Thread 213858590

Is this really what life is like in your 30s?

>>213858590 (OP)
i dont know im 24

>>213858590 (OP)
No, it's much much worse.

>>213858590 (OP)
more like teens and early twenties, by 30 most people have long since settled down.

>>213858617
I'm 30 and have a dead end job and live with a roommate in a rented apartment.

>>213858590 (OP)
It's more like this.

If you're not married by 23 or 24 what are you even doing with your fucking life, you should be a dad by 30.

>>213858590 (OP)
>live in london
>most people are white
>problems to do with dating and social interactions and not the collapse of civilisation
not currently what life is like in the uk no

>>213858617
>by 30 most people have long since settled down.
Maybe before 2010. When I was in my early 30s seemed like most people my age were still renting and dating, well, ones with jobs who weren't ugly, I guess.

I’m 33 live with my parents with a dead end job I’m gonna leave with no backup plan, no girlfriend or sex ever, no friends, terrified of the world and think nonstop about how much I want to kill myself. If you’re in your 30s with no developed social and relationship life or career, you can’t even imagine how horrible and humiliating life is living every day thinking about how you’ve wasted the most important years of your life with nothing to show for them.

>>213858728
are you white? literally just go to asia. instant gf. maybe not what you want to do but better than the hell you're in now.

>>213858728
>you can’t even imagine how horrible and humiliating life is living every day thinking about how you’ve wasted the most important years of your life with nothing to show for them.
Simple, just blame everything else and not yourself

>>213858677
I didn't become a dad till I was 33.

It's only getting worse. If you didn't buy a house 10 years ago then you'll never afford one now

>>213858728
>If you’re in your 30s with no developed social and relationship life or career, you can’t even imagine how horrible and humiliating life is living every day thinking about how you’ve wasted the most important years of your life with nothing to show for them.
If it makes you feel any better, I invested my 20s in career and ignored my social life and even it aint much better to not realize the harm you did to yourself until your 30s.

>>213858590 (OP)
No
I wish my 30s were this exciting

>>213858677
why are you trying to make people feel bad anon?

>>213858878
Well social life is generally the most important thing but at least you have something, and most people have something

>>213858590 (OP)
Haven't seen it. But if it involves having the same monotonous weekly routine, extensively dwelling on every relationship/friendship you've destroyed, thinking about all the people you cared about that are no longer in your life, and escaping this hell of your own creation with daily weed/booze consumption, then it would be pretty accurate.

>>213858590 (OP)
This was on the early 2000s.
You'll have it much worse.

>>213859262
early 00s was actually peak living in the UK, very optimistic time

the americans of this site have no idea how much worse it is now, truly

>>213858728
>33
you still have a decade ahead of you to do whatever normie shit you want like getting a gf or wife or whatever before its actually too late

>>213858590 (OP)
dunno i got married and had kids at 24

>>213858590 (OP)
Im 33, girls my age ignore me and teen girls stare at me constantly. My job has no upward momentum. Thinking of changing careers soon

>>213859726
>33
>girls my age
That's a wild use of language Sir

What's it like living with roommates?
The only time I ever did it was at University, ever since then I've rented alone or with my girlfriend. Nearly paid off my mortgage now so don't think I'll ever experience it. How do anons cope?

>>213858590 (OP)
>both have sex with multiple attractive people throughout the series
Haha what a couple of losers

>>213858590 (OP)
Peep Show is about living in Hell, not life in your thirties
Mark is the usurer, Jeremy is the sodomite
they occupy the Apollo house and no one can survive in their pit

>>213858728
Have you tried blaming the jews for all your problems?

Trying to date in your 30-40's is just running into abunch of women who already made the mistake of hooking up with the wrong guy and have a kid now and want you to help raise it

>>213860064
In my experience, slightly awkward at first, but then fine, for years now my roommate just stays in his bedroom so I have free reign over the living room and my own bedroom which is pretty neat

>>213858590 (OP)
>Mark owned his own place and had a fulltime job and had multiple gf's
Even he's doing better than me and i'm older than he was.

