Thread 23530822

I am 27 1/2 do you think I can experiment young love ?

Do you think I can live love like if I was a teenagers of a young adult ?

I feel like i will miss an universal part of human life and the one that matter the most

>the one that matters most
It doesn't. Teen love is the most overblown and forgotten of all our experiences. The only reason it's so intense is because for most people it's their first. Think back on your first anything your first time riding your bike, your first steak, the first time you got a win or the first time you played through a game. Each one experiences diminishing returns and your later experiences become more worthwhile than your earlier ones.
If you haven't had a first gf or first love then it won't matter what age you are it will be intense like it would be as a teen because it's your first.
Notice that very very very few people get together as teens and stay together. It's because this phase of infatuation isn't real love. Often you don't have anything in common, don't share the same ideals and the longer yall are together the more it falls apart because it was never about love it was about validation. You're validating each other as desirable, dateable and worthy of love. That's why you feel this way. You feel that you're not worthy of love because of your age where the reality is you're in the best position to fall in love.
It's not hopeless but you'll need to assume a different perspective in order to experience what you really want.

I've been surprisingly in love with the same woman since I was 13

Teen love isn't really that great, it's not innocent at all, that's usually when you start to become really aware of the inequality that exists in the world along with class dynamics and things like that, when you're a child you're often not as aware of things like that unless you're one of the bullies.

Most people don't have real love in high-school as well because there's a limited body of people and the odds are you won't find someone you really like HS

>>23531031
>Most people don't have real love in high-school as well because there's a limited body of people and the odds are you won't find someone you really like HS
odds would actually be much higher that you would find one, since you live in the same town and have many of the same shared formative experiences as these people
i guess that's rarely true now but yeah, that's how it should be
not just a body of completely randomized people in a room

>>23530822 (OP)
im also 27 and have never so much as been on a date.
desu i kinda just accepted the fact i wont ever get one. it doesnt bother me too much because i'm successful in other areas of life so.

>>23530822 (OP)
you can't and nothing will ever be like it

>>23530822 (OP)
you're asking if you can be in love sincerely, with naïveté and innocence
yes, of course you technically could
nothing precludes it save your own mind—I think most people could, but that doesn't mean they can
most people cannot

are you cynical? are you jaded? are you hurt? are you calcified, ossified, and closed-off?
do you have painfully true understanding of and control over your own psyche?
or just a lot of convenient, soothing lies, ego, and baggage?

do you still love yourself?
do you still love people?
do you still love life?

I don't why you're asking a question you already know the answer to

>>23531287
>>23530822 (OP)
I'm also late 20s and I have unironically found the answer to your problems, but I don't know if you're going to like the answer.

>>23531524
ok what is it

>>23531875
Roleplaying as an anime girl in VR is crack for incels and will allow you to feel the teenage emotions that you seek. What you do with this knowledge, if anything, is up to you. But remember, crack is dangerous.

>>23530934
I know peoples that are in love while they are teens often don't marry its not a big deal its just life

I had a " girlfriend " at 13 well it last just few days but for some sad reasons we did not had time to really have a date etc but the some little interaction i had with her i felt intense émotions i never had again , and same when i had an occasion to be with girl i could pass some time with but sadly never coule romance them for X reasons

The heart the body , the ruminations and self hatred was just gone

Adolescence is when you are becoming an adult and love and romance felt like the best part un initiation to build yourself i wish i could bear love inside me through my life but i am 27 and even if i know love in futur will it really have a point ? If i dont get married and have children do love will really have a point ? My adolescence is over , i am already passing through my adult life without good émotions and memories in myself to help me

I had ruminations over ruminations self hatred depression all these years and never knew love and you tell me its not a big deal ? Litterally everyone pass throught this exept me and you will say to me i dont have a problem I did not missed something that really matter ??

>>23530822 (OP)
no woman loved you as a teenager

no woman will ever love you now as an adult

cope harder tiny white pecker cuckoldoid subhumanoid LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!!!

