Thread 82290858

How socially inept would you describe yourself as being?

>>82290858 (OP)
very greatly
t. wizard

>>82290858 (OP)
Extremely. Almost like a dumb character from a comedy. Cringe lord with an awkward level over 9000.

>>82290858 (OP)
Sometimes I talk to robots and think damn I'm good at social shit and then sometimes I talk to robots and I'm like oh I'm actually retarded huh. I can't tell if that's because most of you idiots can't hold a conversation to save your lives or if it's all my fault.

>>82290858 (OP)
>How socially inept would you describe yourself as being?
Literally symbolically dead and can't stop being identified with the void itself socially inept. Not even hueman, homunculi, overgrown fetus levels of over.

>>82290858 (OP)
I just have nothing to talk about with normal people. I can crack jokes, make a little bit of small talk, but it's always hollow and as soon as they start talking about real people I don't know because I don't socialize, I just have to sit there awkwardly as everyone else has a conversation

>>82290858 (OP)
The nonverbal way neurotypicals communicate literally looks like telepathy from my perspective.

>>82290858 (OP)
I'm borderline mute and sit in the corner while my coworkers all sit together. I don't share details about myself, usually don't know what to say. I don't take interest in other people, partly because of fear and partly because I find most people boring and whiny.

>>82290858 (OP)
I'd say I have a tendency to project an image of unapproachability (avoid eye contact, shift away from people, finish interactions as quickly as possible and say as little as possible) and dont really engage unless someone is enthusiastically engaging with me first. I've learned to fight this urge, make eye contact, smile, ask them how their day is going, read into little cues to see if they are interested in talking, etc. Its kind of exhausting but it gets easier the more you practice it.

Moderately. I have trouble starting conversations without coming off as a weirdo

>>82290858 (OP)
>How socially inept would you describe yourself as being?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XFkzRNyygfk&list=RDXFkzRNyygfk&start_radio=1

In a word? Run.

>>82290858 (OP)
very, i cant even make online friends

>>82291279
The fact that you even recognise nonverbal communication exists means you're not that terrible.

>>82290896
I can get along with some people and I think it really comes down to the other whether they have good social skills or not. A very social person can make anyone a lot more responsive. Sadly I don't possess that power

>>82291518
This is literally me at work. I think I long lost the ability to connect with them and I just sit with my headphones, trying to pretend as if seeing them laughing with each other doesn't hurt my feelings

>>82290858 (OP)
Enough to where it's a problem and it affects even things like job prospects.

>>82290858 (OP)
On a scale of 1 to 10 i'd say a light to decent 7

>>82291518
Based claude poster

I'm only capable of superficial friendships that stay like that forever or end abruptly. That's the extent of my social abilities.

im waiting for a provocation to let my rage let loose i day dream about it often. some faggot trying to mock me to impress some girl

>>82290858 (OP)
Dark comedy-tier
Good thing I like being alone otherwise I would've blown my brains out a long time ago

>>82290858 (OP)
When I talk to normies I'm quite normal. They basically do all the work for you. You can just follow the same script everytime about sports or whatever.

When I talk to my fellow autists I turn into a complete sperg. There's no pattern or rhythm to follow so I always fall back into awkward silences.

>>82290858 (OP)
khhv, zero friends and connections in my late 20s, but that's probably par for the course for most or at least half the posters here

>>82290858 (OP)
i am a literal baby locked inside an adult body

c:

I'm weird as fuck and diagnosed autistic but no longer anxious, now I'm just "eccentric" instead of creepy. Being /fit/ and lean helps thanks to halo effect. Pretty easy to get an alt gf if you fit this description, if you know where to look, but impossible to make friends.

>>82290858 (OP)
i am so helplessly alone

>>82290858 (OP)
im awkward but also low inhib so people like to target me i just let people to their own activities and ignore them these days

>>82290858 (OP)
pretty bad. its frustrating because im forced to work customer facing jobs because i zero skills, and every where i work at everyone apparently loves me and im the go-to guy to diffuse hostile situations, so apparently im atleast okay at it, but it sure doesnt fucking feel like it.