>>213858677
>t. zoomer still living with my parents masturbating to porn on my phone under the blanket when everyone goes to sleep

>>213860275
Thats a fantastic IDEA anon!

>>213858728
>If you’re in your 30s with no developed social and relationship life or career, you can’t even imagine how horrible and humiliating life is living every day thinking about how you’ve wasted the most important years of your life with nothing to show for them.
Fuck that. I went to uni in my late 20s, I was long time NEET before. Now I'm doing quite well, I don't see why one couldn't do so at their 30s. Fuck feeling ashamed of your wasted years. Anyone who is not retarded realizes that life can get difficult. The point is to do what you want to do and be good.

>>213858677
>>213858728
Let me redpill you both on something. Having a kid won't add meaning to your life. Unless you actually decide to dedicate yourself to something meaningful, to actually have an impact on the world around you, your life will be meaningless anyway. Having a kid won't help shit, the kid is not an extension of you. It might've come from your cum, but if your whole plan in life is to extend your life via vicariously living through your kids, it's a shit idea.

I'm not planning on having kids nor a wife until I've got something to show for it, and if it ends up being too late, then fuck it, wouldn't have mattered anyway.

Dicking the Dobb

>>213858590 (OP)
It's worse now than in the 2000s, people don't even have fun in their misery anymore. Everyone's a tech brainwashed faggot now and this is especially true if you're a soulless Ameriburger

>>213858677
I bet you’re a big hit with the ladies dipshit

>>213860413
I used my time in uni to functionally be a NEET for like an additional 5 years. I didn't get a job, not even a part-time one, until I was 28.

>>213860413
How are you doing quite well?

>>213858728
What a joke. No decade of your life is the most important. You were, are, and will always be irrelevant. Do what you want. Live like you were already dead &c.

>>213860671
Why is having kids or a gf all that important? You're just one of many, many people out there in the world. I've had a gf, and I can tell you, I prefer not having one.

>>213858677
This is a great way to get your wife to cheat on you, or even leave you, because they feel like they "havent loved their life to the fullest." Im not saying it makes sense (most women dont think logically) but its what happens. I have a neighbor whos going through this exact thing righr now. Got married right out of college to his sweetheart and spat out 2 kids one right after another (Irish twins as the saying goes) cue three years later to the present and shes left the house to go live with her new boyfriend while he "husband" stays home with the kids. While shes postinf pictures partying and traveling Europe, hes working a 9-5 then coming home and drinking himself to sleep. Theyre in the process of divorce now.

>>213860671
reddit tier post. the most important decade of your life is age 25-35. you pretty much define the entire rest of your life in those 10 years.

>>213860938
Sorry for the typos, cell phone and fat fingers, but you get the idea.

r/teenager thread

>>213860938
Grim.

>>213858590 (OP)
Minus having an awesome friend like super hans. Yes.

>"I’m just, you know, kind of happy in the doing of things. Even just having a great cup of coffee is happiness. Getting an idea, or realizing an idea. Working on a painting…working on a piece of sculpture, working on a film. One thing I noticed is that many of us, we do what we call work for a goal. For a result. And in the doing, it’s not that much happiness. And yet that’s our life going by. If you’re transcending every day, building up that happiness, it eventually comes to: it doesn’t matter what your work is. You just get happy in the work. You get happy in the little things and the big things. And if the result isn’t what you dreamed of, it doesn’t kill you, if you enjoyed the doing of it. It’s important that we enjoy the doing of our life."
dont fall for the demoralization posters tricks, anons. life isnt over at 30. its barely begun. the best advice i can give you is that you should start creating rather than consuming. it will open so many doors for you.

>>213861000
Yea well luckily Im watching from the sidelines so....fuck 'em lol

>>213860947
That sounds like the most mundane decade of your life rather than the most important.

