Thread 76495006

>1st child
>Gains a bunch of weight
>Loses most of it withinh a year
>Gets pregnant again
>Gives birth
>Is still fat 2 years after but is constantly "trying to lose weight"

What do i do? What do i say? How do i say it. Anyone whos married for long and has been/is in the same situation care to share advice?
I cant flat out tell her she's fat. She even asked me that directly and i kept saying no but she knew i was lying because i was laughing. Anything to imply she should lose weight will just piss her off. The way she did it before was that we were BOTH on a diet. But if im not she then eats shit because i sometimes do to. Grabs 2 portions of lunch. Eats candy if she has the opportunity.
Shes not obese or massive. She refuses to say her weight but its around 75-80kg. She had 60 when we met and shes 171cm tall.
Im especially reminded of the fact that shes unappealing during the summer when a bunch of tight little whores walk around half naked. The fact that she has excess skin ok her belly from the pregnancies doesnt help. We recently hung out with some friends of her that are slim and when i hugged them to greet them i was reminded of what a skinny girl felt like in my arms.
Fucking help me.

>>76495006 (OP)
>he fell for the marriage meme
You gonna love and cherish that landwhale just like all husbands before you lmao

>>76495006 (OP)
I dunno man, go to the gym and take her with you.

>>76495006 (OP)
>75-80kg
she is a landwhale what the fuck are you talking about?

>>76495006 (OP)
Women are supposed to be fat as mothers you idiot. She’s meant to have kids sucking and bouncing off her squishy flabby body.
Tell her she puts the world to shame when she’s thin like she is a sex icon when she’s thin.
Take her to the gym and have her walk. Take her on evening walks.
Buy her low calorie snacks and give them to her after your evening walks.

>>76495006 (OP)
75kg for a 171cm tall woman is fine.

>>76495006 (OP)
Getting obese while pregnant is unfortunately normalised. There are plenty of woman who don't get fat while pregnant simply because they don't over consume food.

>What do I do? What do I say? How do I say it.

Whatever you do/say, the motivation for her to lose weight and be fit will 100% have to be because she wants to, it's her choice and it's because she needs/wants to.

I'll start listing some things out that may or may not work

- Routinely take unflattering pictures of her in normal situations where it reveals how fat and disgusting she is. Post these to instagram/social media and tag her.

- Propose you both get fit together and give yourself 2 years to be at a goal weight.

- Talk to her and say you're starting to feel concerned about both of your health/weight, and you want both of you to be the best versions of yourself which will allow you both to have the happiest marriage possible.

- Another option is to be totally direct with her and say you aren't attracted to overweight people, and if she doesn't lose weight then it will cause you to be unattracted to her, the relationship will suffer and you will divorce her. This is actually a psychologically valid thing to do with everyone in your life. It's called consequences and the choice is up to the other person.

- Dirty bulk her. She wants to be a fat disgusting slob? Alright, then double down on it. Feed her larger portions of trash, watch her get morbidly obese. Fuck fit hookers and ultimately leave her.

That's all I got for now

>>76495006 (OP)
Say you want to learn or get better at cooking, start cooking tasty yet low calorie meals for her. Plan out dates that involve physical activity. Or just crush up ozempic into her food idk

>>76495220
that's 5'7" you dumbass that is FAT as FUCK

>>76495686
>26 BMI
no

You can't force someone to do something. You have to make them want it for themselves. She's not a pet, so acting like you can "train" her is as dumb as some bitch hooking up with a violent faggot thinking "I can change him".

Be real with her. And be prepared for her to be real with you too.

>>76495686
>165 lbs
>fat as fuck
Chubby maybe, but landwhale status? nah.

It's too late lmao.

>>76495581
Based psychopath.

>>76495740
>>76495758
okay fat asses

Reminder that women don't have muscle so are mostly 50% bodyfat which looks horrendous

>>76495822
Women are supposed to have more bodyfat naturally. She's probably overweight but you're being a sperg.

>>76495834
and she carries all that weight around her waist you fatass

>>76495006 (OP)
I’m gonna say it because nobody here has the experience or balls to say it.

