Thread 41439468

Any other guy here dating a tranny kinda feel like they are a prop? I don't know how to word this, but I'll make an attempt.
Basically, the way I think she sees me in this relationship revolves solely around my masculinity. Outside of that she doesn't really care at all about me.
As a silly example, I am very sure I could wake her up at 4 in the morning and tell her to suck me off and she would. And if I then spooned her till we went back to sleep she'd feel great about the whole ordeal.
But if I am sick (i.e. weak) then she'd rather not see me or even know about my state. The care she shows feels more formal (i.e. "I have to say/do these things to/for my bf because that's just how it is I guess") rather than the care coming from someone that cares.
Does that make sense? Not sure.
And I don't really care. I prefer to deal with such things (sickness, injury, whatever) by myself.
But I am thinking that the way she sees me might have some consequences that means this can never be a succesful relationship in the long-term.
Am I making any sense here?

>>41439468 (OP)
its called meta attraction
trooning out doesnt actually change your sexuality, most trannies are straight because its the most "female" thing to be

>>41439468 (OP)
She only loves herself as a woman, and you are indeed a prop in that relationship.

>But if I am sick (i.e. weak) then she'd rather not see me or even know about my state.The care she shows feels more formal (i.e. "I have to say/do these things to/for my bf because that's just how it is I guess") rather than the care coming from someone that cares.

im sorry anon that sounds sad,when you’re in a vulnerable position like that and not feeling well you should feel taken care of…i know you say you prefer to deal with things on your own in that regard but she should make you feel cared for and like you’re under her wing when you are like that, not like she is checking a box…

are there other examples of behavior like that? i think for the sake of the relationship you should communicate this with her and try to tell her how you feel…

you got an agp, sorry to deliver the bad news

>>41439490
>are there other examples of behavior like that
When my father passed she never saw me cry, and she commented on it. I don't remember how she worded it, but it was basically something about how hot it was that I was so stoic about my father's passing (I did cry at some point, but I was by myself).

>>41439557
are you serious? that is awful anon im so sorry, that is a completely callous and awful comment to make.

i dont want to be too judgey but it genuinely disgusts me that she would make such a comment and essentially derive pleasure out of your reaction to your fathers passing. you don’t deserve that treatment and to essentially be objectified like that by her


you deserve to be cared for, a normal partner would let you grieve and be concerned maybe that you were bottling up your emotions and should help provide a space where you can feel vulnerable and express how you feel. she should be feeling anguished that you’re feeling this way and that this has happened to you and your family. she should be there to provide support and be a shoulder to cry on, your rock, not literally view the situation as something to get horny about

idk im sorry anon, like i said i dont want to sound judgey but you deserve better and you deserve someone that makes you feel cared for and that actually cares about your inner emotions and how you feel

>>41439557
LMAO youre a dildo nigga

>>41439576
>help provide a space where you can feel vulnerable and express how you feel.
No woman does this though, unless its their mother.

They might say they want it. But when it actually happens they all get the ick. Seen it a billion times and heard women talk shit about men that cry in public.

>>41439611
my theory is that it might be different with non-AGP trans women. I hope I'm right. Knowing that women will never love you (and having experienced that switch first hand) is one of the reasons I'm considering dating non-meta attracted trans women for. Obviously I won't be a wimp, but it'd be good if you can just be a human sometimes.

>>41439611
that’s not true at all anon…
there’s a lot of vapid and unempathetic people nowadays and that includes women

but at the same time there are girls who will care about you and let you be vulnerable and let you feel safe (and maybe even be your mommy when you’re sad and scared), you just need to find the right person

im sorry that you’ve been made to feel that there’s no women that will do this for you from your life experience, i promise you deserve and can get someone that makes you feel cared for and can be your rock

and im sorry that it sounds like your current trans gf makes you feel alone like this, i still suggest you talk about it with her but idk you don’t deserve to feel alone

>>41439656
I exist but i dont pass and i only provide love for gay men

>>41439656

>Obviously I won't be a wimp, but it'd be good if you can just be a human sometimes.

poor baby…

so the conclusion is that trannies objectify you as a manly man, or they objectify you as a boy in some kinda mommy incest roleplay

>>41439701
how is objectifying to want to act in a parental role towards my spouse? if it’s not reciprocated i wouldn’t do it and obviously it’s not appropriate in all scenarios and tender loving care and affection can be better

but why can’t I want to let a nice man let his guard down and be more vulnerable as he would to a mom? don’t some guys like that? i mean im a khhv but…i just want to care for my boyfriend and make him feel better that’s all…

>>41439663
If I get a good job we can fix the some of the nonpassing

>>41439716
Angel

>>41439812
no just a khhv loser

>>41439794
not possible but i appreciate it

>>41439468 (OP)
idk but I believe this part
>"I have to say/do these things to/for my bf because that's just how it is I guess"
is just autism

>>41439716
Gf material

>>41439656
I'm hsts and I really do love men, I don't date gay men tho so you better be a dick repulsed hetero and support me getting srs in the near future. I suspect you are a fag tho, so good luck dating males who don't like you

>>41439663
lucky for those gay men then

>>41439667
>>41439716
that sounds nice anon. I want to have a cute trans gf I can be a daddy providing comfort and love for, but it would be nice to make myself vulnerable and have a mommy sometimes too. at the very least, it would be nice to know that my gf won't lose attraction to me because I'm going through something. I'm not much of a boy though, I fit "bear" closest.

>>41439905
aaaaa that sounds so nice id love to have a daddy i think about it very often, but at the same time I would also love to dote and care for my boyfriend when he needs to let his guard down and be vulnerable, i wanna be his rock

don’t worry anon you are gogna make it

>>41439468 (OP)
I know this is an AGP bait thread but I often feel like this in my straight cis relationship. To the femme, we exist solely to provide them with life context and support. Like a plot device. Femininity is ugly.

>>41439468 (OP)
Men are in fact props, learn your place

>>41439926
you are evil and spreading lies and hurting peoples feelings

>>41439884
well, anything like boy-like short hair, body hair, etc repulse me on a trans girl. I want my gf to be small and cute. I prefer the dick, if it's basically small/useless. I can't in good conscience claim to be gay with the aforementioned points. but surely this is not 100% straight.

there actually was someone who I liked very much, who liked me too. she was HSTS and learned to be okay with her thing. she was feeling unstable, said she doesn't deserve me and would only disappoint me and should be left to die, I may have been too stern in my response because I know arguing against it doesn't help and I didn't want to encourage it. she deleted her account and disappeared. very sad.

>>41439936
>I prefer the dick
Yep you are gay, not reading anything after that. Good luck dating boys then. Me and other girlies who worship men stay the away from your kind

>>41440027
I'm a new chaser, I don't know much about SRS, but at least now, it seems yucky. I'd need to be sold on it.
I've only ever dated cis women. I have a sample size of exactly 1 HSTS tranny who I was interested in, who happened to be more tolerant of hers (after a lot of time, according to her). Worship towards me was a common theme to put it mildly

Are you a guy? Most guys have unreasonable expectations for a gf/wife. Women do not have a "caregiver" mindset and expecting any kind of sympathy when you're sick or otherwise feeling bad is not going to happen and will only worsen the relationship. Why do you think so many relationships break down when the guy loses his job or gets cancer?

You are a pack animal, a wallet, and cannon fodder. Those are your social roles. If you want a caregiver, you have to literally hire one. Get this through your head now because life is going to be one huge disappointment if you're expecting better as a man.

tl;dr man the fuck up