Thread 76744854

It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhale

Were you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as well

What are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.

Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own pace

We're ALL gonna make it

The motivation thread is open

Last week’s thread >>76720129

>>76744854 (OP)
WAGMI
FUARRK
morning, gentlemen.

>>76744863
WAGMI
Good morning fren

>>76744854 (OP)
I quit drinking forever 3 weeks ago, I'm feeling fucking great!

>>76744968
Congrats! Keep up your momentum and don’t relapse

I am still a 24 year old virgin traveling the world.

As has been, I have continued my regimen for aesthetic improvement during my quasi hermit arc as I convalesce. I've been on .5mg of fin for 2.5 weeks and have had no ill effects or any at all beyond reduced oiliness of the skin and possibly slightly higher libido. I've been lifting consistently and at the gym 6x a week, and walk 10-15k steps per day which seems to be helping the lbs come off. Eat the sames shit everyday mostly excepting days where I get stoned and enjoy a lone smoothie or milkshake as an addition to keep me sane. I find I have better self control with substances than I initially thought. I've never been lean before so I'm hoping I can finally do it this time, as I've had some mixed signals from girls before even with being too doughy and with less than ideal skincare or style/fashion. So I'm gonna see how I fare if I can fix all that. I know socializing matters, but it doesn't hurt to make things easier, right? Who knows what kind of reception I might get? But I'm doing it for me first and foremost.

I went to a bar on the weekend and drank with some boomer expats who I befriended quickly and they took a liking to me. One of their Thai wives said "you so handsome like movie star" which can be construed as a silly passing remark but I've heard that one in different forms like 3 or maybe 4 times in my life so I'm gonna take it in stride. This bar girl was hovering around me now and again and I'd clink glasses with her when she'd say cheers but tried to play it cool, at least until I started getting drunk and then lost much of my self control. When I asked her to take a selfie with me, I kissed her on the cheek, and I cringe in hindsight, but I guess she was ok with it? I drank with this Thai guy and he shared some of his beer with me, so I got like 5 or 6 drinks worth from both him and the boomer expats despite only paying for 3. Not that I'm proud of mooching, but it's nice when people share.

>>76744854 (OP)
just failed 315 on the bench... twice... but i think i could have gotten 300 if i didn't waste the energy on those two attempts

>>76745094
>kissed her on the cheek
Making it with women is 90% pushing boundaries until they say no and finding out the line is a lot farther away then you thought.

>>76745159
then get 300 next time brother

>>76744854 (OP)
Today's lifts
>Bench 245x6 255x3 255x3
>Incline DB bench 3x6 @ 90s + DB rows 3x10 @ 120
>Incline front raises 3x16
>Face pulls 2x20
Must have gotten another random strength level up over the weekend because those are all PRs, the big stuff anyway. idk how I did 6 when my previous best was 4 by the skin of my teeth, must have been the big chocolate donut I ate yesterday
Also heavy DB rows - heavy enough to be an average gym girls bodyweight - are OP for farming mires if you didn't know
Also wtf are these captchas

I WILL SUCCEED IN THIS JOB
I WILL STUDY HARD

Work continues to improve. I feel that I’m growing more independent. This cycle I’m more confident in meeting deadlines and completing tasks. Yet this role is still challenging. I can’t get too arrogant but I need to be confident. I’m going to continue growing.

Close to 100 days (exactly exeggutor days) until I take my exam. This week I will complete all of the remaining new material. Afterwards, I will begin a process of review and refinement, practicing every day until I’ve mastered the content. Im confident so far, I haven’t faced any massive obstacles. I need to carry that confidence with me into the exam. I have plenty of time, now I need to work hard so I can pass my test. This time I’m going to make it.

We’ve come far on our journeys, acknowledge our progress. But we still have new peaks to reach. Keep working hard frens. WAGMI!

1st week of my cut was very successful, down from 193 to 187, although I'm gonna take my foot off the gas a little bit I'm proud I had the discipline to stick with it thus far. WAGMI.

Another great week. Had two interviews and a phone screen, not sure if any of the interviews are going anywhere but the phone screen seemed pretty promising. At the very least it's nice to talk to actual recruiters again so I feel confident the market is at least finally improving past the jeet ridden hellscape. Actual job is still shit but its Diwali so all the retards are out. Going to spend this week researching how to grow the consulting calls. If people think my time is worth hundreds an hour i need to find more of those people.
Thought I'd be seeing under 200 on the scale but I did see 200 twice so I'm close to a breakthrough. vo2 max had an increase after Saturday's 10k. Going into the third week of Madcow, I like the program and squatting three times a week is definitely easier than once. Going for my second body scan on Tuesday, so in addition to the five-ish pounds lost I expect to see some gains. I feel fucking fantastic - this may not be the slimmest shape of my life but in terms of all around fitness it's damn close, especially as I close in on 40.

wife dropped the bomb on friday that she wants to wait until early next year to try for baby again (we had a miscarriage), so she can focus on her new job and certification. no talking her out of it, it wasn't even a discussion, told her i don't support this and that I dont want to wait past January. i didn't get married to be a support system for a girlboss. trying not turn this into a self fulfilling prophecy but also need to think about a plan to leave. i think she's also getting insecure about my fitness and i'm definitely getting more mires. between this and the snoring/separate beds im basically at my breaking point.

goals - escape plan and expand consulting biz

>>76745171
even then they basically have to say no until you tire out and give up

>>76745226
Congrats on those lifts! I’ll follow your advice and start doing db rows

>>76745440
Good job! What have been the biggest factors in losing so much weight so quickly? WAGMI

>>76745766
1400kcal daily budget lol. Maintenance calculators always tell me my maintenance is around 2800-3000 but I was eating at ~2300 and completely stagnating (tbf I wasn't weighing food so it was probably over) so I went nuclear. First couple of days were rough but it got easier towards the end, this week I'm aiming for a weekly average of roughly 1650kcal/day, eating more on heavy training days and less on moderate days. Biggest whitepill was waist (at navel) went from 99cm to 93cm.

>banned for the weekend (jannies randomly enforce no racism rule)
>have a productive weekend. Feel mentally better too
>come back after ban
>start feeling like shit again

May I should just never return here. It's cringe to say, but I've been using this site for so long that it's hard to imagine not.

