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I feel absolutely fucking soulless after fucking a prostitute. I had been a virgin for 29 years of my life and yesterday I paid a prostitute for sex.

Everything felt bad it was as if I was killing my own soul. I felt nothing, no romance no passion in the kiss. I felt no excitement. I gave my first time into lust.

To add to that I also believe in God but I couldnt keep my horniness at bay, I cried to myself after doing it. I betrayed myself and my soul for nothing.

Please don't fuck a prostitute for your first time, do not give into lust like I did.

imagine being a male and thinking your virginity is some sacred thing lmao
you lost it to a piece of fruit or a hole in your mattress, faggot

>>33498332
Even if nobody knows, you will still remember it deep in your heart.

>>33498323 (OP)
Yeah, it wasn't ideal. But it got the pressure off and now you KNOW that you want love more than sex, and can focus your search more clear-headed.

>>33498323 (OP)
Hookers are great fun. Your problem is attaching absurdly excessive significance to something that doesn't actually exist (virginity). Well, that and believing in God. When you figure out that God is Santa for adults you'll feel better.

>>33498323 (OP)
>I feel absolutely fucking soulless after fucking a prostitute.
That's because you are a failed Normalnigger and deserve to suffer for your failure. Fucking hookers (and especially losing your virginity to them) is something only incels should do.

>>33498323 (OP)
I would better stay virgin forever than this (which I might, I don't care anymore)

>>33498718
No, you don't. The term virgin is feminine.

>>33498776
>The term virgin is feminine.
That's because, historically, male virginity was not considered to be a meaningful concept.

>>33498827
But we live NOW you fucking retard.

>>33498873
Anon, calm the fuck down.

The guy I replied to (you?) pointed out that the word "virgin" was HISTORICALLY female. He is trying to make some insane point about how being a virgin man supposedly feminises you. I was pointing out that this is nonsensical, and that the only reason we use a word that HISTORICALLY referred only to women is that HISTORICALLY male virginity wasn't a concept that anyone thought was worth evenvhaving a word for, because it had absolutely no significance.

If you want to argue that being a virgin is somehow feminising, you can, but you can't use a linguistic argument to support your point.

And if you don't think virginity is feminising, then why are you butting into the conversation?

>>33498701
This.
My first 2 times were with escorts, same age as you OP. I barely remember it and it was only 5 years ago. No regrets. Get over yourself.

>>33498323 (OP)
Literally nothing changed, retard. It was either this, or never losing it for you at this point. Now, either fuck 20 more prostitutes to get used to it, or to get enough courage to find an actual gf.
Just don't tell the whore you want to start a relationship you've only fucked prostitutes.

>>33498323 (OP)
I too did my first time with a whore at 24 years old. I don't regret it and you know why? Because I'm ugly as fuck and withtout it I know I wouldn't be able to fuck any decent woman. 28 years old and I still can't get a woman to love me.

>>33498897
>>33498701
>I buy 200 hookers a year and there's nothing wrong with me and actually this is better than dealing with females

>>33498323 (OP)
>I had been a virgin for 29 years
Well, at least you didn't immediately run out the door the minute you turned 18 to buy a hooker like all the other "I'm 18 and my life is over" posters.

Still, I would've waited until the big 4-0

>>33500120
Who are you quoting, retardo?

>>33500284
(You)

>>33498323 (OP)
>Everything felt bad it was as if I was killing my own soul.

thats because you glorified and romanticized the FUCK out of the whole thing. Just ask any dude who cashed in their v-card the "normal" way with some teenage gf, and they will tell you it was awkward and kinda weird at the very best. First times kind of suck even later on when you meet someone new.

>To add to that I also believe in God but I couldnt keep my horniness at bay

You're probabyl a P*ritan, so beyond help. But if you turn to Catholicism and Orthodoxy, you can see a viewpoint that God accepts that humans are flawed and forgives, as you forgive yourself.

>Please don't fuck a prostitute for your first time, do not give into lust like I did.

I did that, and I was very happy about having that sex thing out of the way. But then again I have not fallen victim to sectarian 17th century brainwashing.

don’t be too hard on yourself

i lost it at 23 at a red light district in japan. could barely get it up and was shaking and as shit

i now have a gf, the first few times were awkward but im glad i got it out of the way before i met her. it’s really not that deep, i just turned it into this huge thing and let it build up over the years

>>33498892
Yes, the Anon you replied to was me and you are a coping virgin, enjoy staying a Virgo (young woman) if you don't want to hire a hooker.
>>33500124
>Well, at least you didn't immediately run out the door the minute you turned 18 to buy a hooker like all the other "I'm 18 and my life is over" posters.
I'm one of those people. Why do you hate us? We just don't want to be virgins.