She doesn’t respect you, probably doesn’t even love you, at least definitely not the way she used to. The kids are here and you have two of them together. Her mom instincts have taken over and she gives zero fucks about your happiness or well being. And she knows that she’s locked you in with 2 kids because that child support will be hell on you if you try to leave, so, she’s got you. She doesn’t give a shit that she emberasses you, she doesn’t give a shit that you find her unattractive. No, not really. She may cry and mope about it if you bring it up but she doesn’t want you to find her attractive she just wants you to stop complaining about it. And whenever you try to have a conversation about this it’s always ALWAYS going to be some shit that you gotta do to “support” her. Any real deal exercise regimen she won’t take seriously, she’ll say she’s dieting but end up snacking all day or sneaking treats, and she’ll ignore all this and cry to you about how she’s “trying so hard and she just can’t lose the weight” and this will go around in circles till you get tired of bothering her about it and just leave her alone to pig out and do whatever she wants. Oh and it’s only going to get worse, she’ll bust 100 kg in 3 years guaran-fucking-teed.

My only advice is to completely isolate her. Persona non grata. No more fucking her, no more hugging her, no more date nights, no more social activities. It’s you, your kids, and your fat pig of a roommate. And if you think you can just deal with it? Yeah that’s what I thought too until the resentment really started to build and I only got in better and better shape and she became enormous.

And you fuckers can harsh on me for this all you want but i eventually divorced her after she hit 260lbs. My new wife is 110 and strives and puts in major effort to look good on my arm and be attractive to me.

>>76495846
how did you deal with the child support payments?

>>76495843
sperg out more el spergo

>>76495862
Ate financial shit for 3 years till I knew she got a better job and had a better financial situation and went back and renegotiated.

>>76495862
And I will tell you this, give a slight glimmer of hope. The only way you can really force her to do it is to babysit her and do it right along with her. No, scratch that, you have to put in 5x her effort and discipline and then maybe, just maybe she’ll follow along. No more shit food in the house, nothing that can be microwaved or prepared in less than 20 minutes. Im telling your right now why she eats, its boredom, it’s convenient. It’s something that makes her feel good even if she isn’t hungry. If she has to spend 20 minutes preparing something healthy and not super tasty instead of microwaving some taquitos with cheese or popping in a pizza, she won’t cook or eat. Any positive interaction you have with her (sex, affection, activity) is entirely contingent on her toeing the line and doing this with you. Key thing is WITH YOU, because left to her own devices she’ll be a lazy hog and not do it. This is more like getting an alcoholic to put down the bottle than it is to get a person to stop eating. Food is her drug.

>>76495879
enjoy your fat pig of a wife

>>76495006 (OP)
>171cm
>75-80 kg
what a fat cunt lmao

>>76495006 (OP)
control what she eats?
also
>getting married
not even once

>>76495006 (OP)
Bump

>>76495006 (OP)
Inject that fat bitch with ozempic and tren

I grew up in the middle millennial period (1990), so being fat was generally considered pretty disgusting among people my age and people were not afraid to talk about it.

My gf is a zoomer and the social manipulation in the intervening years has had an obvious effect. To the point that she is not even aware of what guys actually consider attractive. She was under the impression that being ‘chubby’ was OK, as long as she had an ‘active lifestyle’.

I had to sit her down and have an honest conversation about my expectations of her weight. It was unpleasant and awkward and she was totally blindsided by it. But I wasn’t going to suffer in silence and continue making hints. She’s 5’6” and 65 kg, does zero exercise, so could easily lose 10-15 kg.

Another thing that helped get this across was me constantly making a point about not being hungry around her. Don’t indulge her when she wants to eat garbage. Say ‘I’m full’ whenever she wants to snack. She will feel self conscious about it and stop.

>>76495006 (OP)
Bump

>>76497507
You can truly see the difference in millennial and zoomer women. Millennial women will be chubby and call themselves fat, zoomer women will be fat and call themselves chubby

>>76495006 (OP)
I got my girl on retatrutide and she's down 75 pounds to 130. I had to buy her a new wardrobe, but it was well worth the money.