>>76744854 (OP)
Well, I'm gonna head out to my old electrical company and ask them to put the slave shackles back on me. 1 year after quitting my analyst job with nothing lined up and I'm burnt out. Fuck HR women. Fuck multi-round interviews. Fuck getting ghosted. Fuck, "Well I've got several other people to interviews (AKA: Get fukt, you're not getting this job)". Fuck the fakeness of office politics. I'd rather KMS physically knowing exactly what the problems are vs having to tard wrangle several retarded office cunts and boomer managers.

Do I wan to? Fuck no. I'm I going to continue to play this libshit game of "Modern Job Market 2025"? Absolutely not. I can already hear the ghetto ass nigger trap rap being blasted by someone on the jobsite but I'll take it with a smile. I cannot stand not working.

Will update as time goes on.

>>76745856
Am I going to*

>>76744968
>>76745079
But if you do relapse, take it as a momentary lapse in judgement. Falling sucks, but not picking yourself back up is the kicker. Proud of you anon, I’m glad sobriety has already been fruitful for you.

>>76745856
did you quit without something lined up?

>>76745474
Keep applying and practicing. The fact that you’re getting interviews is proof that you’re competent! Sorry about the news but your wife is still very much recovering from her miscarriage. Don’t start giving up on the relationship. Try to figure out ways to mend it.

>>76745856
>>76745866
Update:
Anyone who says the trades are actively hiring is full of shit.
Anyone in the trades who says, "Hurf durf I can find another job easily" is full of shit and hasn't looked in the past year or 2.

I worked for this fucking company for almost 4 years and upon entering get directed to contact HR. WHY THE FUCK AM I CONTACTING SOME STUPID FUCKING WOMAN WHO DOESN'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO WIRE A FUCKING BATHROOM?!
>"And BTW, we only have 2 HR sluts; 1 of which just gave birth and the other is out sick so basically you're on Stacey's time."
It's fucking over.
Fuck the USA.
Fuck the West.
Fuck all of it.
Burn it all to the ground already.

>>76746060
Correct. Had i known how bad this market was I'd never have done it but here we are. In a way, it has been a blessing to be free from the normie world. Too many vaccinations have destroyed their ability to think logically and now an already bureaucratic has been made even worse. Amazing how "free" people are in this shithole third world country until they need to go through a million regulations boom booms put in place AFTER they fucked everything up.

I'm tired. So fucking tired.

>>76744854 (OP)
Today I raked leaves in my local church

Got a job interview tomorrow,
I'm not expecting much but I will still try my best

Here's to doing well this week

27, been ugly and fat my entire life, ive been dieting properly for the past month and im down 5 pounds, and im gonna start going to the gym and being better about hygiene (using moisturizer/cleanser/sunscreen, cologne, etc)
maybe if I'm lucky, i'll be actually noticeable to women before i'm 30

I'm quite unwell, but I've got the start of a neat little start up going.

>>76744854 (OP)
Tomorrow I have the final exam of my master's degree, it's been a fucking painful process so I hope I pass and i'm finally done with it. Also going to start my cut because I'm starting to look chubby
Good luck this week everyone

>>76746317
go get em tiger ! good luck on your journey

>>76745781
You’re insanely strong willed. Good luck on the rest of your cut!

>>76746231
I'm proud of you, anon

>>76744854 (OP)
my goal is going to the gym at least 6 days this week and not drink until Friday

>woke up
>had a quickie with a BJ finish in the shower with my wife
>finally got to raise weights on the shoulder press after plateauing for about a month, also hit a new pullup PR with 12 reps
>hung out with some old friends back home in the afternoon, got mired pretty hard for losing weight by this couple we haven't seen in about a year
>had another short but intense quickie with my wife after they left
I couldn't have asked for a better Saturday.

I miss having friends but I feel like isolation has made me much more mature than most people my age, so I'm not sure I will really like having new friends, I'll just find them stupid

Probably me having some dunning kruger effect but still

>>76744854 (OP)
I’m terrible at benching for some reason, but finally managed lmao1pl8 for reps today, first time in my life. Will try to pump out a full set end of the week.

1/2/3/4 for at least one set of 5 each is my goal, and benching is definitely the one that’s least on track. Still happy to keep piling on the plates, slow as it goes…

>>76746698
>has made me much more mature than most people my age
made me think of this picture

In my younger years I thought I was more mature than my peers and...
I was kinda correct; I was more mature about certain topics and less mature about others

I don't think you're a teenager but your post was quite edgy

The worst part about being lonely is that you're 100% dependent on others to solve it for you, yet these others are the same people who abandoned you in the first place. It's not like being fat or scrawny, where eating less or lifting more fixes the problem and only you can change it. You can do everything right and still be alone simply because others do not want you.

The only thing you can do about it yourself is ropemaxx.

>>76746773
>there is only one group of people that you can interact with you
surely you can't be THAT stupid, right?!

Went bald and started shaving my head and it's pretty grim, I can grow a beard but reddit ruined that and if I take care of it it looks pretty try hard and if I don't it looks really bad and basement dwelling neckbeard tier. Clean shaven and bald I look like pretty subhuman too.
Would rock a van dyke but don't have enough personality to pull it off.
Will not take trannypills and will not give my money to turks and get an hair transplant so what are the other options?

>>76745843
the final step in making it is graduating from 4chan. but there's no shame in sticking around a little longer

>>76746292
Good luck! Don't count yourself out yet. Go in with a positive attitude. They wouldn't want to interview you for no reason

>>76746405
The best is yet to come. Stay positive and approach the next opportunity with optimism

>>76747117
I registered my domain and business name, both for the maximum terms of 10 years and 3 years respectively. Guess I'm in it for the long haul.

Gentlemen, we're so back. After more than a year of neglecting my health, I'm back in the gym with a purpose. Did lower body today, doing upper body tomorrow, full body on Thursday. Gotta take things slow so I don't hurt myself, but I'm fired up.
IBD has once again seized my life, it's been getting set off more and more often in recent months. I had some bourbon last weekend and that made me sick all week, a little liquor has never done that before; and so that was the last straw, no amount of idle pleasure has any worth if it can be recompensed with a week of suffering. I'm fasting often, eating incredibly selectively, regaining my strength, reclaiming my health, and getting absolutely ripped. WAGMI

>>76746438
Good luck fren! You're gonna crush it. You've worked hard and will now reach the summit

>>76746652
That's a good goal, you better commit to it

>>76746735
Congrats bro! Celebrate your victories since they're proof of your hard work

The constant shit weather here is truly making me suicidal. I was barely out all of summer because it was constant rain and storm winds. My house also had to have several repairs done due to the storms and it drained my wallet so fast I don't even have any savings left. Now I'm looking at moving back into a shit apartment again.

