There is no greater pain than loving someone who doesn't feel the same

I've experienced quite a few bad things but this one hurt the worst somehow

>>81620316 (OP)
idk i would probably feel worse if my child and wife were to burn alive before my eyes but alright

>>81620321
Indeed. It's the hopelessness of it all. There is nothing to work towards, nowhere to go from here. Might as well die at that point.
But normalfags will say "dude just move on find someone else". They say this because they don't love, they just want someone to fuck and be around so that they feel less lonely. It is why they move on so easily: you are replaceable to them. Everyone is.
>>81620322
It's just a more gruesome way of losing the love you can never get back

>>81620316 (OP)
>Chases the same men that other women do award

>>81620316 (OP)
Them pretending to love you back the same, and then abandoning you just before your life together is about to begin. You get a taste of that happiness and it is cruelly yanked from you.

>>81620316 (OP)
I've been on the receiving end of this exact thing on two seperate occasions. One was a cute and embarassing childhood crush on probably the only tomboy at the school. We're still friends to this day, but I do wonder what might have happened if she took me seriously then.

The second time around I allowed myself to get my heart broken because I was such a desperate fucking fool. I was in one of those odd on-and-off sort of relationships with a friend who I loved so very deeply, and who against my better judgement I still love with all of my heart. I had no idea I was so disposable to her, because one day she stopped ending her texts with "I love you" only for me to find out a week later she's going out with a guy who not only shares my name, but seemed to be everything for her that I couldn't be.

I am not bitter, I am not lonely. I am just empty and painfully, PAINFULLY in love with somebody who it seems like never even cared. I'm hardly even into my adult life but it just seems like there's nothing left living for.

>>81620316 (OP)
No being bullied over a long period of time is worse

>>81620500
>I don't know a thing about you but I will get buttmad because you remind me of the women I hate in my life reeeeee
>>81620581
Or simply things not working out for whatever reason. If you have a reference point and if you still care about them it's excruciating.
>I had no idea I was so disposable to her, because one day she stopped ending her texts with "I love you" only for me to find out a week later she's going out with a guy who not only shares my name, but seemed to be everything for her that I couldn't be
Brutal. The worst part of modern dating is this disposability. No one sees you as human anymore. "There is plenty of fish in the sea".
>>81620625
It definitely isn't. Maybe try stepping up to your bullies, changing your behavior or simply moving to another place. It does suck but it's nowhere near comparable.

>>81620316 (OP)
i cannot put into words how pointless everything feels like when nothing you can do is ever going to be enough to be loved.

>>81620770
You literally just said that you weren't loved back. You wouldn't love a guy that other women didn't want, and even if you don't admit to it you'll rationalize it away in some other way
>>81620781
Well there's a lot of us out there. If you're female you're probably going to find it at some point but at the end of the day I think it's all down to how you view things
I don't believe anyone can truly love another person more than themselves, especially not in this day and age

>>81620770
>It definitely isn't
Permanent physical damage to your brain including a shrinked hippocampus, bigger amygdala, impaired development of the prefrontal cortex and reduced size of corpus callosum.
Non of them are fixable btw you gotta live with it until you die

>>81620781
Will you ever love yourself? You have to start there.
>>81620795
You don't talk like a real person. You talk like some caricature which your worldview actually is so it checks out.
You don't know anything about the situation except that I love someone who doesn't love me. You have no idea why and what happens between us. You don't even know if I'm a woman or not. Yet you feel the need to insert your dogmatic worldview into my thread. Don't you have anything better to do than seethe over this?
>Well there's a lot of us out there
See, that's the problem. This attitude. It's not a fucking numbers game. There is no reason to look at everyone as a potential partner. To talk to multiple love interests (whatever that means to you whores) at the same time, settling for the one that says yes. You have no soul.
>don't believe anyone can truly love another person more than themselves, especially not in this day and age
That's just you...and many other people like you. I would die right now if it would make my love happy. I put my friends countless time over me when they needed my help even if I was feeling horrible myself. That is what you do for people you care about.
>>81620817
Source? Are you saying that happens to anyone who was bullied or not? Because it doesn't. You do know people kill themselves over love all the time. You do know there are countless permanent psychological damages from it too? You do know how it can lead to abandonment issues and many other side effects that completely ruin your life and future?

