Thread 33792202

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30
Dated plenty when I was younger, focused on my studies and career instead of marrying; Now I am ready to have a family, life partner and forever friend that happens to be the loml.
Problem is I am a shut-in. To and fro to work, super market and home is about the extent of my outtings.
Give me advice.
Are these attainable desires?
Do I want for too much?

Honestly Idunno, most of the guys like me youre gonna meet online will have tons of baggage and resentment to holes.

Go with church I guess and hope you roll the dice on a sane moderate familyman and not some weird tradcath

>>33792202 (OP)
Assuming you aren't obese, it'll be relatively easy to find a husband. Maybe not easy, but definitely not hard either. If you have any interests try to find a connection through that, if you don't then get interests. Like the other anon said, church is an option, but I'd only recommend it if you are already Christian. Lonely men are an easy target, but are usually lonely for a reason, some are nice though and would make good husband material. It'll probably take some trial and effort. I'd say you have about 5-10 years tho before its "over" for you.

>>33792202 (OP)
Idk maybe open a dating app and look for guys aged 40-50.

It's not that hard; especially since you're a woman.
Basically, if you show any attention to any guy you're interested in (NO this does NOT MEAN JUST LOOKING AT HIM.) then you're pretty much in the clear. Starting a conversation is almost foolproof.
If he doesn't bother to continue the conversation, then sorry, it wasn't meant to be.
As for advice, I'd say dating apps are easy if you don't really care about quality; men will swipe on your profile regardless of what you put on there. The issue is you'll need to dig through all the profiles.
If you're looking for something IRL; go to places you'd like to meet someone with the interest at. Be it a gym, social place like some artsy joint, etc.
If you are not obese and not a single mom, you are living easy mode. Again, if you show the slightest interest (THAT'S NOT JUST LOOKING AT A GUY AND THINKING YOU'RE DONE) you shouldn't have too much of an issue.
Good luck!

>>33792202 (OP)
4chan

shit thread. zero information about your job (as a woman you will obviously want the guy to earn same or more), zero information about your sexual preferences (age, level of dominance) and dealbreakers (ex-wife with kids, stoner/gamer/incel or someone else not suitable to take responsibility, mental disorders like BPD or depression, autism)...

obviously, if you just wanted ANY guy, you could just ask nicely on 4chan, reddit or any dating app.

>>33792510
Ngl to each their own. Autism, depression and bpd are a deal maker for me personally.

>>33792249
Not the anon that made the thread but in a similar situation, how do I show interest then? I know looking back at a guy it's not enough, but I'm extremely awkward and I don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to do. Smile???

>>33792560
Ask him on a date. Any dude alive is gonna think "oh ok she's interested" no matter how dense.

>>33792560
Just talk to the dude. Go to him, do small talk. If he is interested he is going to reciprocate.

>>33792545
That filters about 80% of 4chan (if you equal social anxiety to autism) and 40% of Reddit, but now you still have millions of men to choose from.

All I can say is, if you go the online dating route, look for clues and engage with guys over voice ASAP. Plenty of retards are able to appear confident and funny via chat but drop the act on the phone (any voice chat app). If there is no chemistry, move on. Also, don't be an asshole and tell that clearly instead of ghosting. Meet in person early on. Don't have sex on the first dates. Be ready to accept flaws, the perfect man does not exist.

Dating IRL is similar, but for women, just takes longer. Gym, travel/outdoor/sports-meetups/clubs, business-trips, there are plenty of places to meet a guy. Ask questions about something and it might start a conversation and more.

>>33792588
>>33792657
I'm scared but I guess I have no choice uh. I thought guys didn't like getting approached. I've been ugly and fat for 27 years of my life, and this is my first year being slim and somewhat cute, so maybe I can pull this off now.

>>33792202 (OP)
Go back to school. Prey on the young khhv losers in STEM.