34, feel old. Broke up with my fiancé. Heart hurts but I'll be back in the club for Halloween. Thinking of learning how to Shuffle and Tango, both for weightloss and partying

>>76747009
Thanks but I'm not so optimistic about that last part, a lot of the time hr bitches just wanna fill up their schedules and waste applicants' time but I will do my best nonetheless

Today's lifts
>Squats 365x3 x4 x3
>Front squat 3x6
>Dragon raises 3x17
>Weighted bck extensions 3x12
Yoinked my lower back on the right side because I nearly lost the bar on one of the front squat sets, did an emergency shimmy to save it but felt it pull on the next rep, not serious but this will annoy me for a few days, sometimes deadlifts fix it
Also somehow ripped my boxers from the right side of my crotch almost all the way through the leg during the dragon raises, needless to say they've been retired. Rip sweet prince, 9 years of service well performed

There's this pixie chick that works at a place I go to and she smells so good and is so cute bros.

>>76747267
Welcome back! The most important part is that you genuinely want to improve. You’re taking all the right steps. Don’t fall back into your old habits. WAGMI

Ive written here before about people bumping into me while walking etc. Today while i was going to the shop i was walking at the right side of pavement minding my own business and i saw a nafri immigrant on the left side of the street walking so there shouldnt be any reason whatsoever for us to clash paths. Well, thats not what his pea sized ape brain thought. He proceeded to change directions and go RIGHT at me. At the moment the collision was inevitable i jerked my shoulder forward and he fell like a bag of bricks to the floor. He said something on arabic, i have no idea what.
Should i be worried about a retaliation and about those guys following me in the hood?

>>76750398
Brown midgets love playing David and Goliath. I've had to deal with spics in my area nonstop like this.

>>76747127
So there’s no turning back now. Good luck on your journey!

>me waiting for a career woman to gently dominate and tenderly love me
Guys, I don't think it's going to happen.

>>76748121
Sorry about your situation. Would you ever consider moving to a place with constant weather?

>Of course she starts dating a guy 100x better than me.
>Of course he’s significantly more handsome than me.
>Of course they feel romantic connection. >Of course I never stood a chance.
>Of course he makes more money than me.
>Of course he’s better than me in every way
>Of course she’s excited about him
>Of course no one feels that way about me
>Of course I’m just a friend
>Of course she just calls me her buddy

This might not be the 100% correct thread for this, but it something just happened to me that will propel me through the next three months of lifting and I felt like I had to share it with you dudes:
>walking out of the grocery store after picking up some prescriptions and malk
>wearing loose comfy linen slacks and a black v-neck that compliments my body but isn’t too crazy tight, sunglasses and a beanie
>carrying malk making my bicep pop just a little bit
>pass a liquor store on my way to the car
>pass some girl walking in there
>arthoe/emo chick that grew up, still has dyed black hair and bangs absolutely cute as fuck
>wouldletherruinmylife/10
>wearing sunglasses, so I can angle my face away but still look at hers
>honestly just in awe of how fucking cute she is
>thinks I’m not paying attention
>she is THIRSTING at me
>looks me up and down, cheeky lil smirk doing that “smile with your eyes” thing
>it takes all the effort I have to not buckle when she literally bites her lip and smiles at me
>maintain my composure all the way to the car
>grin like a fucking goober all the way home
Is this what making it feels like?
I didn’t even know women did that irl and not just for pictures, it was like it was reflexive on her part.
If I see her again I’ll say hi, but I was stifling my autism and had I broken stride I would’ve absolutely spaghetti’d the situation.

>>76750603
>gently
>dominate
Pick one, homie.

>>76745843

what was the post? jannies can be total faggots sometimes, but i'm curious.

>>76746231
im not even religious and never have been but i am getting warmer and warmer to the idea of religious people because they are less likely to be the typical milennial genderfluid faggot

but i digress. good job volunteering to do something.

>>76746652
similar boat here, i am not working out enough and i am using too much weed. i used to have a better relationship with both fitness and weed back when i first experimented with it (back in the early days of the pandemic)

i wish someone would explain how your relationships with things change over time. and it happens so slowly it's almost invisible, but 5 years later and my brain is burnt out on marijuana. i get 10% pleasure and 90% dulled fatigue when it used to be the other way around.

>>76747267
holy shit i didnt even know megalo box had a sequel

>>76750398
As someone who bitched out a couple years ago (yes, I STILL remember it) when a big homeless junkie did that to me - good work.
Fuck Oakland, I need to move out of here.

>>76750699
>Of course you can ignore her and move on and lift hard

>>76746152
Dude I got told to get a job by my psychiatrist and literally got three jobs that day, each one better than the last.
They basically all told me I was hired and all there was to do was complete some paperwork, and I felt bad because I had to call the other two back and tell them that someone else had offered better compensation for my time.
I did include that I was grateful for their consideration and would reach out if things didn’t work out.
Most people that swear it’s impossible to find a job are expecting too much or are trying to leverage their skills for more pay, having a delusional value of the worth of their time.
>walk around with some resumes
>ask to speak to whomever’s in charge
>introduce yourself and pitch a few of your strengths casually
>wa-la, job acquired
I hadn’t worked in about four years, I just said that I’d been handling my late grandparents’ estate after completing an associate’s degree.
>inb4 you got three minimum wage jobs
First of all, some work is better than no work and complaining that nobody is hiring.
Secondly, by the time I leveraged the second offer against the third I was up to $23/hour in a state with $12 min wage, which I don’t think is all that bad considering I just walked in and asked if they were hiring.
I didn’t even go to four places.
Just go talk to people, man.

>>76750790
Missing your chance to talk to a beautiful girl is NOT quite making it, I am sorry to say. Make sure you say something next time. Don't worry about sounding retarded because you ARE retarded.

