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This thread is about to die so I'm gonna post my psychoanalytic take on the indecisive no-langers.
The problem is not that they are attracted to multiple languages - everyone is, but you still have to start somewhere. The problem with no-langers is that they don't want to do the work, it seems hard and takes forever, but there is this fantasy that if they find a good enough "reason", it will finally move them to do the work, it will awaken some magical motivation and work ethic that they previously lacked, they want a promise that if they're going to deal with all this drudgery that it's going to pay off big time, a 10/10 wife, 300k starting position where you do nothing, natives sucking your dick for saying "hello" etc. Of course, this is totally unrealistic and even if you promised them a million dollars, I doubt they would be able to do it because external motivation can only get you so far.
The trick to this hobby is to just pick any language that seems interesting and just start, push through the initial stage for a couple months and make some actual, tangible, non-trivial amount of progress that gives you a sense of achievement and makes you feel good. After you get that first dopamine hit of "holy shit this works and i'm moving forward", this experiential knowledge is what keeps you motivated to do it for years, you attain intrinsic motivation and you start enjoying the activity for its own sake and any external rewards are just extra. But no-langers are permanently stuck in the pre-beginner stage and they never get a taste of that, so naturally they switch languages, bargain with themselves, flip over every rock in search of an amazing award that's going to make all the boring grunt work worth it. spoiler: The amazing reward was inside you all along, you just never stuck to it for long enough to experience it.