>>33792694
>I thought guys didn't like getting approached
On the contrary. Guys love to be approached.
It's written as a rule that if a GUY approaches a Woman it's creepy/rude/whatever.
You don't have to worry about that

>>33792889
Ok, I will try that next time I see someone interesting. But if I'm getting hurt it's on you, and I'll curse you with having unsatisfying dinners for a week.

>>33792694
>I thought guys didn't like getting approached.
Idk how this rumor got started by getting approached is like a dream for most guys.

you were supposed to find a husband while focusing on your studies and career. success isn't made in a vacuum. people fall in love with the people they work and collaborate with. sounds like BAIIIIT.

>>33792948
I'd say its still likely you get shot down, even if you only approach average guys instead of attractive ones. They could already have a gf or a bunch of other shit but try not to let it get to you and just keep going.

>>33793047
i did but he ghosted me.

>>33792694
I can count on one hand the times in my life when someone approached me, gay men or women, and I'm flattered by all of them. Just go get 'em tiger.

>>33792202 (OP)
>F 30
>focused on my studies and career instead of marrying
larp detected

>>33792249
>If he doesn't bother to continue the conversation, then sorry, it wasn't meant to be.
You know 99% of women are going to equate this with "if a guy doesn't go out of his way to carry a conversation with me", right?
Like, sure, if he gives terse responses and doesn't really reciprocate, that's one thing, but simply engaging at face value and minding his own business doesn't mean he's actively uninterested.

>>33792202 (OP)
>Give me advice
Make friends irl, try online dating.

>>33792202 (OP)
>F
>30
Why didn't you find a husband when you were younger?

>>33792202 (OP)
>Dated plenty when I was younger, focused on my studies and career instead of marrying
You're used up

>>33792202 (OP)
First get realistic expiations, you probably wont find a guy that is 2 meters tall, makes a million and has a third leg. The guy you can bag is probably just an average joe, maybe he will never be rich, or tall as a tree or romantic as Casanova, he will be just a guy. The same way you don't have a perfect body or desire to have sex every minute, just go look in the mirror and say that you aren't perfect and your future husband won't be perfect. Now how to meet him, you can try getting a hobby, if you like it you two got something to talk about so that's a plus. Also volunteering might help you meet someone, or if you have someone who can introduce you to a family member or friend. oh and if you can aim for the first date to be something cheap or free, like walking in the park or just coffee, since man are getting warry of foodie calls. dating apps are just used for hookups, guy are also getting warry of church and dating events are a clam fest from what I heard. Hope this helps and good luck.

>>33792560
>>33792202 (OP)
So you just dated and never had sex? The way you wrote you should have plenty of experience with it, and don't need to ask how to do it. Just do what do did back then.

>>33792560
>see man do [any activty]
>"hi, I want to get into [same activity], how should I start?"
if you're not a landwhale and the man is not an autistic retard he will do the rest

>>33792694
>take any negative female trait
>say “nuh uh, that’s actually guys”

>>33796233
Not OP again, I had two long relationships and they both started online (in different spaces) and moved to irl pretty soon after. I have no idea how to approach real life at 28, and it's pretty pathetic.
>>33796247
Ok maybe my issue is that I like autistic retards. I should give normies a chance.
>>33796260
I've been rejected plenty in my teenage years so I'm scared, but desu I was ugly, fat and retarded, now I'm just retarded I guess.

>>33792694
>I thought guys didn't like getting approached.
Have you completely lost your mind? Men spend their entire lives *dreaming* of being approached.

>>33792202 (OP)
Are you taking bf applications? Like right now?

>>33792202 (OP)
>>33792219
Don't you loony troons have anything better to do than trying to feel heckin valid by shitting on men (like you aren't also them)

>>33792202 (OP)
Fat?

>>33792202 (OP)
if you're in europe or would like to go to europe, and you play videogames like world of warcraft you can date me

>>33797770
is what it is
gotta do what you gotta do
what can you do about it
thats just bad rng