>>213858728
Literally me. Never worked until last year (I'm 31). After one year of work and living with mom, I have lots of money but way too much stress. I already hate working and want to quit every day. I dream about taking the money I have and just living like a homeless person in the woods somewhere with a good climate. I just really don't like being around people

>>213861077
at age 30 lynch was married with children

>>213861174
some people are more called towards the monastic life (not literal) and can remain lifelong bachelors. that doesnt have to be a bad thing in the slightest. if you do not want children/dont have the temperament for it or simply know that you shouldn't for whatever reason, then its better that you stick to not having children rather than stressing over thinking that you need to have them out of some feeling of obligation or service to your parents and family.

>>213861301
Yup, I'm glad my family has never cared about me having kids and getting married, I'm 30 and women still look scared to death if I talk to them so its over

>>213858590 (OP)
For zooms and alphas, this show is actually pretty optimistic for your 30's. Implies you'll have friends and will sleep with women.

>>213860938
Nah, stories like these are great. That woman will hate her life. I know it's hard to understand, but women like this are just totally delusional about their value until they get to this exact point. Single mom to two kids, she's going to be dating a guy who is 45 and works at a carpet store. She basically burned out with that eurotrip, suicide is unironically high probability in her future. Almost certainly to fall into very, very hard drugs.

I can’t see myself making it through my 30s or really even halfway through them. Im 32 now and had a complete mental breakdown a few months back. Never achieved anything in my life, never had goals to do anything, and I’m so far behind where I’m supposed to be in literally everything that there’s no point to life anymore. All I think about every minute of every day is how far behind I am and what a loser I am.

I just don’t think there’s any way I manage to make it through this decade without killing myself. I keep seeing stories pop up about people in their 30s killing themselves and keep hoping that eventually I can get that necessary bump to do it myself. I can’t even imagine how great it would feel knowing I won’t have to suffer through this miserable lonely poor existence anymore, and won’t have to face the issues of old age.

>>213858590 (OP)
For guys who look and act like they do, yes. The only way to rise above your condition is to become self aware so that you can change what you are.

>>213858888
He's not wrong so...why are you heckling people for speaking the truth?

yeah i remember when i cooked my first dog

>>213861544
Nope, I agree with you 100%

>>213859068
Anon, you seem to share the same mind as me, so maybe we can brainstorm. Is it worth trying to start a club or gang to find fraternity and do something useful? I have no community but yearn for one. Problem is I'm not like most people and I hate most people.

>>213861150
>I just really don't like being around people
I started to feel this way around age 36, after having been relatively normal and successful most of my adult life. So I became more solitary and negative about people and life in general for a few years.
Then the girl I was in love with as a teen (she was in love with me too) forced herself back into my life. She's got some weird personal issues herself, and I was generally skeptical of the whole idea of being with her again, but she's such a kind, positive person, she eventually broke through my detached, cold exterior and I started to feel positive again and feel what I thought was real love and connection and positivity for the first time in years and years. And we had been intimate for a few months.

Then she said she didn't want to talk to me for a long time. Well, in my absent minded stupidity, she'd fallen out of love, basically, just 1-2 weeks after I'd finally started feeling real loved toward her.

There are a few other complications too, but my point is you guys shouldn't get into a cycle of negativity toward life and people, because if you seriously start embodying that and acting like you really just don't like people, someone could come along and you'll be unprepared to reciprocate their positivity and love, and it will be very very painful to get over.

Her not wanting to talk "for a long time" just happened a month ago, and it's going to haunt me for a while. Sorry for the gay blog post, but stay positive you guys -- people do indeed such in a lot of ways, but don't give up on them entirely.

>>213860305
Still much easier for you, the guy. Heck you could still find an untarnished innocent girl somewhere, but those other women are stuck with those kids or whatever other baggage they have

>>213860947
You fucking retard. The most important decade is 0-10.

