Thread 33446280

She has been married for 8 months.

I feel repulsed and like I could vomit. Here I had been subconsciously holding on to hope, not knowing how to let go. Telling myself that some day, she will break up with her boyfriend and I will get my revenge. I struggled with not knowing how to stop feeling this way.

I learn she is married and after the initial shock, I felt physically dizzy and like I could vomit. The second thought? I began imagining the divorce. In reality, she will have kids. And I keep struggling with how to stop feeling this way.

I could kms to make this stop. What is the therapeutic answer to this? I currently have techniques that work, but I learned them too late for immediate efficacy. What does /adv/ recommend for me to fix this immediately (it's been years, I can actually cry right now)?
Before anyone trolls: I am fully aware this is not about her. I do not want her back. I want myself back.

>>33446280 (OP)
You use relationships to anchor your identity. While you were in one with this particular ex, you felt the strongest sense of self. My advice is to do something challenging and rewarding and also a bit selfish. Maybe you will become a new man. Maybe you will anhero. That is the way of the hero.

>>33446280 (OP)
wow that's really pathetic. more so than usual, even.

>>33446287
I had a personality before her. She fell for it. She gave me stuff, trying hard to get my attention, and I didn't give much of it.

When she got me, she exposed me and got the ick. She devalued, discarded and ghosted. I took on her story despite knowing it was wrong. I felt something and genuinely wanted to try with her. Little did I know, she chose someone else. I struggled with reframing in order not to be that guy. It's all in my head, to her, I might've just been confused or liked her. At worst, she is flattered. But in my head, it's over and I can kms.

Yeah, there is no solution. I have only one, but it's exhaustive

>>33446318
Why? It's not about her. I don't want her. I want myself.

>>33446280 (OP)
my ex got married but then she died so I got over it

>>33446280 (OP)
I won't read yet another how to get over my limerence thread posted by a basement-dwelling, perpetually-online, subhuman moron who equates images found and impressions gained online with "talking to" or "having a friend."

>>33446280 (OP)
I swear to GOD there is not a single mature person on this earth

>>33446280 (OP)
she's probably getting drilled as we speak. his semen dripping down her sweaty thighs. hot.