23 khhv and haven't gotten a real job yet

>>82290858 (OP)
im midly autistic and bipolar so most days im pretty easy to talk to but if you catch me on a bad day ill go nonverbal
if you say something stupid ill make a very visible face as you to let you know im not impressed
im one of those "too brutally honest" people with no filter so ill offend people and not give a shit

>>82293088
youve got time. get worried at 25, but its coming at you fast dude

I'm pretty good at socializing with people. Idk what it is about me or, perhaps it's my face, but people feel comfortable telling me things they probably shouldn't.

Now, the problem is that I don't really care. Like, at all. I try to, but I feel like I'm just a robot who learned how to act out emotions so people like me and I can fit in. I don't think I'm a sociopath or anything extreme like that. I just have an impossible time having a REAL connection with people. It might seem real to them, but to me if they died the next day I'd probably be a bit surprised and move on.

I'm also a veteran who did go through some shit while enlisted so I often wonder if this is a form of coping, by just disassociating around people. It's a pretty lonely existence.

>>82290858 (OP)
I'm in a weird place with this one. If I just "be myself" I'm shockingly offputting, like fired from my job and the cops are called. At the same time, in practice, people like me and I do well with women etc because I'm really good at faking it. It's a lot of work to do so though so I don't socialize recreationally at all, other than to fuck of course, but that's more like work in that I am getting paid in ass to spend time with someone. My social skills would be better if I interacted with people more but they're pretty serviceable, I tend to automatically take a 'leader' role in most situations and can defuse conflicts etc. So it's tough to say, exactly.

>>82290858 (OP)
>How socially inept would you describe yourself as being?
A lot. I don't speak unless spoken to, and very few people want to speak to me.
Even the few women who have made eyes at me never spoke to me and always had company. FML.
Being around people is hell, so I prefer to be a NEET hermit. I just wish I could have sex though.

>>82290858 (OP)
I feel like I don't do anything socially that isn't absolutely required of me.

>>82291518
yo ur're gonna get fired bro just a heads up

i can socialize and charm, but it drains me and i have to lie my ass off about what i find interesting.

>>82290858 (OP)
That photo doesn't do much to scare me but it's interesting how I can feel the ancestral fear.

I've got the stupid combo of apparently being physically attractive but I'm very socially retarded. I know how to fake interactions just long enough but I eventually shut down.

I'm a robot to the core, moreso like a giant male cat

>>82290858 (OP)
I'm not socially inept at all. I just prefer to be alone.

sometimes I think i am but then I read normies' screenshots and hear them talking in public and remember that it's 99% just that I look weird and simply don't want most people's conversations lmao

>>82290858 (OP)
Horrendous. I give off the vibe where people who are around me feel the need to bully me so I immediately get ostracized and left alone to rot. Fucking sucks man.

>>82290858 (OP)
I worked in the same department for 4 years and only learned two people's names. Sometimes I would go through entire shifts without saying anything

>>82293199
I have a (nice, but unfortunate) babyface and am a manlet. Foids (especially dykes/pooners) love me so much, and multiple women I've had as friends have ended up coming out as lesbians. It's super funny. I think the one exception was a really quiet alt girl in my major who clearly was super uncomfortable with every guy she was around.
Straight women are like a 50/50 either they ick tf out and gossip about me or they're super chill and think I'm cool to hang out. Stoner foids especially, though they're more rare. I can also run with go-getter type A straight foids.
But guys cannot get a read on me at all. For some reason I can't make friends with men at all. I had a close friend group in high school (all of whom are successful and very social normies now, jsyk) but by the time I hit college the social dynamics of men changed and now none of them want shit to do with me. Except the stoners, of course.

>>82297406
responded to wrong poast whoops but to that anon yeah tbdesu I think a lot more people are like this than let on (or even recognize, for that matter). a lot of people are just checked the fuck out and go through the motions. if you find someone like that, it may be helpful to try and make the effort to connect -- at least you'll have that much in common.