>>33500120
>>and actually this is better than dealing with females
If you are an incel, yes.

>>33498323 (OP)
I'd never get a prostitute simply because I'm way too cautious about STD's and stuff. Overall, I guess people can hire them? I mean, I've never had sex so it would extremely cringy of me to preach that "prostitutes le bad".

Of course, ideally, you're supposed to find a girl the proper romantic way by the time you turn 25.

That's the age when I finally started feeling that the whole true love thing doesn't resonate with me anymore, that porn is just a cope and even anime stuff started feeling kinda unfulfilling. That I'm too old and late for the romance stuff.

I saw a lot of times how guys just got automatically hit on by girls without even trying themselves, without the initiative.

I tried literally approaching girls, the ones I liked, with gifts and date proposals and sweet talk and whatever, I always got turned down, no matter if I took the initiative or just silently waited out in hope of getting hit on.

I think at this age you just treat sex as a nice snack, and keep it healthy. It just doesn't make sense to care about it that much anymore if you're not gonna experience the kino young adult romance. It's lame to idealize it after a certain point. There's a time and place for everything.

As a man, you have a literal biological need for sex so if you wanna be healthy, meet those needs by what you deem necessary. It's natural and you can't go against your nature, it's not good for your health.

But do you really feel that this is something worth worrying about at that age? Probably not, don't overthink it.

Seek purpose elsewhere.

No I won't tell you where, figure it out by yourself.

>>33500616
yeah pretty much this. The lack of sex wouldn't be a problem to men if it weren't so important for our body and mind especially. It's really fucking humiliating, at 23-25+ yo, to think about paying to have sex. But it is what it is. I needed that and I don't regret it to be honest. I couldn't do it otherwise

>>33500573
>Yes, the Anon you replied to was me and you are a coping virgin,
I am male, middle aged, with a body count of 40, and thirteen years into a very nice relationship, thank you. But sure, whatever helps you sleep at night.

>>33500616
>I'd never get a prostitute simply because I'm way too cautious about STD's and stuff.
You are *far* more likely to catch an STD from some slut on Tinder than you are from a hooker. Hookers are *really* careful about condoms.

>>33501617
>these sluts bad
>these sluts good

>>33500616
>I tried literally approaching girls, the ones I liked, with gifts

Good. Do it again

>>33501625
It's not a question of morality, it's a question of disease risk. In the general population, one girl in eight has either Chlamydia or Gonorrhoea or both. But you won't catch either from a hooker.

>>33501638
>hookers never catch or give STIs
lol
lmao

>>33500411
catholicism openly supports sexual deviancy, not really a good look.

>>33498323 (OP)
Good thread.

>>33500411
Forgiveness for sin isn't a blank check to sin. That's literally the unpardonable sin of presumption, you retarded degenerate.

>>33501643
Laugh all you like, it's still true. A hooker will make you wear a condom even for a blow job.

>>33498323 (OP)
Quit being a pussy you faggot, better to have scored with a girl in a mutually beneficial way than never scoring at all, or taking advantage of someone, or ruining your life getting a girl pregnant before you're ready. Could be way worse. It doesnt do you any good to feel bad about it. Embrace the fact that you finally got your dick wet and helped a girl pay her rent this month, pat yourself on the back for me bud

>>33498332
I lost mine to a dog

>>33498323 (OP)
I lost mine to an escort in my dorm room when I was 22 so that I wouldn't graduate college still a virgin. Felt like shit for a while afterwards but quickly got over it because I finally got that weight off my shoulders, I remember my roommate found the condom wrapper on the floor afterwards and was really glad that I finally "got some" (I obviously didn't tell him that I paid for it). I've never paid for an escort again and I've had several girlfriends since then

>>33498323 (OP)
i commend your romantic spirit, but in real life, everybody pays for sex. if not in cash – than in time, dates and gifts, stress, and/or psychological damage. in many ways, what you're paying for when you sleep with escorts is stability and peace of mind.

be grateful you're just sad about having seen an escort, and not suicidal because somebody you really loved kicked your goddamn back in and abandoned you, or because they keep threatening to abandon you when things aren't going their way. as much as i hate it, the hopeless romantic/yearner shit is better saved for fiction. unless you're a Channing Tatum face ass 1%'er.

>>33501602
Then why are you defending male virgins? Let me bully some men into fucking prostitutes ffs

>>33498323 (OP)
If you're 29, why did you consider losing your virginity at this age with a prostitute?

Haven't you met girls on dating apps or in your immediate surroundings?

Do you have a hard time connecting with girls?

As a woman, I don't think it's wrong for men to pay for these services. I even read a response in which they told you that paying for a prostitute can help you improve your relationships with future partners, which I completely agree with.

