you experienced men yet? How old are you?

She sounds like a bitch bro.

Ditch her.

>>213437004
she started giving me my alone time. i dont think shes able to understand how being alone is critical for me. i get 1 weekend a month where i can do my own thing, but the rest of the weekends i have to spend it with her. if she had her way she would spend 4-5 days a week with me. if I had my way I would spend 1-2 days with her and be satisfied. Sometimes the longer we are together the more likely it is ill say/do the wrong thing.

she started getting less demanding about me calling her during the week, and less demanding about me kissing/cuddling her x amount of times.
she trying to understand if i have autism how she can help me with that or IF she even wants to. shes told me a few times in anger that if she knew what she knows about me now she never wouldve dated me in the beginning.
I started keeping a journal of everything that happened between us in the last few months. I have 9 pages of text from this past week alone.
I want to get to a point where I can say Yes or No to this relationship instead of letting it go on.
This is the first person ive ever been with that causes me to look at my own mind and behaviors like this.

>>213435373
low

trust

society

>>213437263
This dude is a homo and doesn't even realize it.

>>213435373
Civilizational collapse of the west.

>>213437305
why do you think that? i dont enjoy naked men, penises or gay sex.

How the fuck can a actor/comedian hell a sketch comedian have anxiety?

>>213435395
>4 hours
>Phone call
Anon I would hang up after 4 minutes

>>213435780
>Process her though patterns
Anon sounds like that test is gonna come back positive

>>213437410
i hope it does. im 33 years old and ive gone through a lot of life feeling like I cant connect with most people. I've had more fights with this woman in 6 months than I did with 3 years with my ex. either that means she was also secretly autisitc or i just masked better back then

>>213437362
why was robin williams depressed?

>>213438277
Maybe the expectation to be the most extroverted hilarious person on earth with everyone he met and always "on", probably combined with some shitty Hollywood therapy and pharma pills.

>>213435373
Phones. Internet.

>>213435347 (OP)
I have never been so anxious I started to go blind. Like maybe we need to make sure this dude never has kids so this shit stops right here.

>>213435668
Based retard.

>>213436378
fuck i didnt know this was a real guy, i thought yall were just calling him a horse slur

>>213435756
you aren't innocent or a victim

>>213435347 (OP)
I got hives and shingles from stress/anxiety once.
Brain is a retarded organ.

This thread is gayer than r9k. Bravo

>>213435373
Everything is open, everyone is watching, and everything you do is a matter of public record and ridicule. No animal was made to live like this.

>>213438838
I recently started getting what I think are visual migranes.
Was pretty spooky the first time I had one since it wasn't clear what was going on at first, I just started struggling to read and felt like there were patches of vision missing, then realised I could still see blurs even with my eyes closed.

Never had anything like that in my life before but if he's getting migranes from his anxiety, which doesn't sound crazy, it's probably that.
My migranes started shortly after I went through a stressful period in life but seem to continue infrequently even now it's over. Odd, since I used to be an absolute anxious wreck going through college / university but never had this shit.