Thread 33683826

In the past, I posted about my Amway obsessed girlfriend. As hard as it is, ive decided to breakup with her. I can't stand her secrecy and mistrust of me in favor of her "business" and "mentors" anymore.

Problem is, we are long distance. There isnt a "good" time to breakup until next year, becuase we are planning on doing stuff almost every month between now and then. I need to rip the bandaid off.

Should I visit her to break up? It will be difficult for us to even find time when we are both free for me to visit and then immediately leave, but I imagine its the most respectful thing to do, especially after 2 years of dating. If I tell her im visiting, she'll come up with ideas for things to do, though, and I dont want to waste her time.

I could also do it over video call, much easier for me but part of that feels wrong too.

What do you anons think?

>>33683826 (OP)
tell her you have found another ponzi scheme

What is the point of a ldr when you can't even see, meet, or fuck this person? You can easily go outside and find more women in a 10 mile radius to fuck. You people are insane.

>>33684603
We originally met in college. I got a job in a different city, and she got an offer do do her dream PhD work in another state. Flights are really cheap for us to visit each other, so we've been making it work by visiting each other at least once a month.

>>33683826 (OP)
i remember that thread!

it might be harder and seem kinda shitty to just do it over phone or video call, but it sounds kinda silly to spend the money for a flight to see her just to dump her in person, especially if you're just going to be holding on to that thought until a convenient time comes.

>>33684670
Alright that's a different story. I don't know, man. You need to weight the energy and time you put into the relationship, and see if she reciprocated even half of it. If her girlboss job is more important than building a family with you, it may be over. Career oriented women are the worse. They will always make excuses to wagecuck to climb the corpo later, and you may be left on the back burner. If this is where things are heading then just break up.

>>33684683
I wont lie, she does reciprocate effort (usually), and when none of her Amway stuff is involved, she treats me very well. But her commitments to her "mentors" and her respect for them all come before me without fail. The breaking point for me was a week ago when she demanded we make time for her online "self growth" meeting in the middle of our upcoming anniversary trip. She refuses to compromise with me and hides her involvement with things until the last second to tell me becuase she knows i dont like it.

If I stay in this relationship, I will always be competing with her mentors, planning trips and our time around her events, and have to deal with people she is close with that I dont trust at all. I even found out she is planning on going to her mentors wedding without even inviting me. I wouldn't want to go anyways, but neither of us deserve to be in a relationship where she has to hide an entire second life.

>>33683826 (OP)
Just text her: Met another AMWAY hottie, she makes way more than you and you can't compete. See ya beeotch!

See, it's easy. No feelings involved at all. Treat her just as she treated you. Like she is irrelevant. Hear that sound? That's the sound of your relationship going down the toilet bro! Good luck, you'll need it for a few months in recovery. But you're freeeeeeee!

>>33684725
Dump her. It won't be long before she's fucking other dudes, and calls you insecure and not supportive of her girlboss job.

>>33683826 (OP)
Who cares how you break up? You don't owe her anything.
What you are doing is using breaking up in person as an excuse to keep the relationship going longer.
Be a man and make up your mind. Then rip that bandaid off.
She probably would have happy with some Amway guy. And probably already has a couple candidates picked out.

>>33685177
Im not trying to prolong anything. I think im going to video call her on Monday when she gets back from her current trip.