Thread 33824362

How to stop being a directionless man whore? I want a wife and kids but i live like someone who just doesn't care about anything but a good fuck.

Il go between the two all the time. I've tied my self worth to being able to get sex with girls. I don't feel validated unless i do. But it doesn't ever satisfy me and I feel empty and hollow sometimes. I want a girl to love but it's like there's a disconnect.

>>33824362 (OP)
Could be worse. I've tied my self worth to getting laid, except I'm not getting laid. Just too anxious to put myself out there.

>>33824468
Im not gonna pretend like i dont like having random sex. I do. But honestly it is just a fleeting feeling. When i was a virgin i thought there was something wrong with me. nowadays it feels like it gives women more ammo to hurt me. Maybe im just a massive retard for caring so much and im a neurotic idiot

>>33824362 (OP)
I wish I could have casual sex, fuck off normalfag

>>33824922
I think insecurity drives a lot of us, so you're not alone. Not sure how you could overcome yours. My friends push therapy a lot, but ehh. Personally I think it's important to know yourself, warts and all, and accept who you are. Maybe you'll find some inner peace in doing that?

In the meantime, enjoy the fact that you're successfully puling random chicks. Sure it's not filling the void, but does anything really? Would marriage fill the void? Would children? I think you're old enough to know there's no happily ever after. Life rambles on. It's bumpy sometimes, and sometimes it's smooth sailing.

So you're kinda lonely, and kinda unfulfilled, and kinda horny and unwilling to compromise your freedom. So it goes.

>>33825016
>Would children?
I think this is the only fulfilment that can make me happy in this world. I like to think romantic love is real but I don't l
Think it is.

>>33824984
Again im not gonna try to bs you but i definitely do not feel normal nor have i ever had ever felt anything but like a loser outsider. Im not fucking girls everyday or anything im pseudonormie because im still ultimately a failure at relationships and can't keep a girl

>>33825095
I feel you. I'm probably less successful than you, but I've been lucky enough to wind up in sexual relationships with chicks who I considered out of my league. Ultimately it never works out, which undercuts whatever feeling of accomplishment I enjoyed during the ride.

It's weird. I don't particularly LIKE these girls, we don't have any shared interests, and I don't want a future with them. But once it's over, I fixate on the feelings of hurt and betrayal long after they're gone.

>>33825120
>It's weird. I don't particularly LIKE these girls, we don't have any shared interests, and I don't want a future with them. But once it's over, I fixate on the feelings of hurt and betrayal long after they're gone.

These are the ones that hurt me a lot. Why? If theres. A pretty girl i put her above myself. I make myself worth nothing. And she treats me like so, and somehow im surprised. I don't know if that describes you but that's what im thinking of when you say this.

Im 27 and it's becoming more and more clear to me that the way i saw myself as a kid will never go away. I worked hard to be fit be attractive and got somewhere, il never be a 10 out of 10 for sure nowhere close. I made it to ok but i still see myself as the same loser begging for attention i did in school.

Im a bit drunk so im sure none of this has coherence

>>33825172
Yeah, that sounds familiar. I was a loser in high school and that left a permanent chip on my shoulder. Getting with hot, toxic, shitty girls validates the 16 year old in me. I always wanted those girls to look at ME, and demand MY attention, instead of it being the other way around.

So when things get started with these girls, and they crave my attention, it's like a drug. It's better than sex.

But when things inevitably fall apart, because these girls a thots who will never settle for long, I feel like a loser all over again. I can tell myself these chicks are poison, but the child in me will never listen.

>>33825249
So we have a similar problem. I want to forget all that bullshit. I would be a better person today if i never experienced any of that disclusion and bullying. I used to think that it made me humble, kept me real and grounded. But now I'm starting to realize maybe it just made me bitter and doomed to be alone no matter what happens.

Im always negative and attract that energy. I see enemies everywhere, don't trust anybody. I don't find fulfillment in another person.

It's clear when you date someone that someone is the "more powerful" person in the relationship. And im always putting myself in the weaker position. Im the problem

>>33824362 (OP)
imagine if a female whore started talking about how bad she wants kids.

shit, im a virgin and yall call me a whore

>>33825548
I don't think anyone in this thread has called you a whore.

>>33825548
>imagine if a female whore started talking about how bad she wants kids.
Im gonna show some self awareness and say it was be funny. It would be. A whore got fooled for whatever reason and thought that life did not have consequences and passed a point where now it's locked out to her

So obviously if i turn that around in myself im pretty fucked. I steered my life in a way towards this hedonistic bullshit and now pay the consequences. I can blame other things. Afterall, the things that drive me are external. But then what? I mean i want to be better. I just want to feel some peace and stop looking towards a woman for approval. Like a woman will come and save me from my life and make me a great man. That's stupid.

I want to delete these dating apps, and just be alive for a little bit. Do something selfless for a little bit for no apparent gain. I don't know if that will solve the issue but I hate being this horny fucking creature. Im scum. Im just fucking scum always thinking about how someone is gonna fuck me over.

OP I relate heavy to what you're going through. It's hard to find balance. It's even harder to not just let oneself go and be a fucking dog humping any legs that come around. I'm 26 and after a serious relationship but it just hasn't been manifesting and frankly it's been demoralizing trying so many times in pursuits that only bloom temporary experiences. I'm sick of this temporary life, I need something permanent.

On youtube a very helpful source of comprehending myself has been the work of Sam Vatkin. His articulation and differentiation of malignant behaviors and dynamics VS healthy ones has been enlightening. However I still am alone and big sad. I can't even bring myself to make a dating profile anymore because I just run into women that are unavailable or unappealing now. It is what it is but man, I am a beaten down dog.

>>33825775
>Sam Vatkin
Do you mean sam vaknin because that's all i find. Some israeli guy

I've went hyper speed on the dating apps since i was 18. Always been hopeful someone good would come along

>>33825796
Yes, his work is extremely helpful. If you pigeonhole him just because da jooz then honestly you're doomed.
>I am totally a mossad agent btw and I'm currently changing the weather on you and draining your bank account oooga Booga shabbat shalom I'm the spooky jew ooohooOoOoOOooo

I've been on apps since after highschool. Had 3 or so important relationships but the best only a little past a year of time together. Now I float and yearn for something right for me. Real talk, genuinely consider your attention to vaknins work. It's solid gold of wisdom.

>>33825392
Putting pussy on the pedestal, you lot. Bag a pretty one and be done with it, settle down, quit the mind games, no-one cares anymore you're all only getting older and more irrelevant