How to want things - /adv/ (#33367806) [Archived: 223 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/15/2025, 7:14:30 PM No.33367806
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I've always been told things like people can do anything, they just have to want it hard enough.
Well how do I make myself want things more?
There are things I kinda want, but I want to want them more so that achievement becomes inevitable.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 8:57:50 PM No.33368193
Well, the reward and motivation centers in your brain are probably fucked. Be honest with yourself, even if not with us: do you play too much vidya? Doomscroll too long? Fap and/or watch porn too often? Eat junky food all the time? All of that shit essentially tells your brain "we're good, all our needs are met" in an unhealthy way, so you won't want to do or achieve anything if you're frying your brain with that shit.

Also, how is your self-esteem and respect? Do you think you aren't capable of a lot of things, do you self-bash a lot? People with that "I got it because I wanted it" attitude actually just live life with a "I get everything I want, I'm worth it, so why wouldn't I get it?" mindset.
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Anonymous
7/15/2025, 10:51:35 PM No.33368700
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>>33368193
>Be honest with yourself, even if not with us: do you play too much vidya?
occasionally, though I used to do it every day. Competitive games that you grind matches of are adicting
>Doomscroll too long?
Also occasionally. I recognize it as a trap and I try to avoid it but I still end up in youtube short reels sometimes
>Fap and/or watch porn too often?
Certainly far too often years ago. I was jacking off and looking at porn every day. Now I'm trying to quit both entirely.
>Eat junky food all the time?
Yeah. If theres snacks in the house, I do tend to eat them. probably why although im not overweight, I'm not the weight I want to be.

>Also, how is your self-esteem and respect?
Used to be alot worse, but its a bit better because I learned to start just accepting bad things.
Don't think im capable of attracting a woman, so I just tell myself sure but theres many other beautiful aspects of life to experience. Still bash myself as a loser sometimes, particularly in the competitive games I mentioned above. Its like an automatic response for me that I think and say out loud "I don't know why im trying, I'm never going to be able to beat this guy."
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:03:20 AM No.33370618
I guess thats all huh
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:32:37 AM No.33370835
>>33367806 (OP)
>There are things I kinda want
I won't read wishy-washy threads. Make up your fucking mind next time.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 2:06:30 PM No.33371829
>>33370835
Thats just how my entire life is
I don't feel much strong desire for almost anything.