It does not matter if you are high on meth freaking out and smell like you came from a sewage plant, but if you maintain a calm demeanor, you will do a hell of a lot better than someone who isn't. Your calm demeanor will help you through everything. When you are telling bad jokes, when your flirting is off, when you embarass yourself, a calm demeanor will help you out.

I have a backstory for you all that'll help you out it is about a water bottle (anon's probably looking at this thinking "What the fuck is Zach talking about?" DUDE READ IT).

Anyway you notice of how on the streets there are opened water bottles half opened, dirty, and squahed? You notice that those bottles and the ones empty get passed over by people. People naturally think those water bottles are going to give them diseases. Now when you put an unopened water bottle on a park bench that is sealed. Guess what happens after a hour you are gone? It disappears and is drank. What does this have to do with anything?

*People are more likely to take a chance on things if from what they observe appears safe* (anon here still thinking what the fuck?)

Look at it like this what made the half empty water bottle that was dirty not drank compared to the sealed one?

The appearance. The water bottle that looked safe to drink was approachable.

So like that (anon please get to this part), if you appear safe to be around with people will eventually feel drawn to you.

Presentation does mean a lot to people, so make sure you present yourself well to others, because that is how people feel safe approaching people they don't know.

Let me tell you all something, it is far easier to approach women, and even people, who are openly friendly than closed off. Never approach someone who after dealing with a ton of trauma starts getting paranoid about you from your friendliness. Like we all can come off as sketchy at times and it is good to look out for it, but someone who over does it and is being paranoid, just avoid them.

Appearance is not everything.

Never be around people who no matter what they refuse to see the good in you, especially when you put blood, sweat, and tears into it.