>>81621038
Yeah you're right I was projecting and I'll admit it. Happy?
As for the bit at the end about you "dying for your friends" it's really easy to say this when you're behind a keyboard. You either have no sense of self preservation or you're talking out your ass and I'm willing to bet that it's the latter

>>81621060
I am happy. Honesty is always good. You shouldn't be very confident about your assumptions. I'm unhappy I forgot to attach my image because it was a cute one. Here you go.
>dying for your friends
Oh I didn't mean friends, that was just an example of putting others before me and not expecting something like sex for it. I meant dying for the one you love lol.

>>81620316 (OP)
I'm lucky this has never really happened to me. I had a few unrequited crushes but never actual love. Now I'm a volcel because people are scary and one-sided love is one of the most painful things that exist. I feel much safer and happier alone being my manchild self doing manchild things than peforming for someone else who doesn't care about me.

>>81621098
I get what you're getting at but men don't simply "expect sex". It's a normal thing that happens in a relationship and when your partner isn't willing to do these things with you, you just feel used for attention and support.
And if you HAD to die for a loved one, like sacrificing yourself so they could go on, that's a totally different story. I would do that for my wife or children any day.

>>81620316 (OP)
Being raped is way worse incels

>>81621121
>Being raped is way worse
Then why is it the most common female sexual fantasy? Genuinely asking.

>>81620795
>anyone can truly love another person more than themselves, especially not in this day and age
i dont agree, i think they can. i think i can. i do however, realize that nowdays a lot of people are more self centred than in the past. everyone is too scared to love and it shows.
>>81621038
>Will you ever love yourself?
i will only be able to love myself once someone proves to me im worthy of being loved at least once in my life.

>>81620770
>Or simply things not working out for whatever reason
The worst are non-reasons for this abandonment. Where you love them, and do so afterwards. They claimed to love you and then one day they just didn't want to try anymore. No alternate people, nothing logical, one day they were having a rough go at life and just checked out. You simply just were not worth the time or effort to care about anymore, they would rather not partake in anything than be around you. You just did not matter. Then they assume you will just move on to other people, and that there's no way you cared as much as you did. You try to push back, try to save it, save you love them. But it's useless, they just stopped caring. Disposed like trash, and for nothing. Like you said.

>>81621107
>I feel much safer and happier alone being my manchild self doing manchild things than peforming for someone else who doesn't care about me.
This is ideal and don't let anyone convince you otherwise
>>81621113
>when your partner isn't willing to do these things with you, you just feel used for attention and support
That is absolutely true. Even small things like compliments and such from them make you feel desired and loved and when there is a lack of that type of attention you feel lesser. Sometimes just the lack of emotional availability makes you think they hate you if you have low self esteem.
>I would do that for my wife or children any day
Exactly
>>81621121
Having your boundaries crossed in such a horrible way is traumatizing and bad but not worse. Because you can still have hope.
>>81621246
>i will only be able to love myself once someone proves to me im worthy of being loved at least once in my life
That's not how it works. People notice how you carry yourself. If you act confident and such they will treat you as if you are that. So if you carry yourself in a way lets others know you have self respect and self love they won't see you as a doormat to be discarded.

There are different types of love. Are you telling me you don't have friends that love you? That your family doesn't love you? Or are you just being dramatic and base it off of your own insecurities?
>>81621346
That's too blackpilling. I don't feel very well after reading that. Curse you anonymous :c

>>81621374
>That's too blackpilling. I don't feel very well after reading that. Curse you anonymous :c
I am sorry, but it is a true story... and recent.

>>81620316 (OP)
I dont know dude I feel like whenever I take a dump after eating chipotle I feel more pain than what you describe.

>>81621374
>If you act confident and such they will treat you as if you are that
>just be confident bro
you serious?
oh i might aswell just stop being sad then. why didnt i think of that! i should just fake everything and lie to everyone around me about how i feel and what kind of person i am. thats such a good idea!
>Are you telling me you don't have friends that love you?
i do, i have them. but it is not the kind of love i need. its not enough to prove to myself that i'll ever be able to be something more than just a friend to people.

