Twice this year I have emotionally confused two girls that I consider literal 10s, causing them to break down emotionally and seek comfort elsewhere and "finding their soul mate".

I'm currently crying bros.

First girl liked me for the longest time and I unintentionally crushed her emotionally. She ran into the arms of another dude. It was unintentional and she didn't want an apology.

Second girl was last week. She was trying to put on a show and make a group of us laugh. She liked me a lot and kept making eye contact. I did it again, confused her and she broke down. Didn't want an apology and resented me. She ran into the arms of another guy.

Both times, it was a mr nice guy. Both times, it's been assertive girls. Both times, they wanted me. Both times I confused them, making them doubt themselves and break down, and run into the arms of someone else.

Never into the arms of someone "better than me", both times it's been to the arms of someone weaker. But I humble them. The second girl was very assertive and entrepreneurial. She literally cried in front of me and now she is together with a mommy's boy. The first girl has been together with the other guy for 2 years.

I know what my problem is. I am emotionally confused and can't act coherently, so I confuse people and they end up feeling betrayed by me.

Is this dynamic common? Am I helping other men find their soul mates or are they in for hurt down the line? I am so fucking sick of myself, I hate it

Sort yourself out bucko

>>33392147 (OP)
I don't mean to attack the other guys btw, just wondering if they are running to "weaker men" because "they are emotionally hurt right now and need support". If this was true, the first girl wouldn't stick around for two years though. That's why I wonder if perhaps I help them find their soul mate. They might've avoided these men in the past, but then realized how much hurt there is and choose them as the safe bet.

Idk. This last girl absolutely crushed my heart. I saw her with him earlier this week and she looked so happy. She hasn't known him for a long time, but she is still like herself and he seems very happy to be with her too.

At the end of the day, he gets to have sex with her as I am out here trying to figure myself out like a little bitch. I know I'm the loser. He won. That's why I'm wondering if I am helping people find their soul mates or if I'm potentially causing grief later down the line. I hate myself so much, what a sickening problem to have.....

>>33392155
It's my brother. He fucks with my head. He is a malignant narcissist and needs other people to lose in order to feel better about himself. Idk how far he would go to destroy me if I try to break free, but he is genuinely scary

>>33392155
What do you think about this aside from that? Am I making people happy?

>>33392147 (OP)
Making a girl cry is more enjoyable to me than having a real relationship. It is usually my goal when a girl likes me. I've probably made about 50 girls cry in my lifetime. Even in relationships, I like to make them jealous and upset. I did it to my gf many many times. I think maybe I'm a psychopath.

>>33392147 (OP)
>The first girl has been together with the other guy for 2 years.
So she likes you so much but has been dating another guy for two years and she hasnt left him or done anything with you.
>She liked me a lot and kept making eye contact.
So your evidence that she liked you was eye contact.
It sounds to me that both of these girls already have guys they value more than you and you didnt in any way fumble anything because you never had anything to begin with.

>>33392147 (OP)
why are you being so vague about what "emotionally crushed them" means. nobody has a clue what you're rambling about

>>33392273
>So she likes you so much but has been dating another guy for two years and she hasnt left him or done anything with you.
She was obsessed with me according to her friends and I confused her into that other guys arms
Personally, I do suspect she might've been a bit mentally ill because of how fast she flipped over nothing but it doesn't change the fact that I still upset her and she has now been together with someone else, living with him even. For all I care, she is happy and is building a family with him now as I am broken still
I pushed her into a relationship when she couldn't take the step for a long time. I made her brave, and I made that guy find his potential wife. I helped set up a couple at my own expense, like a retard, with nothing to gain

I chalked that up as a fumble but then it happened again last week and my heart has been broken ever since. The issue is me. I am helping other guys get girlfriends and it's fucking me up. Never heard anyone have this problem before in history

>>33392273
>It sounds to me that both of these girls already have guys they value more than you and you didnt in any way fumble anything because you never had anything to begin with.
It's the fact that they take the step and enter a relationship, likely out of emotional hurt, that fucks with me.
I'm sure they had people orbiting them. It's that, they were open to try with me (despite them) and when they get burned by my retarded ass they figure they might just take the safe route, and are forever happy growing with the other guy.