>>76750844
I’m happy with the way that things went, all of this happened in less than ten seconds.
I didn’t fumble a chance to talk to a grill, I just noticed a really serious mire in real time.
She didn’t even see that I noticed her because of the sunglasses/ my face being angled slightly away, I think it might’ve been weird if I stopped in my tracks, pulled out my headphones, and struck up a conversation.
I’ll probably see her again and have the chance to smile back, and if I don’t- it is okay.
I’m not in a good spot for a serious relationship anyways, and definitely not with someone I met at a liquor store.
But I will share my benzos and go on a fuck bender if the stars align.
Only time will tell, fren.

>>76748148
F. You'll find someone better eventually. Just keep honing yourself on all aspects

>>76744968
Good luck anon. 3 weeks is awesome, and thinking
>forever
was too much pressure for me. Im a little over 9 months no booze, and my prevailing thought is
>not TODAY.

>>76745474
You're not even gonna read this, but I'm afraid you'll need to Chad it up.
>My wife is doing a cert and will be getting a job plus she wants to wait till next year
>Oh and btw, she had a miscarriage
Nah nah. This shit reads like something out of an NTR story. I have seen this shit happen to way too many men. My personal philosophy is: one red flag is already one too many red flags.
>The solution
You're gonna need to be aggressive with how you live life. Pregnancies just happen when they need to happen. The best ones come from natural instinct, not this 3 month or year long planning process. You need to act like a wigger and looksmax NOW. And get fitter of course.
>No I don't wanna
Okay but I have seen this exact fucking thing happen with too many men before. It would be a shame to see it happen again.

Up to 128lbs bodyweight from 122lbs after 2 weeks of the 'stripped 5x5'. First time Ive stuck with the same workouts this long, Ive confused my body for too long.
I kind of want to go to the gym to just work on arms tonight, but I also know that fiddling with the program might not be a great idea. But happy Im actually making breakfast with eggs and bacon instead of just microwaving shit. Thats a good step for me.

>>76750843
This is bait designed to hurt me.

>>76749655
Oof, I used to rip boxers all the time in high school lifting. Eventually I switched completely to compression shorts. Those are some really strong squats, congrats!

>>76745843
Sounds like sound advice..let me try!

NIGGER NIGGER NIGGER

Turning 26 in two weeks. Still unemployed.. shit sucks. I graduated over a year ago with a degree in Insurance and worked previously for a year as a Intern at a firm for claims Adjusting. Same company won't hire me back after I finished my program even though my boss gave me all As on all my assessments and told me to come back ASAP. Still don't know why he did all that id they're not going to hire me..I've worked some gigs in the meantime but no stable minimum wage job at all. Warehouse jobs won't want me for some reason, most sales job have shit pay and massive turnover rates

4pl8 dl pr today!
Finally hit 1/2/3/4
Also made the 1000lb club (255bp, 345sq, 405dl)
It's a good day
hope youre having a good week /fit/

>>76751437
Ask him again, in person.
Don’t come out the gate like “you FUCKED me,” but schedule a meeting of some sort (or just bring the office two dozen assorted donuts and tell him “hey, got a moment for a word while I’m here?”).
Maintain a cheery demeanor and look him in the eyes and tell him just how much you were counting on that, that you were really looking forward to work in the field you so diligently studied.
If he responds positively, assure him that you’ll be able to earn his total confidence through display of your competence and tenacity.
It’s worth a try, and sometimes guys like that either
a). shut down at the first sight of confrontation they haven’t scheduled
or
b.) respect the balls on someone that would do that
Even if he says he’s got nothing make the dude look you in the eyes and tell you that he’ll give you a call if something arises, mention that it would be the highlight of your year or something idk.
I know it’s boomer as fuck advice but you’ve gotta sack up and go out of your comfort zone if you want to stand out.
How many interns do you think he’s had since you?
If he was gonna call, he would’ve by now.
Go remind him why he should, homie.

>>76751669
I think it would be more productive to leverage the intern relationship by asking for advice on getting hired in the field in general, and segue that into the "what could I have done differently when I interviewed here?"

>>76751437
Fuggin, if it comes up you can talk about the experiences you’ve had in other industries (in the mean time) that taught you an important lesson or skill.
“Don’t get me wrong, working in sales has given me the opportunity to hone my interpersonal skills, but I’m not applying what I learned from my studies anywhere near as much as I’d like to. I’ve definitely grown a bit as a person, and I’d be happy to bring what I’ve learned while working around in the mean time to the table here, in addition to my knowledge in the field.”
Just talk out of your ass, you got this meng.
>>76751800
This is also decent advice.
If he’s dead set on not hiring you, it’s always a good idea to ask what you could’ve done better.
If the answer is “nothing, you were fantastic on every front- there’s just not room in the budget,” ask if you can count on him for a solid reference.
Hell, probably do that anyways.
Maybe that could be the guise of it…”I came here to ask if I could list you as a favorable reference seeing as I worked under you during my internship here from _____ to _____. I decided to stop by and check, because I never heard back from you and was just wondering what you thought of my performance, and if there’s anything I can improve upon.”
And if it’s favorable, “well, that’s great to hear. I’d really appreciate a good reference, considering I spent a year here it would probably go a long way with any prospective employers. But hey, while I’m here I’d be remiss if I didn’t outright state: I am in the job market and would still be honored to work here. If anything comes up that you happen to think I’d be a good fit for, please don’t hesitate to reach out via phone or email. Great seeing you again, (mangers name), I wish you all the best.”

ezpz just fake it till you make it meng.
Interviews and any prerequisite interactions leading up to them are simply vibe checks.
Even the serious ones are 85% vibes.

>>76751877
Obviously introduce yourself, too.
“Hi, it’s anon mcanonson- I do hope you remember me. I stopped by to-“
u got this meng, it’s better than nothing, worst case you figure out if you can count on a good reference, you get to bring people donuts (they love that shit, hell they might even talk about you positively after you leave) and you get to practice eye contact, speaking with purpose, and a firm handshake.
Just believe in yourself.
You spent a year there, you’ll be fine.

>go out to a gathering at this kinda blah german restaurant with my younger cousin and several of her friends whom I have never met before
>socially awkward as fuck and not very witty normally
>food is flavorless donkey shit as expected but the beer is pretty sweet
>toss back a fair few rounds
>suddenly feel very relaxed and so far past giving a fuck that I started randomly saying shit to her friends to break the ice
>even my perception seems changed instead of my normal feeling that I'm boring and people want me to just fuck off already these guys are hanging on to my every word
>can't remember half the stuff I said even though I wasn't particularly drunk
>afterwards one of her Chad friends invites me over to join him and his buddies to go shooting on the weekend
>another of her friends said that I'm one of the funniest guys he's met
>her two hot girl friends apparently asked her if she can invite me over for their next get together as well

Goddamn why did nobody ever tell me how much of a social cheat code alcohol is, I've been missing out all this time by being straight edge.