>>213861854
You have no impetus or control over what happens in that decade that's on mommy and daddy for not hitting you enough/taking the goyslop away.

You control 25-35 so he's right, but it's more 20-35 or so, as one big learning experience.

>>213861756
I've felt this way about people my entire life. Since kindergarten I can remember not wanting to be in a room with a bunch of other people. I don't ever want to fall in love or be loved. I don't even want to be touched by another person. I want more than anything to be alone and at peace. My life is constant hell and people are like demons just torturing me for fun. I just keep my head down and try to avoid eye contact. One day I hopefully will have enough money to truly be alone

>>213862254
For me I don't like hanging around most people because I know at some point the conversation will turn to sex/relationships and then they'll ask me questions and it'll expose me and they'll mock me, but if its a setting where I know that won't happen with people I already know then I'm mostly fine with it

>>213862313
Sex and relationships are extremely overrated but people get bored and end up doing these things basically to give a meaningless life some purpose. Having a kid or someone to take care of gives you purpose if you're too stupid to find your own meaning in life basically and most people are very stupid

>>213862254
>Since kindergarten I can remember not wanting to be in a room with a bunch of other people.
I did always hate being in classrooms as long as I can remember too. I'm the fag you're responding to. Good luck bro.

>>213862423
Different lad here, I'm 28 years old and similar.

You might be on the schizotypal or avoidant personality disorder spectrum.

I'm 28 years old and I've been unemployed for 9 months now after getting laid off. I'm like 120 IQ but I don't do well in the workplace because I hate talking to other people, can't casually socialize with the other people. Constantly anxious and uncomfortable because someone can come up to me and ask me a question at any point. Hate feeling put on the spot, and it happened so much that I'm focusing on one thing, someone asks me about something else entirely, and it's like I can't get my thoughts together to respond to them.

I feel embarrassed just by virtue of being, and having to talk to someone and show that I know what I'm talking about, responding quickly and intelligently is too much for me.

I got a 3.9 in my undergrad and a 4.0 GPA in my master's program and yet I'm one of the worst employees a typical team can have.

Hate having to take calls or make calls, hate having to ask other people for help/instruction. Working in an office at a job where it isn't just data entry, you constantly have to collaborate with your teammates and other people, and it just drains me to such a massive extent.

I worked at my last job for over 4 years and never got comfortable with my coworkers, always felt anxious going into work.

Never felt enough confidence to flirt with girls and frankly in reality I don't actually want to have casual sex, I find the human body disgusting.

Have no motivation to work hard without many close friends and no romantic prospects at all. Never moved out, I could have with my kind of salary, but what is the point of getting an apartment/condo just to go to work and then come home to an empty apartment? There is no point, better just to keep living with my dad so I'm not always alone

I went to highschool dances, parties, stayed overnight at friends' apartments, never got comfortable being around other people

At 35 I've only just recently annihilated every relationship I've ever had, with friends, family, everybody. It's the best thing I've ever done for myself. I wish I'd done it 20 years ago.

>>213863168
I'm halfway to doing the same. No reason to keep doing what has never worked my entire life.

>>213860938
statistically the more sexual partners a woman has the more likely divorce is.

>>213861886
People make choices adulthood based on what they were taught (or weren't taught) in childhood. And sure people can turn the boat around but by then they'll never win the race when they're figuring out at 20 what most people already knew at 5. They won't know what they were supposed to know at 20 until they're 30. That's how life works. There is no choice. If your parents fucked up then your life is either eternal catchup or a downward spiral.

>>213861150
what job did you get?

>>213865042
Good on you anon. You will probably not receive any moral support or encouragement, but you will know by intuition if you are doing the right thing for your life.

>>213861609
i'll tell you the same thing i tell everyone else - if you're really deadset on it, first go to some carribean island and do hookers and blow. go out with a bang

>>213861756
Love doesn't exist.