Maybe I'm incorrect and I would love to know how, but this is how I see it and I'm feeling like a bitch. I don't know where I am heading. Last week really fucked with me.

>>33392280
Because I don't want to derail from the central question. The question is not about what I did, which was hurting their feelings, the question is about the other things. What's happened happened and that's not what I want advice for

Based OP BTFO'ing women and putting them in their place

>>33392425
nobody is going to help you if you insist on being vague. im out

>>33392147 (OP)
The fuck did you do? Elaborate. "Crushed them emotionally" tells us nothing.

>>33393150
bump

>>33393131
>>33393150
Why the fuck do you want to know what I did, when I am asking if I am creating soul mates......

Girl 1)
She chased me but I didn't know and then she overheard me once when I said I didn't think she was that attractive and bashed her lip (like a retard). I heard she cried and began talking shit about me, very rightfully. I wanted to fix it for a long time but she flipped completely and got together with someone else and is now together with him still. For all I know, I made that guy's life and helped her find her soul mate. She was all I wanted in a girl, but I was a picky idiot at the time and it probably wouldn't work out anyway
Either way, losing her that way hurt a lot and I regret talking about her ever since
I mourned the loss for weeks

The second girl from last week hurt a lot because I did it again. She is more assertive and pretty promiscuous and we both work in the same area. We knew each other for two weeks and she came up to me one time to ask about a website she was working on. I obviously knew what was up but I was too scared. She asked if I wanted to help her with it and I just told her i was busy, like a fucking retard. Very cold and insensitive. I heard later she cried in the bathroom. I saw it from her POV, how is she supposed to show up to work now after being rejected like that, like an animal. She got together with a "nerdy" type guy a few weeks later and she has changed a lot. Seems more mature and shit, and when this happened I got fucked up. I wonder if I made her find her soul mate and if I made that other guy's life, as I remain single and I want to kms

Happy? Idk if I even want advice anymore, thank you and eat cock

>>33393011
>hurting women is based
Fuck off incel

>>33399518
Fuck off back to plebbit cuck beta simp white knight moralfag

These foids hurt themselves by having the thinnest skin alive, op is fucking retarded beta cuck for even caring

>>33396747
>I didn't think she was that attractive
Mourning over some mid bitch with the weakest of foid minds, like ? Get some standards retard

>I just told her i was busy
Complete fucking nothing burgers

Fucking infants home holy fuck

Fuckinf sage as per usual

>>33399854
Getting serious incel vibes from this post

>>33399854
>muh mid
How young are you, faggot? Appearance is not everything, simp bitch.
>I just told her i was busy
In other words, I rejected her and it could be one of two situations:
1: She was shy, built up courage, only to get rejected. But in such a case, when I tried to come back, she should've fell head over heels.
2: She thinks very highly of herself and flipped on me. The fact that I embarrassed her to tears is unfixable. She devalued and discarded me, and the only thing she'd want is revenge. This is much more likely, because as you can see, I did absolutely nothing and I wasn't even given the chance to "fix it" (there was literally nothing to fix).

These things are all besides the point. The point was that I got her together with someone else. Instead of her being my problem, she is now someone else's problem as I am alone. I can cope and claim I dodged a bullet, but I will never know. Needless to say, I gave that other guy a girlfriend, and I want to know if I am doing good in this world by helping people find their soul mates through emotional hurt or if I am causing grief unto other men later down the line.

>>33400220
Well ur wrong, I'm not involuntarily celibate. Op's situations is just stupid as fuck

>>33400308
Fucking sage you are fucking grasping straws thinking about shit completely irrelevant to yourself. Who fucking cares? Why the fuck do you care? This does nothing for you. Move the fuck on to other bitches, you little pussy ass bitch.