>>76751887
Just be careful with your cheat codes, don’t get too comfortable and get drunk and make literally everyone uncomfortable.
I know you feel like your inhibitions were running wild, but there was probably still some part of you walking on thin ice, and that’s good.
It sounds like you were being true to yourself though, and that’s also tight as hell.
At least you don’t have to get hammered and put on some bro charade, they like you for you.
Just think about shit before you say it, those social gains can be lost even faster than they were gained.
Please heed that warning.

>>76751993
Like that shit DOES happen.
I’ve had friends that I thought were chill, and they were for a few hangouts.
They got too comfortable because we were being nice and making them feel welcome (that’s just how me and my friends are) and would just get fuuuucked up, like talking to a brick wall fucked up and still very obviously thinking that we were all hanging on to their every word- like the shit that they were saying for the fourth time in a row was the most important shit ever.
Just keep your wits about you and
>general life advice for those with social anxiety here
NEVER. EVER. MIX. BENZOS. WITH. ALCOHOL.
They’re both awesome on their own and might seem like a great idea to mix to relax, but holy shit that combo is a one way ticket to becoming an insufferable jackass, ruining your friendships, and (9 times out of 10) probably wrecking your car.

>>76750699
This is the darkest side of the friend zone - you've put her so high upon that pedestal that any dude that reaches her ends up on a pedestal too.

You have value, Broseph, and you've been giving it away to her for free.

Here's what you do now. Slow your contact with her, but don't cut her out completely. Minimal maintenance mode. Play the field, go bag yourself an easy butterface or a slampig to boost your self esteem. Pedestal girl will come back around single eventually, they always do - don't be there waiting to prop her up when she's low, but do strike when that iron is hot. Take her out for drinks and get to flirting, actually flirting - she'll be happy for the attention from you because you've made it a rare commodity lately. At some point she will make it possible for you to take her as a way of validating her momentarily low self-worth - do so.

And then here's the hard part. Ride the ride, then move on. Do not wife, impregnate, or commit. Remember, she was accustomed to being on your pedestal, and she will expect to be placed back up there, and that's not how you need to live your life.

t. Recovered serial beta orbiter

>>76750943
OP here, i read it, and i thank you for saying it outright because yeah i've seen this before and no one ever thinks it's them until it happens.

i've been getting way fitter even in the last two months, not that i've been a fat slob. any suggestions for looksmaxing?

>>76744854 (OP)
I am once again here to whine about my wife being "too busy" and "too tired" all the time to give me the sex I crave. The usual, bog-standard mid-marriage cooldown where kids, job, and life constantly cockblock me. It is literally my only complaint in life - money and career is good, family is healthy, lots of friends and activities etc, but I'm not getting any fucking sex. No, light-of-my-life, a once a month starfish quickie is not what I call a satisfying sexual relationship.

But no, she's too tired and too busy and yeah, I got a little older and fatter, but so did she, and I'm still just as hungry for her body as ever because it's HER body.

Fucking women, man. I didn't realize how much of all the bad jokes about married life in sitcoms are just a result of women being women.

Anyway, thank you for reading my rant. I am attempting to get juicy so as to re-kindle her interest, which won't really work, but maybe I can catch some mires and work the jealousy/insecurity angle. I shouldn't have let her trap me in this slow fattening up. I fucking knew better, and I still let it happen.

>>76749681
So man up and ask her out

>>76752381
Nah, he can't go to her place of work and ask her out. He's got to see her somewhere else and strike up a convo. "Hey, don't I know you from..."

>>76749681
Here's what you do, man. You're going to have to engage in a little light stalking. Nothing too creepy, just enough to kind of figure out where you can maybe bump into her outside of her workplace.

For this to work, though, you have to make sure she's going to recognize you too. Otherwise it's going to come off as PUA-101 at best, or creepy as hell when you start talking to her.

And you never, ever, not even on your deathbed, reveal that you followed her around like that.

>>76752311
Well, disregarding surgery completely. What he should do is: get lean enough that his cheekbones becomes visible, get a narrow jawline, and a haircut that doesn't look old nor like a broccoli styled piece of shit. The hardest part is getting a narrow jawline of course. He has to find some way to fraud it if he can't get it naturally. For me, just eating well and lifting weights helped. I imagine a higher level of T also contributed to it too even if bpers say it's impossible past puberty.

>>7675248
i'm the OP. yeah im not doing surgery and i'm a millenial so my hair isn't nog tier. might get more aggressive in leaning up.

>>76752485
>>76752553
dont know why this linked to something else

How do you push on in life when no one care about you and you don't have anything going for you life?
It feels like exercising is the only thing left I care about.
Having a flu for the past 2 weeks was fucking horrible because I couldn't lift and just rot for the past 2 weeks.

>>76750603
You’re going to have to be proactive if you want that fantasy to come true

Do nightmares have any meaning? Or can they just be ignored?

>>76752830
Until yesterday there was a three day streak where I woke up to nightmares every morning. I seldom dream even once, much less multiple times in a row, it was fucking strange. Wonder if I ate or drank something that I shouldn't have.

>>76752605
>How do you push on in life when no one care about you and you don't have anything going for you life?
I dunno, I just do it
Maybe it's because I know that I'm capable of a lot and I just need to do more and harder and better and and and then maybe I'll get what I want

>>76752830
depends on what you nightmare about

>>76750954
Congrats on growing stronger! Keep on lifting and eating! Are you a manlet or a cute girl?
t. 173 cm manlet

After 10 years of having an incurable kidney disease, I went to the doctor on Tuesday and he prescribed to me a new drug that might help long term. I get it free because of my condition.
It is going to let me pee more glucose out so the doctor asked me to eat more "slow burning" carbs like brown rice since my blood glucose is already a bit low.
Therefore I am changing my breakfast routine and now I'll be having overnight oats every single morning in the office.

I met him at the clinic where he works and there were patients being transferred in and out for dialysis and I swore to myself I will do whatever it takes to not reach that stage.
Stay hydrated, take my meds, don't eat junk, don't eat too much salt, don't get fat, exercise regularly, keep blood pressure low. That's all I can do.

