It started off with her grabbing my arm when she got drunk, complimenting me, she had me saved as hot in her contacts, we even had sex and she texted me we should do it again

Somehow things just kind of deteriorated and now it feels like we're at best awkward acquaintances, I feel like she kinda just avoids sitting next to me or talking to me as much, but she still invites me out (we're part of the same friend group, so it's not a one-on-one kinda thing).

Her texts aren't flirty anymore, she takes longer to reply, even though even when things were good she took quite a while to reply.

I just don't know how to reignite the spark again. Should I continue going at it until she tells me to fuck off or should I take a hint? She's part of the same friend group i'm in so I don't want to ruin that dynamic either. I never socialized all that much so I really don't know what to do here. I do like her and I want to show her that.

>>33377781 (OP)
A girl who likes you won't give mixed signals.
You should stop pursuing. She may get flirty, etc with you again if she sees you with other girls FWIW

>>33377781 (OP)
Partner selection criteria issue. OP is a hopelessly subhuman moron fixated on relieving himself into whatever comes along and there is nothing to be done.

>>33377809
>A girl who likes you won't give mixed signals.
the thing is I can't really read her. Even when things were "good" she only really got flirty after a few drinks and after the other guys went to sleep and we were there alone watching Netflix.

It's really difficult for me to read her and I don't want to throw away this opportunity because she's attractive and I like spending time with her.

>>33377812
wtf does this even mean?

>>33377781 (OP)
>Should I continue going at it until she tells me to fuck off
Lmao, did you really ask that? The only way it could ever work is to pull back and flirt with other chicks. There is no scenario where a guy begs a woman for her time and it actually works.

>>33378086
>Lmao, did you really ask that? The only way it could ever work is to pull back and flirt with other chicks. There is no scenario where a guy begs a woman for her time and it actually works.
It's more complicated than that. Like I said, it's a girl I actually had sex with, not one i'm blindly cfhasing.

It's difficult for me to read her, she was never really all that flirty unless drunk. I don't know if she's just acting like she always did or if her level of interest in me died down. I don't know what to do,

>>33378093
>It's more complicated than that. Like I said, it's a girl I actually had sex with, not one i'm blindly cfhasing.
Unfortunately, it seems like many women are completely sociopathic and have sex without any commitment.
>It's difficult for me to read her, she was never really all that flirty unless drunk. I don't know if she's just acting like she always did or if her level of interest in me died down. I don't know what to do,
If you're not getting communication, she is not that interested. That is always the case. You can't convince someone to talk to you by spamming them, it's like receiving junk mail.

>>33378223
>If you're not getting communication, she is not that interested. That is always the case. You can't convince someone to talk to you by spamming them, it's like receiving junk mail.
I am though, we see each other every week and we do send texts occasionally.

Ask for clarification.
Go do something overly romantic and ask if she wants to be serious with you

>>33378253
Are you still meeting up and having sex? That's all that really matters.

>>33377781 (OP)
Men are supposed to be the direct ones. Women are supposed to dance around it. Embrace your autism and flat out tell her how you feel and get it fucking over with. No reason to bail if she actually likes you, and no reason to play stupid games if she doesnt. Just shoot a text and go "Hey Nona, it's been really fun texting and talking with you and I just want to be upfront and say that I like you and would want to take you out sometime if you're interested"

>>33377781 (OP)
She got drunk and had a thing for you and fucked you and now her fascination is over. This happens a lot throughout life but you're young now so you're not sure what is happening. She's not giving you mixed signals. She's giving you the signal that she's not interested. Some people are just like this, OP. There is no spark to reignite. There never was.

>>33378313
>She got drunk and had a thing for you and fucked you and now her fascination is over
No, before we fucked, she'd regularly grab my arm, compliment me, had me saved as hot in her phone, and after we had sex she said we should do it again.

>>33378305
the thing is it would feel super awkward now to just say that since we're at the point of awkward acquaintances it feels like. I think I have to do something in person. But the whole thing feels like shitting where I eat. Idk. I wish she was just a random girl I met somewhere and not my friends' friend.

>>33378313
>>33378402
she said that when she was sober btw and we watched netflix and cuddled together a few more times after that.

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>>33378093
If you fucked her and she's not chasing you, she's not attached and/or sex means nothing to her

Pull back, if it doesn't provoke her into action then it's done

Generally, mixed signals = lack of interest so act accordingly

>>33378305
Worst advice in this thread, OP do NOT do this under circumstances

>>33380562
we cuddled and slept (not sex) together a few times after that. Once she said she was on her period but I have no reason to believe she was lying and another time we just didn't really end up having sex, we just watched netflix.

>>33378305
>>33380571
This is literally the best advice there is. Either he gets a partner and their communication issues are sorted out, or she stops liking him because he's not willing to be mysterious or play her stupid fucking games. In that case, he just cuts her off and moves onto the next girl.

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Ask her if she wants to be in a relationship. You're a moron

>>33382361
>Ask her if she wants to be in a relationship. You're a moron
in what fucking way?

>d-d-d-do you want t-to be my le gf??

>>33377781 (OP)
Yeah. Sometimes you get a window and it passes. It happens. Let go and move on.

>>33378305
If you say this to a woman her vagina will heal over and leave a scar.

>>33382765
You're on a board of people whove never talked to a woman before.
These days it seems relationships just progress and then someone starts a "so youre the only person im talking to" conversation.

>>33382765
>I like you a lot and would like to be in a romantic relationship with you. How do you feel about this?

>>33377781 (OP)
>we're part of the same friend group

Its over, she just doesn't want any drama. Sometimes the vibe just dies off for no discernible reason. It happens.

>>33382811
>>I like you a lot and would like to be in a romantic relationship with you. How do you feel about this?
Don't ever say this

>>33382887
I feel like even when things were good, she sometimes seemed a bit off but then when we were left alone she would start getting touchy and kiss me a lot and all that. It's very difficult to read her but I feel like what we have may not be all dead.

>>33382958
There is no reason to or not to say that. Things are so nuanced it's stupid to live by such ways. Point being is that OP has an opportunity to elevate their relationship or leave yet is stuck in the middle

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>>33382975
You have to be autistic and have no experience with women to say something like that. The man should never admit he likes the woman. You wait for her to, or you forget about her.

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it's over

>>33388178
yes

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>>33385410
lol what? you have never had sex irl if you think this way
men pursuing women romantically is the societal norm. if you take 0 initiative as a man she will assume you're uninterested and leave.

>>33393009
Use your actions to show her, don't tell her. Men use action, women and faggots use words.