>>509438347 (OP)At 31 I am one of these men. There is no quick answer as to why, but the short version is that I am single by temperament, by priority, but not by choice.
I donโt date casually because I donโt experience people lightly. If I give my attention and loyalty to someone, I want it to mean something - not just emotionally, but spiritually.
I also have an unusually focused lifestyle which allows for very few social diversions. My time is split between academic mathematics, software projects (cryptography, scheduling algorithms, low-level programming), sacred Classical music and long-form writing - I have just started a tragicomedy. Such diverse interests are part of a long-term effort to build a portfolio of original work, and possibly, a self-determined career. Most of my week is structured for depth - not frivolity and ease.
Moreover, the environments I move through - technical, academic, and sometimes religious - do not produce the kind of woman that I would be drawn to. I am not looking for a polished, plastic personality. Instead, I am attracted to women who are emotionally intense, physically expressive, grounded in instinct and care, and serious about eros and loyalty. I want affection that isnโt ashamed of itself, and I rarely see that. I live in possibly the most passionless country on Earth. Most people around me are either too passive, too trivial, or too bland to offer what I seek.
I also refuse to negotiate attraction through apps or social rituals and want a woman to whom I can speak frankly and directly, without games. That kind of rapport is rare, and I would rather wait for it than waste my time and energy on women to whom I would be poorly suited.