We are moving forward one step at a time.

There's so much demoralization on the Internet these days. Stay strong brothers and stay in your lane. We're ALL gonna make it.

>>76753134
Hey mane, I really fucked myself up and ended up on dialysis for about a year back in 2018.
I died for a while and everything came back except for my kidneys.
I just got my shit together, did pretty much exactly what you’ve described, and I somehow made it off.
The ladies at the dialysis clinic literally had to dust off the discharge forms because apparently you’re NEVER supposed to get off that shit.
They were really nice to me, but stern as fuck like “I NEVER WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN, YOU FUCKIN’ HEAR ME? I BETTA NOT!”
My shit was all fucked up, and against all odds I made it back.
Got blood work done a couple weeks ago and my kidney and liver levels were “above average bordering on outstanding.”
You can do this mane, I don’t pray but I’m sending positive energy your way.
I believe in you, and I hope that helps even a little.
>also you should definitely ask them how hydrated you’re supposed to be
because when I was doing it I was drinking an absolute shitton of water and when they found that out they chewed me the fuck out like “you wanna fucking die? Don’t do that.”
But it was like, a lot of water. Probably a gallon and a half per day. I’m kinda dumb sometimes.
Water is gud but there is such a thing as too much when your body isn’t pissing it out.
I’m so grateful I’m not having to get my blood scrubbed by a machine and watching four to six hours of Law and Order reruns four times per week, haha.

>>76753134
Oh shit you said you’ve been on it for ten years, you probably know what you’re doing.
I guess my main point is, your kidneys can heal, like really fucking well if you take decent care of them and yourself.
The human body is miraculous and once you’re able to address the root cause and you begin your journey on the up and up, there’s an honest to god chance you’ll bounce back.
You got this, homie.
I’m rooting for you.

>>76752378
Sounds like you’ve got some new workout motivation.
Get fit as shit, and get your mojo back.
Hell, maybe she’ll do it alongside you.
Maybe start by inviting her on walks together, and doing meal prep, just explain your macros and stuff politely and always ask her if she wants you to make her some healthy food, too.
Kids can go on walks, too.
Hell, take ‘em anyways and give her a break- but eventually it can become a family thing.
She’ll probably feel better about herself once she starts making and effort, and you’ll look better to her as well.
That being said, you can’t force it.
You seem pretty bitter and if you want things to work you can’t have that attitude towards the person you’ve decided to spend your life with.

>>76753230
>>76753222
Thanks anon. It's good to hear it's possible to get better.

You da bess mayne, you deed it.

>>76752381
>>76752440
Saw her again today during break and she had a couple orbiter Brads around, it's not like I was even going to say hi anyway.

>>76753322
Yeah mang, don't be a Brad. Stalk the chick a little and Chad up.

>>76753154
The thing that always snaps me out of my doomer mindset is when before, during, or after the video the creator will push some content or an ad. Better yet if it's for themselves and their coaching career. Way too many times will I see some autistic dweeb try and tell me red pill concepts I knew back in 2015 and to buy his course.

Always remember that most people behind this doomer shit want to sell you something or come from the third world. I find it even funnier how this only became a thing AFTER Trump won. My schizo sense says Chinese psyop. Even moreso when you see so many chinks saying the West is dead like that 1 professor who's name escapes me.

>>76751473
Congrats on your strength! Are all of those for a 1 single rep or multiple? Have a great week as well :)

>>76753238
All of that sounds good, but with her I definitely have to have something of my own to show for the effort before she'll believe I know what I'm talking about. I really have to make it for next summer, which should be doable, and catch some milf mires at the pool.

As far as bitter goes, some days are better than others. I'm knee deep in a monumental home improvement project that I didn't care about at all, but she wanted it so there we go, and you'd think that would win a few stamps on my "get pussy free" card but nah. And then randomly we'll have a good week and I'll be perfectly happy.

I realize resentment makes for a poor marital foundation, and if this is going to be how it is then I better do what I can about it. An honest conversation did nothing, didn't even elicit a promise to do more from her, so yeah, all I've got left is to get juicy and let 'er rip. If that doesn't do it, then at least I'll be primed for the dating scene, I guess - really hope this gets worked out long before that becomes a possibility.

I feel nothing dunno what to make of it. I just exist.

>>76753497
I can do 155 ohp, 245 bp, 315 sq, and 385 dl for 5 reps
others are for like 1 or 2

>>76752605
You have to make meaning. Even if life is hard, you need to have goals and ambition. Feel better soon fren

>>76752730
Cool, how do I do this though?

>>76746292
second interview tomorrow
warehouse job instead of insurance salesman

we'll see how it goes

>>76753730
Go and talk to one of those career women. Be subtle but assertive. You're gonna want to make the first kiss though.

>>76751429
sorry bro, even the jannies hate niggers.

>>76752605
i am also profoundly lonely. im not giving up. i am either going to be a fuck up until I die, or I will make it and die content.

maybe at the pearly gates, st. peter will give me a pass because at least I didn't give up and end my wretched, lonely, cold, miserable pointless existence.

>>76753134
keep going bro

>>76753154
A fit, healthy man never demoralizes others.
He helps guide other lost brothers into the promise land of fitness.

>>76753785
>insurance salesman
You dodged a bullet with that. Think about when you step in dog shit. The look of disgust on your face is nowhere near as bad as it would be on other's when you come in saying you want to sell them any type of insurance.

>>76753785
Good luck! Remember to smile and ask questions

>>76750699
It could be worse. He could be thoroughly mediocre or worse yet subpar in everyway compared to you. Then you'd have to live with the fact that he "won" just because he showed up to something that you didn't even know you could show up to.

>>76753486
>like that 1 professor who's name escapes me.
Professor Jiang, haven't watched him

>>76753248
Thanks I did my best today. WAGMI

>>76746231
Chad move

>>76746231
Chair lift and carries are all you need.

I DELETED MY PORN FOLDER LET'S FUCKING GO

>what are your goals for this week
Same as always; stick to my deficit and let time do its thing
>what do I plan to achieve
I'm in my 30s and it took me until a few years ago to finally grow up, which involves simply not giving a fuck what everyone else thinks about you and handling difficult situations with maturity.
I just got out of a 13 year relationship and it ruined me. Complete loss of appetite, 24kg down in 2 months but I'm at the stage now where I see it as her loss. I've got a house, a well paying job, a good social network. The next woman that enters my life is going to be treated like a princess.

