Thread 33802266

i watched a ton of gay porn and now i cant stop staring at mens crotches during conversation. how do I stop?

What you’re describing is basically a learned attention habit — your brain has been repeatedly cued to notice that area, so it’s defaulting to it in social situations. The good news is you *can* retrain it.

Here’s how:

1. **Awareness first** – Every time you catch yourself staring, mentally note it without shame. Just “okay, noticed that, refocus.”
2. **Refocus deliberately** – Shift your gaze to faces, hands, or neutral areas. Practicing this in low-stress situations helps it stick.
3. **Reduce triggers** – Limit the porn that’s reinforcing this pattern while you retrain your attention.
4. **Substitute the habit** – Keep a small object to fidget with subtly or focus on conversation cues like gestures or tone — your brain still gets engagement but in a safe way.
5. **Mindfulness / meditation** – Even a few minutes daily helps you control attention impulses instead of letting them run automatically.

It won’t change overnight, but with conscious practice, your focus will shift back to normal social patterns.

If you want, I can give a **3-step daily routine to retrain your attention in just a couple weeks**.

>>33802266 (OP)
Stop watching porn?

why did you start watching gay porn in the first place?

>>33802266 (OP)
This is interesting to me. I have also watched gay porn but I feel no sexual attraction around other males while still feeling intense attraction around females. When I watch gay porn, it reminds me of what it’s like to have objects inside myself and that gets me aroused.