>>76495006 (OP)
>What do i do?
Start talking about how everybody seems to be taking care of their body today. About all the gyms you can see on the streets crowded. About all the people in social media promoting the lifestyle. About how important is to lift weights nowadays, how medicine encourages people to lift instead of killing themselves with diets and/or cardio. You can even mention how Ozempic changed the lives of a few hundreds in the last years.
>What do i say?
Tell her that there is a moment in life on which we should start paying attention to our health because the joy of today can be the consequences in the future. You have kids (I do too) and we should be there healthy for their future. We don't wanna be a burden for them, right?
>How do i say it?
Be gentle. No need to be a jackass. Find the words.

>>76495846
That's just women in general, the more feminine and lower test they are, the less responsibility they take for their actions. Body positivity is basic woman behavior "It is my human right to snack all day long and making me feel bad about it is offensive!"
All women with no exceptions are overgrown children and denying this is delusional

>>76495006 (OP)
I became a ruthless bastard to my wife as i stopped caring at a point. Win/win either she left me because i was constantly putting her down for being fat and lazy or she got in shape.

That worked (eventually) where years of everything else had failed. I felt bad as she clearly was getting depressed with it but fuck me do some exercise.

> My only advice is to completely isolate her. Persona non grata. No more fucking her, no more hugging her, no more date nights, no more social activities. It’s you, your kids, and your fat pig of a roommate. And if you think you can just deal with it? Yeah that’s what I thought too until the resentment really started to build and I only got in better and better shape and she became enormous

Basically how i did it. I gave her no affection for over a year, just constant pointing out her slobby eating and constant never ending excuses for not exercising. I would give her zero attention whenever she convenientally had a 4 hour sickness that lined up with any exercise i had arranged.

It felt mean shitting on her constantly but I had tried every fucking single thing else. I'd even built a £40k home gym in part hoping it would make it easier for her with kids. In the end constant shit seemed to work and she does HIIT twice weekly these days.

>>76495846
I did this and while it worked she ended up with an incredibly low self esteem and now has a lot of depression and image issues because “you weren’t supportive”. If I could go back and be nicer about it I would have. Food for thought.

>>76499232
>the more feminine and lower test they are, the less responsibility they take for their actions
that is all women. Even the most ugliest women I know do this nothing feminine about them.

>>76499942
>you weren't supportive

yeah right they never do anything 90% of the time you are supportive. You don't burn a fire on their ass they won't move.

>>76495006 (OP)
You’re kind of F’d. She doesn’t want it enough to do it and she’s not forced to do it to keep you around. At least she’s trying I guess, don’t have many options other than to wait for her to get a handle on it. You could set an example for her by getting shredded, but not a guarantee.

>>76495846
Disagree. Did the in sickness and in health part of the vow mean nothing to you. Weight is tricky, if you don’t have to be in shape to keep a partner around and you have a lot of stressors, a lot of people will let themselves go. I suppose, there is a “taking you for granted” aspect of that, but that is monogamy for you. She’s not wrong to figure her husband/ father of her children isn’t gonna walk out on her, and you probably shouldn’t.

If she’s trying I’d try and be supportive, and of course set an example. But idk her situation, if you’re under a tremendous amount of stress it is very hard to lose weight.

>>76495006 (OP)
OP can you hatefuck her fat pussy raw and then tell her you want a dirvorce right as you splooge in her worthless fattie cunt? Let us know.

>>76495006 (OP)
>make wife lose weight
why would you ever do that?

>>76495017
Fpbp

>>76495006 (OP)
Realistically the only thing you can do is start to make the food. Make voluminous low calorie food

>>76495006 (OP)
Do all the grocery shopping and cooking yourself. Your wife is, presumably, lazy; if she wasn't she'd lose weight. Just don't buy snacks, junk food, or prepared food. Make healthy proportioned meals on a set schedule. If it's 4pm and dinner is at 5:30 and she says she's hungry, too bad, make her wait. Again, she's lazy. If she wants food she isn't going to go into the kitchen and prepare something herself if she can just do nothing for 90 minutes and get food for no effort.

>>76495006 (OP)
An age old question. The only solution is if she's insecure. You need to move somewhere with hot female neighbors.

>>76495834
>171cm
>75-80kg
>female
>sedentary
>"probably" overweight
My fucking sides

>>76499249
>I became a ruthless bastard to my wife as i stopped caring at a point.
>That worked (eventually) where years of everything else had failed.
Based as fuck and she is probably more attracted to you as a result.