>>81621382
Shit... How unfortunate. Hope you recover one day
>>81621438
Are you saying it doesn't work because that's wrong lol. I just told you how it works. No one likes a whiny bitch who can't stop talking about how much he hates himself all the time. Do you also sperg out if someone compliments you if you don't agree with what they say?
You shouldn't lie about yourself you should just be comfortable with who you are. There is a difference.
>but it is not the kind of love i need
I don't think anything would be enough for a loser like you. And that's because you will never believe it even if she spells it out for you. You are your own worst enemy and the one person you can't convince you're worth a damn.

>>81621630
>Are you saying it doesn't work
Yes.
>No one likes a whiny bitch
right, i should be more like the alpha males that never talk about their feelings and hold everything in until they eventually kill themselves when they cant take it anymore, because THATS how you impress people. by being so scared of their judgment that you dont allow yourself to be seen vulnerable. great advice!
>should just be comfortable with who you are
and yet so far the only thing you've told me is to change and act like someone who i am not.
>And that's because you will never believe it
i will, because i know that they'll be genuine considering they still chose to be with me despite me being "a whiny bitch".
also, the way i act online is not the way i act in real life, i dont go around crying about how shit my life is all the time, (obviously, but you seem daft so im explaining it to you) im usually the one listening to my friends crying about how shit their lives are. then, when im the one in need of emotional support ill be the one relying on them (thing that you cant do if you surround yourself with people that think you're a loser for talking about your feelings).

>>81622358
It probably works retard. When you change your attitude and approach to things you get different results.
>i should be more like the alpha males that never talk about their feelings and hold everything in until they eventually kill themselves when they cant take it anymore, because THATS how you impress people
No
>by being so scared of their judgment that you dont allow yourself to be seen vulnerable
Not at all. Just don't be self centered, ungrateful crybaby unable to take any advice like you are being here.
>and yet so far the only thing you've told me is to change and act like someone who i am not
I told you to be comfortable with who you are and accept it. Work on things you can change if you want, it doesn't mean you shouldn't improve. If you actually did that you wouldn't need validation from others to feel valuable.
>great advice!
You would know about good advice. Your advice is so profound usually you pathetic, attention starved goober.
>because i know that they'll be genuine considering they still chose to be with me despite me being "a whiny bitch"
That's true Actually.

>>81621038
>Source?
There are millions of studies about prolonged bullying just pick any
>Are you saying that happens to anyone who was bullied or not?
Not everyone, It happens to years and years of bullying during upringing (kids/teenagers)
>You do know people kill themselves over love all the time.
You're mostly just acting on impulse because of sudden depression, there is no permanent damage to the brain just worried about the future
>You do know there are countless permanent psychological damages from it too? You do know how it can lead to abandonment issues and many other side effects that completely ruin your life and future?
Psychological damages can be mitigated comparse to physical cerebrale damages

Basically we can agree i'm right on this one

can any anons help me out?
anyone else use Whatsapp?
>find out you can only view someones' status if they saved your number
>see this chick's status all the time
>she knows i like her
>occasionally man up and respond, she'd usually respond back within a day
>her response is almost always a sticker, no words or nothing
this has been going on for a couple months now, i feel like an idiot everytime
>finally get the hint, make stickers of my own and send them to her
>she responds immediately with another sticker
>we "chat" with nothing but stickers for almost an hour
>decide to break the ice and use words anyway
>she leaves me on read
that was last week
and i can still see her statuses so she didn't block me or anything

WHAT THE HELL HAVE I BECOME
I DONT WANT TO BE AN ORBITER
I DONT WANT TO BE THE 2ND CHOICE
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

>>81622592
>It probably works
so you're not even sure yourself?
>Just don't be self centered, ungrateful crybaby
...how am i being any of that? have you actually read any of my posts?
>unable to take any advice
the extent of your "advice" has literally only been "just be more confident" and "dont be a bitch" sprinkled with some insults here and there.
i do take real advice, in fact the very reason im here talking to you is because i've followed advice from friends. (probably should've just called you a faggot and left but oh well)
>You would know about good advice
I do, (unlike you) otherwise i doubt most of my friends would come to me when in need of it.
but of course, a random person on the internet knows more about me than anyone else.
you talk and reason like a normgroid, and most likely just follow whatever retarded bullshit someone said in the latest self-improvement video. whatever, waste of my time.