>26m
I'm handsome, and got a pretty good trajectory for my life. I never considered dating a woman with somebody else's kids because frankly, I would rather make my own. However there is a stunning woman who unfortunately is my type to a T. Should I or should I just stop while I'm ahead and keep searching or concede this deal breaker I've created?

I have no issue pulling, the issue is I just don't like most of the available options so to speak :/
>No bait, please be authentic I'm vulnerable right now..

>>33355444 (OP)
Go for it. What do you have to lose?

A woman that's good to you is rarer than a kidless one.

>>33355444 (OP)
You will always be less important than her child. The kid will use the "you aren't my real dad" argument when they don't like something that you did. You will be in constant competition with the biological father.

>>33355541
You would be important in a different way, same as it is the case if you had a kid together

OP here. The primary issue I see on a Meta level is the simple fact that me (random not the father dude) is in the developmental sphere of the kid. Not immediately ofc but again, if things worked out then it's inevitable. I haven't spoken to her lol, but idk

>>33355480
I've taken an external woman for granted in the past because she had a kid (she cheated on an objectively abusive junkie and had an accident, didn't abort it)
She was very kind to me but only recently I've explored my boundary on this and honestly I was a wreck then but now I'm more stable it changes the context.

I have always dreamed of having my own kid, ideally I'd love two so they wouldn't be as lonely as my only child ass was. Idk, sorry for the rant its a lot for me

I thought that too, until I found one. I was with her for 7 years. The sex was a dream situation the entire time, but obviously she was probably an exception. Will probably never take that risk again because nobody will be as good as she was. However, her children were basically the dealbreaker: she spoiled them and never listened to me that it was bad for them. Also she was a slob and therefore they were slobs. Also she hit menopause while I was with her and it completely changed her personality. It was surprising and shocking how different she became. Also her libido went away unless I initiated.

>>33357237
>Kids are doing objectively retarded things
>Mom don't do anything to course correct
>inable to do anything in that situation

See that specfically would drive me up a wall. I want someone who would actively try to better their/our lives VS rotting away bit by bit while instilling terrible principles for her kid.

Ugh. I don't think I've made any progress in terms of change

You sure you want to be caught up in this circus? Think about a 10 year outlook. The type of shit the kid will say to you, the stepdad, when they're older. Dealing with the baby daddy who will be in your life forever. I mean man at least wait until you're in your 30s to compromise like that.

>>33355444 (OP)
>However there is a stunning woman who unfortunately is my type to a T.

Does your type measure more than looks? Cuz those fade. She better have a good personality to back it up bro. If she does, maybe consider dating. But think very long and hard about it, and i dont mean your PP, i mean your brain.

If you are currently still learning how to give and take, how to love, how to pair bond emotionally, how to be a man to a woman etc, (you most likely are, 26 is still young. Only 8 years into adulthood.) then you might wanna reconsider getting thrown into a situation wih kids and playing father to them.

I got nothing bad to say about step fathers or other men who take single moms as brides. But what I will say is those men need to have amassed some experience first. Bith in their own identity, their own discipline, their own wisdom. Cuz raising kids is a big ass job. And if you are still trynna raise yourself up, taking on a role where you gotta raise a kid so abruptly is a huge task.

One you may do very good in, who knows you could be an amazing step dad. But for you as an individual, despite being good at it or not, can still break you down if you aint ready.

Think on it.

>>33355444 (OP)
>26m
Bro you're 10+ years away from this fate

>>33355736
>she cheated on an objectively abusive junkie and had an accident, didn't abort it
all of this screams bad decision making. stay away

>>33358666
Seperate woman, not the one in question. I never dated that one.