>>82293088
Don't worry anon. I am 36 and have only worked one job in my life for a few years. Its over for us all but some of us more so than others.

>>82290858 (OP)
Is this a real animal? Why does it look so horrifying?

>>82290858 (OP)
Not tomoko kuroki level like I used to be, In fact, I don't really have social anxiety, but I am inept at my native language, and as a result, I'm inept at socializing.

>>82297702
>finally on 4chan long enough to meet zoomers who've never heard of smile.jpg

>>82297752
I'm a zoomer (20) and I heard of smile dog so he must be underage as fuck, or has just turned 18

>>82291668
What do you do for work that you can just sit with headphones and not communicate?

>trying to pretend as if seeing them laughing with each other doesn't hurt my feeling
Are they laughing at you?

>>82290858 (OP)
socially awkward but okay

>>82290858 (OP)
All people talk about is gossip and sex. Specially sex. Everything is sex, every conversation, every joke, the motivation for anything. Sooner or later the other person will want to say nasty shit about someone, their exes, family, neighbours, coworkers or just throw a middle school tier joke >le-dick-is-le-big-lol and expect me to agree or laugh with them. Men seem to be worse, but women really just try to maintain the appearance of decency for a little longer, depending on how educated they are.
having no interest in shit talking about others, no interest in sharing things that should be kept private and having long abandoned the sense of humor of a 12years old, I guess I can say I am absolutely socially inept and can no longer bond with others.

>>82290909
Same for me
I can do small talk, people actually consider me pleasant charming. However I'm boring as shit and don't know how to pretend to react to more serious situations or formalities.

If I were to be thrust into a new social group today they'd be very interested in me for about a week and then they'd start to forget I exist.

>>82290858 (OP)
a solid 9/10. brief interactions can normally be completed successfully, but if conversation goes beyond a few lines then brain death occurs and 'mhm', 'yep', 'huh' is all i can contribute

>>82290858 (OP)
My brain has deteriorated the last two years from near-constant social isolation, I got forced into the NEET life and I'm surrounded by enablers that resist every effort I make to pull myself out of it because they want me to stay with them for some reason. When I was around other people, I could tell that I came across as upright and robotic because I had to keep a distant and aloof connection with everyone to avoid saying retarded shit. I used to be much more eager to share knowledge of things I was passionate about as a kid but as I got older I became aware of how bored and disinterested people would get whenever I would start talking about it so I ended up repressing that side of myself to the point that it feels strained and awkward to do now. I have a bad habit of oversharing and saying retarded shit that I feel ashamed of later when I get too comfortable around people. Part of me feels as if I could've had much better odds if I was confident instead since I wasn't that bad at reading the room otherwise.

>>82290858 (OP)
>How socially inept would you describe yourself as being?
I don't know

I am so socially inept that even anons here hate me and will repeat my posts to mock me until it becomes a meme that gets out of hand

>>82290898
How does the interaction that ends up with you being identified as a void often go? Does it happen often?

>>82298979
>I got forced into the NEET life and I'm surrounded by enablers that resist every effort I make to pull myself out of it because they want me to stay with them for some reason
I'm jelly
I was somewhat the same when it comes to oversharing and getting too comfortable with others. I thought that was what friends were for.

>>82298699
I feel the exact same sentiment, I mostly just repeat phrases nowadays to avoid any actual conversation and just do my work and leave now. I used to think there was more to most conversations but realized this is pretty much the gist of all of them, that or if you have a slightly different political view then you are the devil so its pointless in both aspects.

>>82290858 (OP)
I don't know what to say in a social situation and I'm too burnt out from bad experiences at my old retail job to take any chances. If my siblings are around I have an easier time speaking up but I still feel weird.

>>82290858 (OP)
>>82290858 (OP)
I could play along to some extant but don't take initiative and eventually most people realize I'm autistic after a while and I start to get bullied

>>82290858 (OP)
Enough that people can often immediately tell that I'm "off" but not so much that I horribly embarrass myself all the time. I won't show up to a wedding wearing shorts.