>>76753918
I very much get that but I need the money
>>76753967
thank you, I'll have to try asking more questions
>>76754830
good job

>>76753900
Same desu.
I am not gonna kill myself because I want to see it through and decide if my life is worth living or not when death come at old age

>>76753154
No matter how bleak the world appears, we need to pull forward with optimism. WAGMI!

>>76753154
>be demoralized
>still improve anyway because it's the only thing that you can really change

>>76753115
Im a 30yo 177cm man

>>76756183
it's even better than that
>be demoralized
>change
>become better
>become remoralized

>>76756217
still not remoralized due to shit outside my control.
I am just happy with what I can change at the moment.

>>76756240
>still not remoralized due to shit outside my control.
made me think of this quote that I'm gonna paraphrase

There's two types of things in this world:
Those that you can't change
Those that you can change
And so you shouldn't worry about what you can't change because well you can't change it
But also you shouldn't worry about what you can change and instead you should change it

>I am just happy with what I can change at the moment.
I am glad to hear that, WAGMI

>>76753551
There’s nothing wrong with living a simple and basic life

>phlebotomist complimented my vein size during my blood donation
haha girl I know you dont go to the gym (thank you anyway)

>>76754865
As a 28 year old, thanks for the advice. Are you sure you need to cut even further? In any case, good luck on your goals this week

>>76756247
Thats like the AA serenity prayer
Grant me the serenity to accept things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference

>>76756457
Take whatever mires you can get fren

>>76753511
Yo you should probably go hard in the paint and finish that project, I’ve seen stuff like that and even if it was their idea they get frustrated literally every time they look at the half finished project.
Even if they’re not mad about that in particular, it affects demeanor/everything.
It’s silly, but it’ll probably help every single one of your day to day interactions when she isn’t getting frustrated by the sight of it on a twice+ daily basis.

>>76756457
Nurses/phlebotomist go BANANAS for some bulgy veins.
It’s some weird combo of they find them legit sexy AND you’re making their job easier, basically doing them a favor.
It’s a gud combo.
Other anon is right, take your mires homie.

>>76754774
I lol’d
I remember being with youth group and it was Olympic level competition over who could carry the most folding chairs to impress the three cute girls there and collect attabois from the old bittys.

(I wasn’t in it, though. Didn’t go to church, my mom just worked at one when I was younger and I goofed around playing on the youth group’s fancy new state of the art gamecube instead of her having to pay for summer camp or a sitter- we were broke as fuuuug)

>>76752378
kind of the same boat but also newlywed...kind of all came together quickly and can't tell if it's just a rough patch or beginning of a slow death.

>>76751005
I promise that it is not.
Just got back from dropping off the last of my onboarding paperwork (and to ask about my schedule) and got added to the scheduling group chat by the manager.
Goin’ in on Monday.
I met a couple cute grills that work there that I hadn’t seen yet, too.
I don’t dip my pen in company ink, but the manager has mentioned that all their other employees work part time while going to the local (kinda major) university.
Get out there and get a jerb, my dude.
You’ve got this. I believe in you.

Fuck it, even if you just get some BOH restaurant job, there are cute waitresses there that are too busy to fuck anyone other than other staff as long as you have a modicum of game.
Camaraderie is default in places like restaurants, so you’ll have plenty to talk about.
If you don’t like the work you can just dip the fuck out whenever and not list them in future applications, they’re used to people quitting mid-shift lol.
I’m pretty glad I’m out of food service, for the most part.
You can also constantly be searching for a new job, leveraging your current one in wage negations.
It’s as simple as talking to literally anyone working in a restaurant and asking if they’re hiring, and who to talk to.
>i am currently working in the industry, but my rent has gone up/ the commute is pretty far and I’m considering other options
Lie about how long you’ve worked there, tell them you’ve gotten a couple raises so far (just $2-3 above whatever you’re being paid, saying that you caught on quicker than they expected and they had you training new employees) and ask for $3-4 more than what you’re currently being paid.
They’re not gonna call your current employer to snake you out from under them.

I had an interview today. I'm not sure how well it went the guy was kind of hard to read but the recruiter seems to think I'm a shoo-in. I have another interview tomorrow for a job that would be really cool to get, but at the same time I expect the competition to be stiff; like to the point I'm honestly surprised that they even reached out to request an interview with the resume that I submitted.

Had in interview by some pajeet in Canada for a job in MS, so that's something after months self employed and making nor much money.

Same day I went to a friends company launch cocktail, and his family was there. His younger sister (20/21) yo is there bored as fuck, glancing sporadically to me. German generics, good looking girl. We had brief eye contact, I can tell she was nervous. I like this younger female attention and I've been banging 21 y/os, feels good, even though they are retarded zoomers. Most women my age just don't attract me any more.

What I just don't get is messages, phone calls and apps. I thrive in face to face encounters, but I'm beyond retarded communicating remotely. I've had gfs leave because I'm not interested in perpetual connectivity, and at the same time I envy the Tinder chads who get women to pay their own Uber to meet them, I have a few friends in that category.

Anyone relates?

>>76746231
I got hired to build a local church website, and I'm seriously considering volunteering on the service band or the garden. Its a Lutheran church so at least the pastor is not a faggot like the virgin catholic priests that riddle my society

I'm actually getting attention and interest from women, easily tbqh. The worst part is I'm way too fucking autistic to actually do something about it. Makes me feel like I'm cucking my own self and I wanna rope 24/7 ngl frfr. It's not that idk how to talk to people, quite the contrary since I'm known to be good at initiating conversations with anyone. The problem is I can't fucking maintain conversations without boring or being bored of others plus I lack the aggression to escalate conversations into realized relations. Anyways, for the first time in my life, I'm actually going to try using Barbells instead of Dumbbells and I'm kinda nervous since I'm used to a modest weightage from never taking lifting seriously. Advice so I don't kill myself from Squats and Deadlifts which I plan to focus on??? Especially Deadlifts, my lower back is gripping me by the balls.

>>76744854 (OP)
>quit side lateral raises because my right shoulder was in pain
>pain goes away for weeks
>doing OHPs tonight, right shoulder starts hurting
Fucking hold me bros, I can't give up on OHPs.

