>>213464446>How often do you initiate conversation with random strangers that goes on for more than 10 seconds? At the bar or gym, plenty of times. When I moved into my new place, I didn't know anyone. I chatted with some people and eventually they invited me over to drink and play Battlefront on the PS2
>How often do you see others do the same? I work at a bar and I see people not only cold approach people all the time and chat but I see people get fucking laid all the time
>How many people do you know who legitimately struck up a relationship through happenstance at a public park or a gym, and not because they met each other through work/school/friends? Three couples in my bar within the last year have started because the girl or guy asked to play pool and needed a partner and they got to chatting afterwards. I met a girl playing darts and she asked me if I wanted to hang out.
>Whenever I go out anywhere, I'm there to do something specific and leave, and I think almost everyone else is the sameYeah we get guys like you. Thing is; you need to stop and smell the roses. People want to hang out and most people have no one who listens to them. Try listening to them or engaging them.
>I'll accept that I need to try harder, but I'll never accept normie-tier advice that they've never had to actually put into practice in their fucking life, that's just insultingI have and it worked for me. It got me two jobs and four film projects. And before you warble about how I'm a normie, I spent my childhood and teenaged years in a fucking pathological silence, staring at my shoes. I learned how to look people in the eye and speak to them concisely and listen to their dumb shit until they actually started to open up to me and I made six or so friends who regularly ask me to go to shows or hang out to play games. I've introduced several to D&D or Call of Cthulhu and they love it. One of them is carving me a staff for a Ren Faire costume and wants to help me make a movie.