>>23532499
>I had a " girlfriend " at 13 well it last just few days but for some sad reasons we did not had time to really have a date etc but the some little interaction i had with her i felt intense émotions i never had again , and same when i had an occasion to be with girl i could pass some time with but sadly never coule romance them for X reasons
>The heart the body , the ruminations and self hatred was just gone
i had the same things basically
try to be grateful you felt those things at all, and don't let the sadness now tarnish the memories, you know?
>>23532499
>Adolescence is when you are becoming an adult and love and romance felt like the best part un initiation to build yourself i wish i could bear love inside me through my life but i am 27 and even if i know love in futur will it really have a point ? If i dont get married and have children do love will really have a point ? My adolescence is over , i am already passing through my adult life without good émotions and memories in myself to help me
you can't know what love would feel like in the future, anon
and i've heard over and over again people say "i didn't think i'd make it to 30, but now my life is amazing" or similar things with different ages
just try not to put yourself in a self-fulfilling coffin, keep subjecting yourself to fortune and change instead
>Litterally everyone pass throught this exept me and you will say to me i dont have a problem I did not missed something that really matter ??
if you're surrounded by people who had the experiences you want, that can feel like shit, but it doesn't make you super exceptional or broken or anything, it just means that happens to be the group you're surrounded by
if it makes you feel too awful, maybe don't be around those people
but try not to isolate yourself without things to do besides ruminate either

>>23532516
tiny turd pecker omegacopium
>inb4 i have a gazillion imaginary girl- ACK
they don't count

>>23532527
>gets owned by a polack
There's no recovering

>>23532545
nice gif

>>23532526
Feeling these drops isnt good it make me be more counscious of what i wasted what i missed and if just a LITTLE of this made me feel the best emotions ever , others peoples would hold hands, kissed, est ice cream etc even had sex must had feel something great and at a young age

You say i may experiment it now but its will not be a youth love , spontaneity is over , women my age experimented it plenty of time already and they dont want just romance they want something more concrete like money and house cars etc and will be way more sélective

And even if i experiment it now , it will not be with the spirit of a young person , free, burning, full of life

Now i am grey , i am empty , depress as never , my mind is something broken i don't have anymore the easy-going spirit of a young one

Even if i explore love it will never bé with a free spirit but with a broken heart/soul

Thanks for you answers tho i will meditate them

>>23532527
>>23532545
commit suicide tiny white pecker cuckoldoid subhuman

you will never breed

i have had sex with one gazillion women LOL
I HAVE GINORMOUS BJG BLACK COCK AND HUMUNGOUS BIG BLACK BALLS


a white male commits suicide every 5 minutes like a cuckold because they can't breed LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!! EVERYDAY THE WHITE RACE GETS CLOSER TO EXTINCTION LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!!

I AM A BLACK BVLL

>>23532556
You should do less meth.. or maybe more, I'm not sure

>>23532553
>You say i may experiment it now but its will not be a youth love , spontaneity is over , women my age experimented it plenty of time already and they dont want just romance they want something more concrete like money and house cars etc and will be way more sélective
don't listen to that shit
there's always exceptions and they aren't that rare
look at all the people walking around, half of them are women with various different lives
the trends don't matter that much
>And even if i experiment it now , it will not be with the spirit of a young person , free, burning, full of life
how do you know? maybe it could be :D
>Now i am grey , i am empty , depress as never , my mind is something broken i don't have anymore the easy-going spirit of a young one
>Even if i explore love it will never bé with a free spirit but with a broken heart/soul
it's not that common, but i've heard several people say they met someone who saved their life & made them feel alive again
>Thanks for you answers tho i will meditate them
of course, good luck anon

>>23532565
you should use your tiny white clitty rage to commit suicide instead of coping all
day like a cuckold LOL

>>23532569
Thanks buddy , your answers was simple but made me felt better, i will keep them somewhere , trying to keep hope in me

I gotta drink a tea and sleep i have to work tomorow , thanks again i will sleep better tonight

>>23532571
Methinks you need some sleep, you have 9-5 at McDonalds tomorrow

>>23531929
oh yeah i know a bi guy that sends me crossdressing selfies and he plays vrchat all the time, that explains it.

