>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!

>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
https://fantasticanachronism.com/2025/03/20/how-to-be-good-at-dating/
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)

REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.

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No sex since I was 17
I am now 27
What do (currently in university)
How do I stop or get rid of incel thoughts

>>33259193
>had sex
You're no incel

>>33259172 (OP)
Isn't it counterintuitive to read books on how to get women? Isn't it better to just jump straight to the "get women" part?(which is a reductive way to say "get in proper social contexts that allows a variety of interactions with different people including women").
t. Zero friends let alone girlfriends

Most unhinged profile I've ever seen on a dating app
>Don't contact me if you:
>Play video games more than once a week
>If you to to the gym more than twice a week
>If you eat that protein garbage all the time and can't even go to mcdonalds or burger king
>If you can't see me every single day
>If you have a hobby or if you're part of a club that forces you to be away for more than 2 days a week
>If you're not ready to learn a new language for me
>If you think that you need alone time in a relationship
>If you have a problem with me keeping gifts from exes
>If your friends are still more important to you than me after a few months of dating
>If you aren't ready to move to the same place as me
>If you need time away from me and don't want to see me all the time
Is this what women expect in 2025? A nigga can't even fucking work out?

>>33259251
Why are you taking a single very specific example and thinking it applies to all women? Thinking in absolutes is mostly self sabotaging

>>33259227
no because you actually have to learn how to talk and flirt. you can be around women and interacting with them and still be flailing for years not getting any better

>>33259275
>interacting with them and still be flailing for years not getting any better
Through ignorant speculation I would say the same applies for those who've read books on the subject matter, since knowing the theory doesn't always results in success when putting it to practice. Anyway, aren't we all inherently programed to learn social skills (including attracting partners) through exposure, trying and falling btw

Avoid women who only see the negative in you. Especially if you honestly intend to be kind with what you were doing. People who constantly only find bullshit with things tend to be assholes, especially when they are undiplomatic and unforgiving.

>>33259251
You wouldn't want this one, trust me
I'm fine with the stuff she posts there, because that's a dealbreaker, next

>>33259299
you are correct that theory is only half of it and you do have to learn yourself what works for someone with your own type, height, demographic, etc. through interaction

that being said, it is possible to start from such a misguided place you don't even know how to practice right

i grew up autistic and with my grandparents who had no real advice relevant to finding a lover in this generation. my grandfather literally only got my grandma through living in a small town and being persistent for years. i wasted all of high school and college just totally misaligned even though i went after several different women with different approaches because the only way i could conceive of anything was "keep showing up, wear her down, kill her with kindness"

a book is never gonna be a step by step script on how to succeed but it can be the case you do need something to tell you to snap out of what you're doing that you wouldn't be able to figure out in person

>>33259193
Guys help me, it's been bothering me more and more in the recent years
I regularly meet women in my university, but for some reason I can't get close to them emotionally... Part of the reason is that my courses are stressing me a lot and I can't be playful and all this stuff you need to make a positive impression with women
I'm also depressed and fatigued sometimes

Let me tell you all something, it is far easier to approach women, and even people, who are openly friendly than closed off. Never approach someone who after dealing with a ton of trauma starts getting paranoid about you from your friendliness. Like we all can come off as sketchy at times and it is good to look out for it, but someone who over does it and is being paranoid, just avoid them.

>>33259193
>>33259401
Don't see how we can help you, sounds like you know what the issue is. Find a way to chill and blow off some steam and compartmentalize all that stress? Maybe start dosing some THC at night, whether by smoking weed or edibles? I don't know.

Alright, apparently my advice has gotten a bit too critical of others, so I'm going to tone it down a bit.

To summarize what I was trying to say. It is better to approach people who are open-minded than to approach people who close off. Reason as to why it is, is that they may be going through a rough time and doesn't want to add more stress to what is already going on with their life.

>>33259527
I already do use a vaporizer with CBD and little bit of thc in the evening
I'm scared of getting addicted to it, though