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Anonymous No.33627123 >>33627173 >>33629939
I'm jealous of my friend. When I go out with him, I'm jealous of how easily he gets attention/laid from women. He's kind of a sex maniac and currently has 3 FWBs.

He actually says he can never get guy friends because of dudes always get jealous and he's glad that I'm not like that. But whenever I go out with him, it's so painful because he just seems to effortlessly do what is impossible to me. My confidence actually gets worse because he does this thing where he hyper-analyzes my communication with others and tells me where I went wrong. And he's usually right. But it just massively sucks and isn't really fun.

It's not to say I'm an incel/sperg. I'm not. I'm handsome, but my game is objectively bad, I mean its not TERRIBLE, because I still get contacts and stuff from women when I go out, but it usually goes nowhere. He wants to help me but also I feel like a shitty friend for being jealous of him. I feel like a lost dog following him around on nights out because eventually I just get so put out at how he goes from group to group effortlessly whereas I just see a bunch of strangers.

He wants us to travel together. I feel like it would just be him getting laid the whole time and me just listening to nearly nightly sexcapades which honeslty might just be too much. but also I recognize I am a shit person and not sure what to do. I can handle going out and having some introspection but travelling with him will feel akin to getting cucked almost I feel like

He's a good friend, and I think I can handle my ego getting slapped around for the better on an occasional night out, but I think travelling with him would destroy me.

At the same time, maybe it would be an opportunity to break out of my shell, but maybe I'm just a sperg and there is no breaking out of it for me. Idk.
Anonymous No.33627173 >>33627197
>>33627123 (OP)
You have a friend, who has a skillset you lack. You find his skills admireable and would like to be like him to the point of jealousy. Why not change your impotent, weak mindset to a productive one? Learn from him, don't just look at him! Jealousy will get you nowhere, but you can learn from him. That's why he tells you where you behaved wrong. Jesus, how do you survive at all when contating with a fresh new topic? Just give up or try to learn how to survive? There are more complicated things im life that getting your dick sucked
Anonymous No.33627197 >>33627235
>>33627173
I think writing it out has made me realize how retarded I'm being. I think you're right. I think I need to let go of my jealousy, by going easier on myself for not being where I want to be.

Sex has always been a sore spot for me. There's other issues about my resentment towards sex bubbling up here like past abuse and its manifesting at me being jealous towards my friend and I don't like that. Idk, thanks. I think I'm good now. I'll go
Anonymous No.33627235 >>33627247
>>33627197
Good thing you are willing to learn!
There will be moments when you will fall back into your old way of thinking. Please remind yourself of your current thought in those times. Don't be too hard on. yourself
Anonymous No.33627247
>>33627235
ty anon, good points. i shall sleep now
Anonymous No.33629939
>>33627123 (OP)
He's literally helping you, anon