but anyway i don't actually want those kinds of flings I'd want an actual committed relationship

>>23532595
<3
i hope the work is decent atleast, maybe could find solace in that
enjoy the tea, sleep well

>>23531929
that's no substitute

i guess vrchat is alot like secondlife used to be, maybe?
i've seen people with 5000 hours in there, and i know about the servers where people sleep next to each other in VR to feel less alone
there's alot of cool things you could do with VRchat but alot of it seems off to me

>>23532750
i can't tell if that's depressing or cute. maybe it's both

>>23532601
i think you need eat a very large amount of sodium nitrate sissy cuckold clittyhitler. you obviously will never breed or get married

you were born on this planet to only be a cuckold and jerk off while BLACK BVLLS FUCK WHITE WOMEN LOL


go ahead little cuckoldhitler, put a plastic bag over your head and suffocate to death. your cuckrace will go extinct anyway no matter what LOL

>>23532762
i think it is cute, but what it implies is deeply dreadful in a way which is hard to grapple with or find words for

>>23532844
I know I'm gonna die alone and I've made peace with that. life ain't kind to autists but i make the most of it.

>>23532847
man, it's self-fulfilling to believe that
>>23532847
>life ain't kind to autists but i make the most of it.
that's all you need to do really
try not to get too attached to experiences ("i NEED to XYZ"), but try not to close yourself off to them ("i will never XYZ") either, for whatever reason, and you'll live better for it

>>23532860
I'm happy with my life, i have a house and a job i enjoy, i have no debts, i get a lot of time to pursue my hobbies. i figure that's better off than a lot of people, especially since i had very poor parents growing up.

>>23532750
Way more than you know.. I used to room with someone like that.. they tried to get me into it.. ever seen a grown man who calls himself a lady on his bed in tidy whtieys while he try's clowning on the "sheltered kids" (he grew up in da burbs with us all just came from closer stock with no c really sad) but anyways kid was a nightmare flailing around.. funniest part I could tell by the way they were talking and how drunk he was they saw past his bs and were definetly talking down to him legitimately kinda sad.. I mean he was too but his was in the sense of they're okay just little butters under my boot like south park, theirs was more like this fucking loser really thinks we like him vibes

His bad personality plus him bullying the paraplegic girl in the group for being depressed when dating him and screaming at the fat one like it was bloody murder with me over the phone asking if I could believe her was probably the nails in the coffin that out him under a more fine microscope in the friend group.. but don't be worried guys he did have one real friend online, so it's okay as long as he never tries to attack that guy when hes had enough of his bs hell be fine. Dudes two years younger than him and like his shadow.. hopefully that kid runs off on him more than my old roommate him because that kid was a Malibu's most wanted poser

>>23532837
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infinite_monkey_theorem

I believe in you, you can do it!

>>23532880
i see
that's good, and i don't mean to fuck with you by any means
also good job doing all that by 27 as well, you are definitely ahead of alot of people
>I know I'm gonna die alone and I've made peace with that.
it's just a shame to hear people say that
if it ever bothers you, or you change your mind, you might consider trying to find a decent therapist, they could probably help

>>23532896
didn't read

I just cummed inside of a white woman LOL

cry about it little pissbaby cuckyboi incel

>>23532911
You're kinda proving my point

>>23532922
you're kinda proving my point little crying pissbaby tiny white pecker incel