Having different types of encounters will only benefit you, improving your positions and even learning new positions.

Sometimes women tend to be quite "vanilla" when it comes to choosing positions. But with a little communication, you can see if your date wants to try new things, or have rough sex, get hit, be spit in the face, and all that stuff that tends to be out of reach, haha.

We're all soft, until we meet a man with enough patience to take us to the dark side of sex.

You might also like to experiment with your anus, which isn't a bad thing either. In that case, it's also good to share these tastes with your partner, to try other things and see how you feel.

I remember that when I was 19 to 23, I had my first and only boyfriend, and he was completely different from me. Super dirty in bed. He liked all of the above and also played porn in the background, haha.
At the time, I wasn't mentally prepared to play second fiddle to those games, but today I'm 30, and I was with a guy for 9 months (we decided not to be with other people, but we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend. We only shared a relationship and slept together 4 out of 7 days a week, sometimes 5 haha). With him, I allowed myself to experience new things and do all the things he likes...

(1/2)

>>33503097
Today I can tell you that after that experience, I'm a different person, and I'm sure that in my next relationship I'll have a much better time, because I know myself better and I've better developed my tastes haha.

I've been going through some things, and although I'm not in bad shape physically and I don't consider myself ugly at all, by not going out or posting photos on my Instagram, I don't have relationships with anyone! But this week I'm getting back together with my friends, and my plan is to get out of the cave and have relationships again haha.

Wish me luck.

And as a friend's advice to you men reading this: Your physical condition and appearance should never be a limit to achieving the girls of your dreams. We don't just want you to be beautiful; sometimes all that matters is that you're attentive, and among us girls, we have a saying: the uglier you are, the better sex you'll get.

So don't be jerks, and be open with your partners.
Communication will be your best ally with your future relationships.

I see myself very well, and my friends don't understand how, being a super active woman when it comes to having sex, sometimes I have years where I shut down, and I simply don't allow myself to meet guys and have a little fun...
But hey, things happen.

Always be attentive and active!

(2/2)

>>33498323 (OP)
>Father, I have sinned.
Now you can become a true christian.

>>33498332
Cope harder no-sex-sissy.

Before he nagged about being a virgin, now he nags that he no longer is a virgin. Some people just want excuses not to be content.

>>33498323 (OP)
You’re 29—stop being so emotional and get a grip. You’re talking like a middle school chick.

You tried something that wasn’t for you, but you’re still in good health and presumably in about the same financial situation you were in before. That’s life—it’s a calculated risk. Just don’t do it again.

Unless you marry some young Bible thumper, whichever woman you end up with is going to have at least one guy in her past who was casual or didn’t mean much.

It doesn't matter.

>>33506287
Fuck you.

>>33498701
>>33498897
>t. AIDs

>>33503267
Maybe stop being retarded

>>33498323 (OP)
I think I know what you mean by "killing your own soul" though, I get that feeling too. Often when I am working at my terrible job and wishing I was doing something meaningful. :( You are still you, I promise you will be okay, but I'm so sorry you feel this way right now. I don't know what you believe but I really don't think an experience like this changes much about who you are; you were just lonely and you wanted to feel better. I'm sorry if all of this sounds really silly, I just wanted to say something because I can sort of relate to your situation. How are you doing now? I hope better anon <3

I visit prostitutes once a month because my GF has a very low libido and doesnt like sex. Its a fun hobby. every girl is different from the last. Its exciting.

>>33506447
having a girlfriend and also seeing prostitutes is the kind of greed they try to warn people about in the Bible. i'm not religious, but i hope that shit bites you in the ass someday.

>>33506605
>i'm not religious
>i hope that shit bites you in the ass someday.
Why are you mad? If God doesn't exists according to atheist, there's no morality.

If God does not exists. There's nothing wrong with having a girlfriend and seeing prostitutes. There's nothing wrong with raping people. There's nothing wrong with killing people either. There's no good or evil. Everything is relative.

>>33506624
>right and wrong don't exist in the absence of a magical creator
die

>>33507598
Correct. Nature knows only survival, not empathy.

>>33506624
>If God doesn't exists according to atheist, there's no morality.
Nigga wut?

>>33506624
this nigga talking like a malignant entity from another dimension. this the nigga that whispers in the ear of schizophrenic people trying to convince them to do evil shit. LOL

>>33506624
>If God does not exists. There's nothing wrong with having a girlfriend and seeing prostitutes. There's nothing wrong with raping people. There's nothing wrong with killing people either.
>There's no good or evil.
I mean yea there isn't. Just because things are permissible doesn't necessarily mean everyone will have the desire to do 'evil' things for the sake of it.

>>33502659
You getting sodomized doesnt really count bro sorry