>>76503243
I mean, she’s right, just for the wrong reasons. She accepts her muted desire as maturity and an inevitable progression of life, which does happen to people but doesn’t NEED to happen at twenty fucking seven. There is a lot more to life than sex, but passion is something worth cultivating and pursuing especially while you’re young and it doesn’t need to just “happen” to you. She could definitely stand to try to impress you a little more, have fun, get blood pumping and feel alive. I’d wager she doesn’t work out and works a sterile job, right?
Look, I know I can’t convince her through you, and I haven’t written enough on it to be convincing regardless, but based on how she sounds she really pushes this idea that she’s more experienced, knows what she’s doing, and is actively taking charge in the relationship. So long as you give her that, some words or vibes that say “ok you know best,” she’s gonna keep doing what she’s doing and you’ll be acting like you’re both 40 before you even hit 30. Hard as it is, build up some confidence man. Do spontaneous shit, push her out of her comfort zone IN FUN AND PLAYFUL WAYS don’t sperg out and demand that she embarrass herself or watch you do the same. Again, it’s hard, just start walking the walk and start stating your world view once she starts commenting on the change in behavior; life is best enjoyed, and you want to feel strongly about things that matter. Remind her of the value of excitement.
Also car sex and non-holiday house parties are kinda much for 29, you don’t want to go too far and give off “making up for lost time” vibes. Just do concerts while you still can. As for her generally being a sack of potatoes in the bedroom this is unfortunately criminally common and there’s a good chance there’s no fixing this if she’s already rationalized a low libido and vanilla approach as a positive personality trait.