>>23532885
o.o
that's a crazy situation, probably had to be there to really get the full effect lol
i've considered doing things like that, but i could NEVER do that while even living in the same house as other people, let alone with them in the room
i guess people with drinking habits tend to stop caring about that sort of thing, maybe that would explain some of it in his case
>>23532885
>funniest part I could tell by the way they were talking and how drunk he was they saw past his bs and were definetly talking down to him legitimately kinda sad.. I mean he was too but his was in the sense of they're okay just little butters under my boot like south park, theirs was more like this fucking loser really thinks we like him vibes
that does make me feel bad for him
you'd think you'd be able to find a "safe space" or some solace in fucking VRchat of all places, but i guess not
internet really used to feel like another world where everyone had shared interest, a place like VRchat would be focused on just dreaming/fantasizing together i would think
i wanna say "normies ruined everything" but i don't think it's that simple, i hate it though
>His bad personality plus him bullying the paraplegic girl in the group for being depressed when dating him and screaming at the fat one like it was bloody murder with me over the phone asking if I could believe her was probably the nails in the coffin that out him under a more fine microscope in the friend group.. but don't be worried guys he did have one real friend online, so it's okay as long as he never tries to attack that guy when hes had enough of his bs hell be fine. Dudes two years younger than him and like his shadow.. hopefully that kid runs off on him more than my old roommate him because that kid was a Malibu's most wanted poser
holy fuck
i feel less bad if he bullied other people, but still
seems like a nightmare roommate for sure, funny story though
wonder how all of them are doing now

>>23530822 (OP)
you need to find a hobby or job where you're around young women for extended periods of time. that's the only way forward.
>>23532907
>le therapy
why do fags alway think this the go to solution. no therapist is going to help you find a loving relationship.

>>23533019
>no therapist is going to help you find a loving relationship.
that's true, but a 27-year old who has already accepted the idea that they'll die alone is likely to self-sabotage in various ways, some of which they aren't aware of
a DECENT therapist can help pin down all of those & resolve them

if that's something he's interested in
if not that's fine

>>23532945
Not at all, I'm calm and collected, you're shitting your pants over every thread spamming the same thing. It'd be like if I went into every thread and posted a hitler speech. Brown clitty DEFINETELY leaking. Stop going to 4chan to plap your chastity cage you freakiazoid.

>>23533049
yawn didn't read

tiny white clitty
tiny white clitty
tiny white clitty
tiny white clitty LOL

>>23533019
and to answer your question more broadly, that's usually because the fags don't want to deal with whatever the other person is complaining about
friend starts venting to you? just tell them "uhhh just get a therapist lol what do you want me to do"

>>23533059
when?

>>23533059
Do you have the autism that makes you smart, or do you have the autism that makes you retarded or are you the kind of autism that makes you really fucking weird in combination with one (1) of the above options?

>>23532907
is this even something a therapist could help with, though? i'm not depressed or anything like that. surely i'd want something closer to a life coach if i were really serious about it.

but i've always been thinking to myself, is it really worth it? i can think of numerous drawbacks to having a partner. having to consider someone else's needs and wants, not being able to make any important decisions by yourself anymore, having to devote time and energy to them instead of what you might want to do instead. not to mention birthday and anniversary gifts, and i'm notoriously horrible at giving people gifts. all for what, companionship? is that really that valuable? maybe it is for neurotypicals, but i don't really get lonely. sure, it'd be NICE to have someone, but i'm not gonna go out of my way to find one. would i like a chocolate bar? sure. would i climb mount everest for a chocolate bar? no i wouldnt - and i consider relationships the same way.

and then there's the fact that i sometimes say autistic things that upset people without me even realising why. this happens rarely but enough to the point where i seriously doubt i'm going to hold any long term relationship, especially seeing how i'd be interacting with them every day, whereas i make it a point to talk to people as little as possible in my daily life to avoid such a thing.

>>23533078
Neither, it's the plain retard version, altho rare it can happen.

>>23533078
could i'll weird abuse

>>23533078
erm

the autism that makes me really smart of course DUH

LOL

it's easy making retarded tiny white pecker cuckoldoids seethe LOL

>>23533083
these are the exact things you should tell a therapist, anon
with all the stuff you've accomplished, you probably wouldn't gain anything from a "life coach"

>>23533161
>these are the exact things you should tell a therapist, anon
and i don't just mean that dismissively
i read the whole post, and those are the exact sort of things a decent therapist will help put your mind at ease about, and help you realize things about yourself from
i don't know enough about you to answer any of those questions

>>23533161
Therapists are dumb retards, avoid at all costs.

sorry I was busy spamming the other thread uh

>>23533161
therapist scary. what would i even be looking for in the first place though. i don't really get why you think i need one honestly. I'm not offended I'm just confused. also i kinda hate opening up to people. i can do it here because I'm way better at typing than talking (plus it's anonymous i guess)

