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I think you are expecting too much out of individuals. No one going to be super great friend where you vibe on all the same things and its all happy days.
You can spend time with individuals about specific interests, maybe you find some other things in common and its even better, but there isn't going to be some person who fulfills it all. Not even a clone of yourself.
Personally I find that appreciating the time you do spend with people, the interactions you do have, are what you should focus on, not that they could be deeper or you could get more out of them.
>what if they have a problem with X thing I do
who cares? if they have a problem with it they will avoid you and you don't need to do anything, don't put in some insane amount of effort, be happy yourself and try to include others but don't make things reliant on them.
>But if I don't like Z thing about them
then don't spend time with them? if it only comes up and you never need to deal with it then who cares, if they start inconveniencing you then again, just don't spend more time with them.
Don't seek all of this from one person, its way easier to find many who fulfill what you need, and in my opinion, way better since when you get annoyed or exhausted by one group you can spend more time with others until you "recover" so to speak.