I met a 36 year old woman from facebook dating(I'm 33). As a date we took a hike in a park, I fingered her and we made out. We talked about BDSM stuff, she said she hasn't been in a relationship for 4 years as no men measure up(in retrospect an obvious sign the relationship was doomed to go nowhere).

While we were doing sexual stuff said she didn't want to have sex as she was raised christian and I just met her but later during the walk she said she went to BDSM clubs(lol).

Anyway after the date was over she told me she wanted to think about if she wanted to date or not and today she messaged me saying she wasn't interested in pursing a relationship further.

I'm completely dumbfounded by the whole experience since in pretty much every way it would have made sense for her to try dating me(similar kinks, both professionals though I make more money, similar life goals). I'm also 100% certain I could have fucked her in the park had I pushed for it a little more but I didn't go into it thinking I would do sexual stuff.

On a practical level at 36 she was starting to show her age and while she had a decent body, she's probably not a huge loss in the context of a longterm partner but I'm still bothered not being able to get a repeat date.

Are women not likely to date a guy they do sexual stuff with on the first date again? I honestly have no idea what I'm doing wrong, it feels like all the women are fucking crazy.

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i will use the subject field hereafter

How do you continue to believe in love?

I'm not a cel but I was a late virgin loser, I now date fairly regularly and basically, dating is 100% performative at this point. I straight up assume none of the women I date will last long term beyond me being the best option they have at the time. I'm kind of OK with that as long as I don't become financially entangled with them but I want to create a family legacy which is a problem. I don't even care if the chick I get pregnant likes me, I care if she will fulfill her obligation to the family unit.