>>23533176
i heard that there's a lot of bad ones which only worries me more. funnily enough my mother works as a councillor (I'm not entirely sure what the difference is? they seem to do the same thing)

>>23533176
alot of them are, yeah
therapy is a very straightforward mechanistic process at this point, there's nothing mystical or complicated about it
you just have to find someone who isn't a retard with personal bias and who you "click" with

>>23533223
>funnily enough my mother works as a councillor (I'm not entirely sure what the difference is? they seem to do the same thing)
someone correct me if i'm wrong, but i believe a councilor focuses more on helping you function in society & depend on yourself, while therapists focus on more personal stuff (often subtler and harder to find patterns of behavior)

a psychologist will just try to properly classify you based on whatever abnormal behaviors they find
a psychiatrist will try to find meds to manage whatever problems
therapists try to actually resolve shit, or atleast help understand yourself better
councilor is probably most similar to therapist

>>23533223
>i don't really get why you think i need one honestly. I'm not offended I'm just confused.
it's partly just "you may as well try it", since you're in a decent position, happy in most ways, i assume can afford it, etc
it's not that you "need" one, though that's up to you, it's more that you might find out surprising things which help you have a better life, and there's nothing to lose by trying
might be scary but that shouldn't stop yo
>i can do it here because I'm way better at typing than talking (plus it's anonymous i guess)
that is understandable
remember you can just change your mind or walk out if you feel uncomfortable, you're in control and you don't have to see the person again

>>23533083
i didn't ask you to write these things
it seems like you ARE compelled to open up to people, even if you hate it
therapist is ideal for that, could help put your mind at ease without any possible consequences or using anything against you

sorry for disorganized posts
wish i could help people better

>>23533288
it mainly came about from OP's post. i see incels being distraught about not having relationships all the time, and i really want these people to see that there's much more to life than finding a partner. there are so many other things i'm sure they could achieve/do/be happy about but they hyper-fixate on this one thing they're so desperate for

>>23530822 (OP)
I'm sorry. but I don't think so
touching my gf when I was 17... I've never felt anything like it since
maybe early exposure is the problem there... but I think age-related hormone levels are probably the cause
by 27, that stuff is falling off HARD
I'm really sorry, but I don't think you'll ever experience young love
you'll experience new love, but never the feelings that are elicited when you're both in high school

>>23533321
that is true
the death cult shit is something from another dimension, i can't stand it

>>23533334
the past that was differs little from the past that was not
the life and love you personally experience will always be infinitely better than the one you didn't
it's not something people should worry about, and it's absolutely not a justification for the idea that all love is a waste of time unless it's young, which usually seems to be the implication

>>23530822 (OP)
>universal part of human life
It isn't, though. You're proof of it. But not just you! It's more common than at any time in recent history NOT to have this. In my generation it was still pretty rare and you had to have at least one physically unattractive trait combined with a personality / character / lifestyle that didn't facilitate compensating for a lack of looks, like genuine autism, work allergy, disdain for normie social games, odd interests etc. Turbomanlet, slightly socially retarded due to homeschooled and more interested in old motorcycles than whatever rapper is "on fire" (sadly not literally) right now? Congratulations, you give teenage girls and young women the nuclear ick and will have your first gf at 35. But nowadays it's what, a third of guys who don't achieve this and go into their 20s as virgins? And all of them are pretty run of the mill dudes? I bet it will be half for Gen A. At what point do enough people not have it for the "universal experience" label to become a bad joke? Again: You are not alone, some rare exception, the only guy who missed out. You are one of millions. You are legion. It's a normal part of life in the 21st century. So chin up!

>>23530822 (OP)
you need to learn that nothing matters and that looking outward to solve your issues is not the solutions.
once you can get over this you can start focusing on what matters to you and building up your inner strength

also tits or gtfo

Teen love sucks, and nowadays you have a higher chance of being groomered than being with someone your own age. It is overrated, I would have skipped it if I could.