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7/18/2025, 11:09:28 PM
Ok, so I have lifted for a couple of years. Found great success, results, and it has become a recurring habit out of enjoyment. Going to the gym and getting stronger, more fit, is not a chore, but an activity I always look forward to.
How do I achieve the same enjoyment and success in other areas of life? Financial, social, etc.
Financially I don't need much besides the necessary for comfortable living, yet I am afraid of growing old and not having a house of my own or missing out on having a family and ending up alone. I could make more money to start a family, but, I don't even have a good woman to be with in the first place.
Socially, I am and have always been pretty introverted so I don't even know what to work here. Most of my childhood and college friends have gone abroad or to other places, so I only talk to them by text and I don't really fit in with the average normie, who is obsessed with status or banal shit.
I wish everything in life could be like the gym. That is, put in effort, get results. A simple, linear relationship with no bullshit, no mind games, no favors required.
How do I achieve the same enjoyment and success in other areas of life? Financial, social, etc.
Financially I don't need much besides the necessary for comfortable living, yet I am afraid of growing old and not having a house of my own or missing out on having a family and ending up alone. I could make more money to start a family, but, I don't even have a good woman to be with in the first place.
Socially, I am and have always been pretty introverted so I don't even know what to work here. Most of my childhood and college friends have gone abroad or to other places, so I only talk to them by text and I don't really fit in with the average normie, who is obsessed with status or banal shit.
I wish everything in life could be like the gym. That is, put in effort, get results. A simple, linear relationship with no bullshit, no mind games, no favors required.
6/26/2025, 8:19:12 PM
>>81624209
>wonder
i wonder at life :D
i see the beauty in all things - a lot of folks tell me i might be faceblind but i genuinely believe there's someone for everyone!
>>81624216
it just clicked that i'm probably acting like michael jackson here...
guys' issues was that he never really got to experience childhood no? thats why he had those kids over to come play at his house
i feel like i'm doing the same thing with these girls...
>wonder
i wonder at life :D
i see the beauty in all things - a lot of folks tell me i might be faceblind but i genuinely believe there's someone for everyone!
>>81624216
it just clicked that i'm probably acting like michael jackson here...
guys' issues was that he never really got to experience childhood no? thats why he had those kids over to come play at his house
i feel like i'm doing the same thing with these girls...
6/26/2025, 3:06:27 PM
>>81621304
>the fucked up thing about "healing" this shit is that you have to cross over to the extreme - narcissism, grade A genuine asshole
I honestly feel that every proper adult I meet has crossed this invisible boundary while on their way to adulthood. Like perhaps not into actual narcissism but there appears to be a level of self-serving self-interest that is required to survive as an adult.
When I look at function adults with relationships, families and friends, they are able to easily prioritise who and what is relevant to them and theirs. Anyone who isn't relevant to this personal bubble of theirs may as well not exist. Which is to say, functional adults don't care about the opinions of everyone, only those who matter to them.
I am stuck in the adolescent, or even earlier, mindset of wanting to be liked by everyone. This is what drives any displays of 'selfnessness' on my end. It's performative and leads nowhere. As you say I would be better off openly acting in self-interest and investing efforts in targeted ways but instead I am desperate for the approval of any and all strangers.
>the fucked up thing about "healing" this shit is that you have to cross over to the extreme - narcissism, grade A genuine asshole
I honestly feel that every proper adult I meet has crossed this invisible boundary while on their way to adulthood. Like perhaps not into actual narcissism but there appears to be a level of self-serving self-interest that is required to survive as an adult.
When I look at function adults with relationships, families and friends, they are able to easily prioritise who and what is relevant to them and theirs. Anyone who isn't relevant to this personal bubble of theirs may as well not exist. Which is to say, functional adults don't care about the opinions of everyone, only those who matter to them.
I am stuck in the adolescent, or even earlier, mindset of wanting to be liked by everyone. This is what drives any displays of 'selfnessness' on my end. It's performative and leads nowhere. As you say I would be better off openly acting in self-interest and investing efforts in targeted ways but instead I am desperate for the approval of any and all strangers.
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