Thread 82254557

I can confidently say that I wish I was still a virgin. Getting into a long term relationship and then having it fall through is a lot worse than just being alone, and now I can't even say "at least I'm pure."

Virgins, don't be quick to throw it away. And don't get too attached to the first girl or guy you get with unless they are truly worth it. Try and look past your hormones and think clearly. Don't make the same mistakes I did.

At least you had a long term relationship, at least it was real for the time it lasted.

I have to deal with the fact I got emotionally attached to someone via text and that I never saw or heard them. And then they left me after they started on SSRIs

>>82254567
>at least it was real for the time it lasted.
You know, I thought it was. Looking back after a couple years I can see where it was doomed from the start. Neither of us understood the other, and I definitely got taken advantage of whether she realized what she was doing or not. I failed to understand that you can't make people change.

>got emotionally attached to someone via text and that I never saw or heard them
That's rough. I know how bad the loneliness can get but you can't let someone behind a screen do that to you.

Have you had long enough to start moving past it?

>>82254601
Shut the fuck up faggot no one cares

>>82254601
I've been trying to move on, but because it was my first ""relationship"", it makes it hard to move on since it was the first time I become vulnerable with someone else.

I also knew this arrangement was dead from the get go but I was curious to see where it would go but I was not ready for the fallout. And here I am, a khhv and an experience that's too pathetic to talk about

>>82255315
>here I am, a khhv and an experience that's too pathetic to talk about
Well, unfortunately it did matter to you. It's weird the things we end up caring about.

If you feel like venting you can bounce it off me.

>>82255751
It's all good. I'm still kind of lost at the moment. I don't think there's much you can do to avoid getting overly attached to the first person that shows you love. I suppose that's why so many people here want a virgin gf because they are the most likely to get attached regardless of how you look.

Really wanting to message her but I'm 90% sure she's moved on since she's had like 5+ heartbreaks in the past so this is probably common ground for her.

What about you OP?

>>82255898
>don't think there's much you can do to avoid getting overly attached to the first person
Indeed. First loves leave a hard mark, a lot of the time.

>Really wanting to message her
I wouldn't. If she cared she'd reach out, all you'll do is hirt yourself. Let it go, try to keep moving.

>What about you OP?
Asking if I need to vent or asking about what my old relationship looked like?

>>82256001
Thanks for the advice, I'll keep to myself. Though it's hard not to look her up from time to time.

Yeah I wanted to hear more what you have to say about your relationship. I suppose one advantage now is that your second relationship will be a bit more stable as your emotions die down

>>82256057
>hard not to look her up from time to time.
I know. But it's best to let things lie. It's a monster that ain't worth feeding.

>>82256057
>wanted to hear more what you have to say about your relationship
Something I let go on way longer than I should have. I knew out the gate that she had emotional problems. Convinced myself that if I could get her away from bad influences and circumstances that she'd get better, but she only seemed to get worse after we got married. We had a kid, and I joined the military to try and keep a roof over our heads.

Then of course the Russo-Ukraine war kicks off, I get a no-notice deployment, and a month in she sends me a text saying she wants a divorce and doesn't love me any more. Five years of my life and tens of thousands of dollars wasted on nothing.

It's not all bad though. I do love my son. Just wish I could have given him a better mother.

>second relationship will be a bit more stable
Nah, stable girls don't go for single dads. I'm probably gonna be alone for a long time, if not forever. But it's my bed so I have to lie in it.

>>82256148
One month into deployment, man that is brutal. No honor, no respect, she just divorces you as soon as she gets bored?
Do take good care of the kid, it's not his fault that he's in this situation. Probably sounds like virtue signalling, but I do hope you find better days.

>>82256278
>No honor, no respect
Yeah I was a little pissed. Found out she stole $6k from me too.

>not his fault that he's in this situation
I know. And I love the little dude. He keeps me getting out of bed in the morning. Couldn't wish bad on him if I tried.

>but I do hope you find better days.
I hope so too. And I hope you can move on from your old beau into something better

>>82256333
Man, you got it so much worse than me. I appreciate you hearing me out. To be honest, I'm not sure how I would handle being in your position, the 6k stolen just feels like salt in wound. Is there a reason she didn't take the kid?

>>82256401
>there a reason she didn't take the kid?
Two substantiated cases of neglect against her.

We ended up with 50/50, which is bullshit. I'm still shooting for full when she fucks up again.

>you got it so much worse than me
I've at least had time to make peace with mine. Yours is a lot fresher. Make sure you take care of yourself.

>>82256431
Courts are heavily favored for women, so she must've fucked up to get 50/50 split.

And thanks a lot fren, I'll try to keep my chin up. I refuse to let myself wither away for now.

>>82256503
>refuse to let myself wither away for now.
Remember, you will die eventually. No need to speed up the process. In the interim you should do your best to leave this world a better place.