>>76757857
The hardest is knowing when to stop a conversation, given our own limits, and how to gracefully standup and leave. I've had dates gone backwards due to me not knowing when to quit, and its better to quit early, leave some doubt and mystery on the table. I don't expect them to be interested in my 4hr rant on techno capitalism.

>>76744854 (OP)
>1-2 months ago switch from vaping to Zyn (pouches)
>immediately go for 3mg because lowest I can find
>start with 1 every hour, after week can easily go a few hours without any nicotine (as opposed to chain vaping all day every day)
>after few weeks start accidentally going 7ish hours without any
>yesterday decide I’ll try to quit now
>at the 19 hour mark feel like shit
I’m really close to getting a vape. That’s what I’m craving. Im restless, antsy, nervous and anxious, speedy, forgetful, unfocused, shit attention span is even shittier, hungry as hell, no fine motor skills at all, slight cold sweat layer / claminess going, moody, gums feel sensitive like I need to bite something hard.
I want to at least hit hour 20. I may have to rethink my plan to quit. I thought I could get it to a more normal intake and white knuckle it from there.


I have at least lost the physical habit by switching to zyns. Honestly, I may use junk food to quit. Fuck it. If killing an entire bag of chips and just grazing on snacks all day this weekend gets me through this shit then it’s worth it
Post is a cry for help btw help me not fail bros.

>>76757751
Just try your best and go in with a positive attitude. Eventually you’ll get a job. Also don’t sell yourself short

>>76744854 (OP)
>split with my gf beginning of september
>went out last night and night before with my friend and this girl he used to go to uni with and her friend and bf
>the girl keeps saying I look a lot stronger since I last saw her (lost a bit more weight)
>get steaming drunk
>she buys me round after round
>ends the night holding me and kissing me on my head and on my cheek and forehead
>when we hug goodbye we kiss again and cross noses but dont go for the lips
>next night it's a lot more chill cus everyone is deflated from so much drinking
>go out after she goes home
>chat up some 36 year old woman at a bar who approached me first and was showering me with compliments
>didnt pursue cus she had a boyfriend who kept calling her
I didn't get any, sure, but after a month of aching hard over a girl who doesn't love me anymore, it feels good to feel wanted. WAGMI bros.

>>76757831
Congrats on landing an interview. I’m far from being a chad, but I can relate. I hate how modern society demands everyone communicates instantly through phones. In person is much better

>>76757831
Congrats on the success but how old are you?
Legit curious.
I’m almost 30 and I seriously can’t imagine having anything in common with anyone under 25.
>>76758657
Ah fuck, I’m sorry if I’m super late on this post m8 but I’m in the same boat.
I just got a few things of ‘em (the Zyn) from a friend who was quitting smoking.
I like them when I’m driving, but otherwise they do little to curb the CONSTANT want to hit a vape while I’m just chillin’, doing nothing/ watching media.
At least when I smoked, I’d have to get up and go outside to do it (I always thought it was too trashy to smoke inside).
With vapes the accessibility has me fucked up and there’s always this constant, nagging urge to take a drag of one when I’m inside just kicking it.
Because I’ve conditioned myself to do so.
I managed to stop buying them but just kept hitting old almost dead ones like 1-3 times per day for a while there, but I buckled and got one a while ago.
Don’t be like me.
I don’t know how long it’ll take for the craving to go away, it’s not even the fucking nicotine it’s just this nicotine reinforced urge that “you should be doing this now because you caaaan!”

>>76747267
I couldn't make it to the gym on Thursday, wasn't feeling well; but because of that I fasted more, so that's a win. I'll hit the gym tomorrow and see how it goes. Not a perfect first week, but I'm happy with it. Pic related, my "food" for today.

>>76747401
I liked Megalobox season 2 a lot more than the first. S1 was a vibe, but at the core it was just a sports anime plot. Nomad goes way off the beaten path. Easily has one of my favorite openings, too.

>>76744854 (OP)
THE GLUTES ARE ASLEEP BUT I WILL AWAKEN THEM. RISE ASS MUSCLES RISE. CLENCHING THESE BITCHES HARDER THAN TRUMP WHEN HE HEARS THE NAME EPSTEIN. CLENCHING THESE BITCHES HARDER THAN CHRIS BROWN SLAPPED RIHANNA. CLENCHING THESE BITCHES HARDER THAN A SLAVE IN A DIAMOND MINE.

>>76757852
Go for it! It's a great way to form connections as an adult

>>76757922
That sucks. Have you considered getting a coach to review your form?

I saw my ex at the grocery store today. First time I've seen her in person since we broke up in January of 2022. We dated for almost 10 years, meant to marry her, we had been discussing kids. Before even seeing her face I just saw her hair and the way she moved from all the way across the produce section and immediately knew it was her.
She looked good. She's lost weight, which I know was something that previously really brought down her self esteem even though she was never fat. She was buying fresh vegetables, which was something I could never get her to do. She always ate like shit, it seems like she's healthier now. She's as pretty as I remember, and that really fucking sucks.
I don't know if she saw me; if she did, she pretended not to. I was wearing a bright yellow jacket so I could not have stood out more, but I tried to stay as far away from her as possible.
I got home and felt stupid. Like I've wasted all this time not moving on and not bettering myself more. I had actually just come from the gym, but had cut my session short just because I was feeling lazy. I've been doing that a lot lately. Was originally gonna make a lavish dinner with cake afterwards but instead just had a salad with chicken and broccoli then some blueberries for dessert.
I gotta start doing more. Can't keep sitting still.

>>76760282
> be 33
> meet this colombian law student, 20 yo
> have sex at my place
> 15 seconds after finishing she is consooming slop on IG
> convince her to put the phone down
> talks all gossip, the ex boyfriend and about current shit that does not turn me on
> realize i'd better let her have the phone so I don't have to listen her anymore.

it's real man

>>76744854 (OP)
>clip body hair because why not
>nipples protrude through shirt even harder now
Is it time to invest in those tight tank tops?

I was kinda beginning doubt the amount of progress I had been making in the gym. Stupidly, I wasn’t a diligent picture-taker so I don’t have a nice visual timeline. But I was just looking through my camera roll and I saw a shirtless pic of myself from two years ago that I forgot about. Literally blew my mind how much progress I’ve made. The difference is insane. I feel reinvigorated.

>>76760900
Use those feels.